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This episode is all about why we are so emotionally invested into our clutter, and how we can break free from it.

-our childhood wounds are being relived, whatever those are and it can be the OPPOSITE of your childhood wounds

-avoiding your home because it's too overwhelming to be there. So we find other things to do, places to go, things to have. 

-buying things because it was a good deal and we had FOMO, scarcity based mindset and feeling like we will be deprived or not have enough

-we become victims of expert marketers telling us well be a good mom, our kids will be happier/smarter/more well rounded

-we want to keep up with trends and the joneses. To feel accepted/included.

So how do we move past it?

-the most effective thing, dive into your decluttering with a critical mind. If we declutter only from emotion that's when we regret it, or get rid of the wrong things. 

You can start small, and you can start simple. Sometimes we think we have to go from where we are now to the extreme opposite that we probably don’t even want. You have time/ there are so many steps between where you’re at now, and white walls one spoon and 2 outfits AND

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-start to let the layers of stuff go. See the relief you feel, and how safe it really is to declutter. 

-take a step back and ask critically "why is it hard for me to let this go", "realistically what will happen if I let this go" what is the WORST case scenario. 

-create voids in your home and life so that you can fill it up with something better. We fear white space not realizing those are the spaces for the things we DO want to have grow. 

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3:40 - the list of reasons that we might be feeling emotionally invested into our clutter and therefore it makes it difficult to declutter 

16:23 - how do we move past the clutter 

20:27 - new/free challenge Release your clutter like a powerful mother challenge - May 3rd-10th inside the facebook group 

23:24 - its not as bad as you think 

24:42 - Whats the worst that could happen? 

26:09 - join us in the facebook group for the release your clutter like a powerful mother. https://www.facebook.com/groups/2010014145929427/?ref=share

28:14 - share this podcast with your friends

Today, we’re talking about something near and dear to my heart: how to be kinder to yourself. Moms, we need to give ourselves grace. We juggle so much—kids, work, housework, and everything in between—and yet we often forget to show ourselves kindness. If you’ve been struggling with negative self-talk, guilt, or simply feeling overwhelmed, this episode is for you. Let’s dive in!

Decluttering your home is a huge step toward simplifying your life, but it’s not the only step. The real transformation happens when you learn to be kinder to yourself. Recognize that you’re doing your best, and that’s enough. Give yourself grace, take breaks, and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. You deserve kindness—from yourself, most of all.

If you're ready to declutter your home and make space for more kindness in your life, check out my Decluttering Simplified course. It’s designed specifically for busy moms who want practical, step-by-step help to create a clutter-free, simplified home. Get started today at Decluttering Simplified. Let’s make your home a place where you can finally feel at peace.

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This the ACTUAL end result of decluttering, spoiler alert. It isn't just a clean house.

It's the ability to actually see your life for what it is, and what is/is not working. 

It's basically standing there as a naked and exposed version of yourself. I don't lead with this because honestly, it's not the sexy microwaveable answer people want.

There is a lot of truth in how your internal world mirrors your external world. 

Whether its falsely curated, or a total mess or something in between. 

Ways it does not make you happy

1. It doesn’t erase your past experiences and traumas 

2. It doesn’t change your belief systems about yourself and your life 

3. It doesn’t nurture relationships 

Ways Decluttering makes you happy:

1. It gives you relief 

2. It makes your days easier 

3. It gives you a sense of accomplishment and pride in your home 

4. It gives you time and energy for relationships 

5. It eliminates a lot of the things that lead us to perpetually judge and shame ourselves

6. It breathes life into us 

It's stepping into a new normal. One where you have space, energy and clarity. Boundaries. Tolerance for only what serves you 

It's being able to see the ROOT issues of your life and then address them. 

After you've decluttered is when the real work begins. Not to say decluttering isn't work, its about establishing boundaries to protect what you do want. The example of me absolutely freaking out over something I had put boundaries up and then fetl like they were being violated and I absolutely was sent into a tail sping because I didn't want to go back to my old way of being.

In the same way we freak out when we've decluttered and family/friends go over board with gifts and hand me downs. You will get to a new normal where you aren't freaked out by being derailed any more. 

So yes, we talk about decluttering and all the work that goes into it but we can't expect it to make us happy. Happiness isn't an end result or something that just comes once we've gotten rid of enough stuff. It happens when we decide to intentionally and always only keep things that align with our happiness. 

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4:10 - Krista's real life story - from 2 house full of stuff to 1 suitcase per person 

5:53 - learning to sit with yourself 

6:42 - declutting takes your from bogged down to freedom and brings clarity and space. 

7:15 - declutting gives you space in more places than just your physical space. 

9:05 - 2 reasons why you still feel dissatisfied after declutter 

11:27 - 3 ways that decluttering doesn't make you happy. 

13:50 - 6 ways that declutter does make you happy 

17:57: - podcast link for clutter shame spiral 

23:20 - come join the fb group ( https://www.facebook.com/groups/2010014145929427/ )

24:58 - you have to put some effort in 

25:27 - one week challenge in the motherhood simplified facebook group in May called "Release your clutter like a powerful mother." 

26:47 - leave a positive review on iTunes. Leave a review and before you submit it take a screenshot of what you wrote and then hit submit on your review and then head over to your email and email that screenshot to [email protected] and let me know that you left a positive review. I will send you an hour long video of decluttering tutorials of spaces that I have a helped other moms declutter.

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Do you ever feel like no matter how much you declutter, it never seems to make a dent?

Here's why - it's could be one, two or a combination of these things. Or maybe none apply. 

1. You have a skewed experience of accumulating versus decluttering. You have been accumulating in the form of shopping, holidays, birthdays, hand me downs, thrift stores, Amazon for YEARS. Maybe even decades. 

If you're like me you never really knew that intentionally letting stuff go was a part of managing a home. Logistically it makes sense but it's just not always something we think about. 

It takes time to recalibrate this.

2. You don't realize how much you are still consuming so when you do declutter, it's almost immediately RE-cluttered. THink about when you go shopping or get things delivered and how much is coming in versus how much you actively let go. 

It's similar to the first point above, but a more immediate and daily experience of what you accumulate versus what you declutter

3. You haven't reached your personal clutter threshold yet. We all have one, some are bigger, some are smaller. It also changes based on the season of life we are in. But if you've decluttered a lot and have not RE-cluttered, this is likely where you are getting hung up. 

4. You haven't put the finishing touches on your decluttering yet. I'm talking about organization. Yes, it's an essentail piece of the decluttering puzzle but it's the LAST piece. Most of us try to lead with this. However, if you have decluttered enough and really don't think there is anything left you might just need to create systems and a flow around the stuff you have left. The way you know have reached this point is by having all of the stuff you own comfortably fit in the spaces you have. I'll give you an example with the toys. 

Notes:

1:55 - Krista starts off with a question 

2:36 - 1st reason you feel that way 

5:57 - 2nd reason 

6:35 - revolving door of clutter 

8:55 - 3rd and final reason 

9:27 - talking about thresholds 

13:23 - personal toy story 

18:27 - letting your house breathe 

18:50 - join us in Motherhood Simplified (the group) https://www.facebook.com/groups/2010014145929427/

On Instagram https://instagram.com/motherhood_simplified?igshid=d6nkja64ingw 

18:59 - I have a gift for you if you listen on itunes and leave a positive review. Leave a review and before you submit it take a screenshot of what you wrote and then hit submit on your review and then head over to your email and email that screenshot to [email protected] and let me know that you left a positive review. I will send you an hour long video of decluttering tutorials of spaces that I have a helped other moms declutter.

20:00 - new bonus toys in cyc live https://motherhoodsimplified.thinkific.com/courses/clear-your-clutter-live

Podcast transcript

Jocelynn is a mother of 5, and a teacher who specializes in showing how teachers can create a culturally responsive classroom. She also homeschools and helps apply these same principles to the home. 

Jocelynn is a wealth of information, compassion, empathy and support for both parents and teachers. And of course her students. 

This episode with Jocelynn was such an honor. I was able to reflect on my past teaching experience, share what I wish I had known and differently and was able to get clarity around how I want to both educate and nurture my children on what society deems taboo, or generally uncomfortable conversations. 

I hope you enjoy this episode with Jocelynn and of course go follow and learn more from her!

You can follow her on instagram here https://instagram.com/iteachcustoms

And get access to her blogs and ALL of her book recommendations for all ages at https://customteachingsolutions.com

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In this episode we discuss the the three 3 things that lead to overstimulation in motherhood. Our children, our clutter and every day tension and stress. 

I give you strategies for deciding which of these things you can reduce or declutter.

Spoiler alert: you can't declutter your kids so the clutter has to go. 

Motherhood itself is overstimulating. It only feels worse when we are also constantly overstimulated by the stuff in our home. 

At the end of the day we are just humans with nervous systems only capable of processing so much stimulus. 

If you struggle with feeling snappy, wanting to hide in a dark room and run away from your home, this episode is for you, and you're not alone. 

1:09 - what is sensory overload 

4:39 - the 3 major things that cause sensory overload in motherhood specifically 

5:10 - 1. our children 

5:54 - 2. our clutter 

7:16 - 3. Everyday tension and stress 

8:28 - thresholds of what we can manage 

10:00 - the easiest one to get rid of and why it's life-changing 

13:18 - something has to give 

14:15 - I have a gift for you if you listen on iTunes and leave a positive review. Leave a 5-star review and before you submit it take a screenshot of what you wrote and then hit submit on your review and then head over to your email and email that screenshot to [email protected] and let me know that you left a positive review. I will send you an hour long video of decluttering tutorials of spaces that I have a helped other moms declutter.

The full transcription

Get into Decluttering Simplified and get all the support and tools you need to declutter your home!

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This episode is for the moms who think the solution to their clutter is a different house. I have a secret! 

Wherever you go, your clutter will follow. So yes, sometimes we really do need a bigger or different space. But if that decision is made based on the clutter you have then this episode is for you! 

2:36 - Krista shares a story about a real life friend, Danielle Grigg, and her breakthrough. 

4:18 - a story about a family with five children and their breakthough. 

5:16 - a story about a friend who downsized house size and what her family learned 

11:12 - Krista talks about her experience in a tiny house. 

13:30 - getting clarity on the root issue 

14:41 - podcast episode mention https://motherhoodsimplified.com/how-to-love-your-home-when-you-dont-like-it/

15:37 - Krista talks about their move from Alaska to Florida 

18:38 - decluttering simplified the course https://motherhoodsimplified.com/declutteringsimplified

19:36 - I have a gift for you if you listen on itunes and leave a positive review. Leave a 5-star review and before you submit it take a screenshot of what you wrote and then hit submit on your review and then head over to your email and email that screenshot to [email protected] and let me know that you left a positive review. I will send you an hour long video of decluttering tutorials of spaces that I have a helped other moms declutter.

Full podcast transcription here https://motherhoodsimplified.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Dont-buy-a-bigger-house-just-declutter.docx

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