Do you assume the worst? Or believe the best? In every single relationship, there is a gap. What you put into that gap will eventually determine the direction of your relationship. We come into our relationships with baggage, and often our expectations are built based on that junk we carry.

Everything you do in relationship flows from your heart. And no amount of love, commitment and romance that comes from your heart could compensate for the darkness that comes out, too. It’s in all of us, so how do we guard our heart from the temptation to lie, slander, gossip and hurt others?

Love is a verb. To fall in love, you have to have a pulse. To stay in love, you have to have a plan. It's so easy to fall in love, but it's very hard to stay in love. In a relationship, you have to make a choice: you have to choose to count the other more significant than yourself. What would the world look like if we lived this way?

Dr. David Whitaker and his wife, Lanette, of more than 30 years partners with Dr. Jeff Holmes and his wife, Marci, of more than 20 years answer questions on marriage and relationship.

Dr. David Whitaker and his wife, Lanette, of more than 30 years partners with Dr. Jeff Holmes and his wife, Marci, of more than 20 years answer questions on marriage and relationship.

Love is a verb. To fall in love, you have to have a pulse. To stay in love, you have to have a plan. It's so easy to fall in love, but it's very hard to stay in love. In a relationship, you have to make a choice: you have to choose to count the other more significant than yourself. What would the world look like if we lived this way?

Everything you do in relationship flows from your heart. And no amount of love, commitment and romance that comes from your heart could compensate for the darkness that comes out, too. It’s in all of us, so how do we guard our heart from the temptation to lie, slander, gossip and hurt others?

Do you assume the worst? Or believe the best? In every single relationship, there is a gap. What you put into that gap will eventually determine the direction of your relationship. We come into our relationships with baggage, and often our expectations are built based on that junk we carry.

Have you grasped the fullness of God's love? We often reduce the event of Christ's life to just an idea or a concept, but the reality is that it was an actual event for which we ought to be grateful. God tells us how to express our gratitude of what was done on the cross: think like God. The Holy Spirit enfolds us and helps form our thinking so that our thoughts follow Jesus'.

How do we live humbly? Live like you're saved. When we realized we had salvation in Christ, we became co-heirs with Christ. Why, then, do we have fear and anxiety when we know the One who created everything is in control? When we have worked out and actually realized that God is in ultimate control, we naturally live in humility. There's nothing for which we can take the glory. Worship is worth it.