This is Alison's first solo episode talking about self care when you feel you have no time.

Often self care is pushed to some distant horizon …. maybe once the next milestone has passed in our baby's development… when we go on holiday… when we have the headspace.

This is all anticipatory. It is always in the future.

The thing is, the longer we put ourselves to the bottom of the list or don't even stick ourselves on our list, the more depleted we become. This manifests in feelings like being at the end of your rope, becoming hulk mum (hear me roar), starting to drop some of those juggling plates and on it continues while the overwhelm and anxiety grows.

The time to prioritise your own health and wellbeing is NOW.

Alison talks about why taking care of ourselves is so important and how we can build those micro moments of pause and creating our intentions around.

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The materials contained on this podcast are provided for general information purposes only and do not constitute legal or other professional advice on any subject matter. Alison Barker does not accept any responsibility for any loss, which may arise from reliance on information contained on this site.

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Aviva is a Yale MD, midwife, and herbalist who practices medicine and sees health a different way than a lot of doctors.

Aviva has spent the past 35 years (you would never guess from her photo!) dedicated to learning what really works when it comes to women's and children's health - when conventional medicine is optimal, and when it not only might not be the best option, but might be more harmful than natural alternatives. Aviva has also been on a 35-year pursuit to learn which natural approaches, from foods to herbs and supplements, to mind-body practices really work and for what. 

Aviva's mission is simple: to give you the facts you can trust and the tools you need, bridging the best of traditional wisdom and modern medicine, so you can feel like yourself again and feel empowered in your choices - whether for staying healthy, or getting well. Aviva truly believes our bodies have the capacity to heal beyond what we've ever been led to believe.

• Aviva's journey through midwifery, herbalism and then training to be a medical doctor in Yale.

• How Aviva approaches holistic care with traditional medicine

• Trusting your gut and following your heart

• Autoimmune diseases in women's health

• The constant demands on women in our modern world

• How women's feelings and symptoms can be dismissed by the medical profession and medical bias

• How the stress response works in our body and what kinds of stresses there are

• The importance of nurturing our curiosity - why are so many women suffering so many health issues?

• Aviva's advice on how we can empower ourselves in our quest for answers to our health issues

• Our bodies innate ability to heal

• Aviva suggests questions we can pose to address our health issues. Great journalling questions to explore

• How we all deserve to thrive unapologetically

• Exploring what behaviours we are modelling to our children as motivation to take care of ourselves

• How every mother needs a tupperware pot in times of stress!

• The benefit of mothers sharing their unplugged vulnerable stories

• The compare and despair culture for mothers in today's culture

• Pressure to be perfect particularly when living in isolation

• The power of women rising up

Aviva's website (https://avivaromm.com/about/) and her The Adrenal Thyroid Revolution (https://wordery.com/the-adrenal-thyroid-revolution-aviva-romm-9780062476340)

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The materials contained on this podcast are provided for general information purposes only and do not constitute legal or other professional advice on any subject matter. Alison Barker does not accept any responsibility for any loss, which may arise from reliance on information contained on this site.

Dr. Jessica Zucker (http://drjessicazucker.com/) is a Los Angeles-based psychologist specializing in women's reproductive and maternal mental health. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Guardian, New York Magazine, BuzzFeed, Refinery29, TIME, SELF, ELLE, VICE, InStyle, Harper's Bazaar, among others. She is the creator of the #IHadAMiscarriage (https://www.instagram.com/ihadamiscarriage/?hl=en) campaign, now a mixed media multi-platform effort, to replace the antiquated silence with storytelling. Her first book, a memoir-meets-manifesto, is due out in 2021. She's been featured on The Today Show, Good Morning America, CNN, and NPR.

TRIGGER WARNING 

In this episode, Dr. Jessica talks very candidly about her own experience of loss. We also talk about the sensitive subject of baby loss throughout the show. You may not be in a place to hear this right now, so please take a moment to check-in with yourself and see if it is the right time to tune into the conversation. You can always come back to it at a later stage as it will be available on all of your podcast platforms and my website whenever you are ready.

Episode highlights

• Jessica's own experience of baby loss.

• The reason Jessica started her campaign #IHadAMiscarriage and her Viral New York Times article

• How Jessica's experience of baby loss impacted her practice serving women.

• How to deal with comments from people which although well intentioned and coming from a place of love are hurtful in the moment.

• Advice on what to say when you know someone who has suffered baby loss.

• Jessica's tools to deal with her own experience of baby loss.

• Jessica's community and the benefits of letting women know they are not alone.

• The internalised feelings of women who have suffered baby loss.

• Changing the cultural narrative from hush hush to normative.

• Pregnancy after loss.

• Jessica's memoir which is due out in 2021.

 Dr Jessica's website http://drjessicazucker.com/

and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ihadamiscarriage/

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The materials contained on this podcast are provided for general information purposes only and do not constitute legal or other professional advice on any subject matter. Alison Barker does not accept any responsibility for any loss, which may arise from reliance on information contained on this site.

About Pippa Grace

Pippa has been working as a socially engaged artist for the past 17 years. Her arts practice is centered on the belief that everyone has a story to tell and that the telling of these stories has an intrinsic value both to the teller and their community.

Her work interlaces individual stories with social history, researching and recording everyday stories that might otherwise be overlooked or forgotten. Where voices have been silenced, the practice helps them find a creative way to speak out. She facilitates groups and individuals to tell their stories through a variety of forms including creative writing, oral history, digital storytelling, animation, book making and sculpture. Together they weave the individual strands into a living tapestry of Visual Narratives.

All her work is grounded by an ongoing fascination with, and research into, the healing qualities of literature, myth, fairytales, storytelling, dream and archetype.

Pippa's work brings together over 24 years of training and working within the worlds of holistic health, body work, dance, creative writing, journalism, film, community arts, photography and sculpture.

Episode highlights

• Pippa's work on One Story

• The importance of the maternal lineage and inner child work in reparenting ourselves

• Pippa's personal motherhood story behind her artistic work.

• Pippa's new book Mother in the Mother and the themes explored in the book?

• The concept of healing through motherhood

• Mother in the Mother workshops and the feedback/experience from running the workshops

• The power of art to access the subconscious and how it supports women to process their stories.

• Pippa's advice to mothers.

Relevant links

Pippa's website https://one-story.co.uk/ and Pippa's new book Mother in the Mother.

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About Emma

Emma Pickett has spent her career talking to young people about puberty, listening to their stories, and immersed in the world of breastfeeding support. As a Deputy Head and Year 6 teacher in inner London, she taught sex and relationships education for over a decade before having her own children.

When she realised how many new mums struggled with breastfeeding, it led to a career change and Emma qualified as a volunteer breastfeeding counsellor with the Association of Breastfeeding Mothers before going on to qualify as a lactation consultant. She has supported new families in North London for 10 years and answers calls on the National Breastfeeding Helpline. Her children are now 10 and 14.

She is currently chair of the Association of Breastfeeding Mothers (https://abm.me.uk/), a charity established in 1979 training breastfeeding support volunteers and health professionals.

In 2016 she published You've Got it In You: A Positive Guide to Breastfeeding, followed in 2019 by The Breast Book.

Episode highlights

• The lack of education around breasts and how they work - body literacy

• Toxic messages around breasts focused on fear - typically the only message we get

• Challenges with unsolicited advice from friends and family regarding breastfeeding

• The challenges presented by doing the inner work as a grandparent

• Maya Angelou quote "

  Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better"

• Tips on how to deal with unsolicited advice as a new parent

• The role of dads in breastfeeding

• Team aspect of breastfeeding

• Asking for help

• The lack of support for new mums

• Cluster feeding

• How to trust your instincts when in midst of noise from others

• Finding your tribe of support

• Choosing parenting books wisely, as not all are equal

• Amy Brown's research

• Diversity in infant feeding

• How your beliefs about yourself can impact your breastfeeding journey - the importance of self care and self love

Resources

Breastfeeding yummy mummies Breastfeeding and parenting support group ABM charity Breastfeeding network NCT helpline Breastfeeding.support (http://breastfeeding.support/) Dr Jack Newman National breastfeeding helpline La Leche league helpline and local leaders

Relevant links

Emma's website (https://www.emmapickettbreastfeedingsupport.com/) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/emmapickettibclc)

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The information and reference guides in this podcast are intended solely for the general information for the reader/listener. The contents of this podcast are not intended to offer personal medical advice, diagnose health problems or for treatment purposes. It is not a substitute for medical care provided by a licensed and qualified health professional. Please consult your health care provider for any advice on medications.

The materials contained on this podcast are provided for general information purposes only and do not constitute legal or other professional advice on any subject matter. Alison Barker does not accept any responsibility for any loss, which may arise from reliance on information contained on this site.

About Maisie

Maisie Hill is a highly qualified and sought-after women's health expert with over a decade of experience as a practitioner and birth doula. Maisie knows the power of working with the menstrual cycle and believes that are hormones are there to serve us and help us get what we want out of life. In the growing trend for women to get a handle on their menstrual cycle, Maisie is a go-to authority and is quoted in publications from The Guardian to Grazia. Her first book, Period Power, came out May 2nd 2019 and became an instant bestseller, reaching the Top 50 of all books on Amazon.

Episode highlights

• Why Maisie wrote the book and who it was written for

   

• The feedback Maisie has received about the book

   

• How we can embody the message in Maisie's book.

   

• The power of rest - resting when menstruating but the need to rest more throughout the cycle.

   

• How Maisie openly discusses her bleeding time with her son.

   

• The importance of taking care of ourselves during our cycle.

   

• Periods are the fifth vital sign – it is not just important when looking to conceive but it is a barometer of our overall health.

   

• Cycle Strategy around our motherhood roles.

   

• By not having the knowledge of our cycles, we can end up speaking to ourselves in an unkind way.

   

• An explanation of the dance of our hormones oestrogen and progesterone during our cycle.

   

• The awareness of our cycle allows us to plan our commitments accordingly.

   

• How do we want to model self care for our kids and the next generation

   

• Advice on how we can honour our cycle as a mother

   

• Tracking itself is an intervention – get a cycle tracking sheet from Maisie's website here.

   

• Tips on Cycle Strategy and how to plan for this with practical tips.

   

• How mothers can support each other and the community aspect of self care.

   

• Mindset shifts and setting intentions around our cycle.

   

• Asking for help and receiving help.

   

• The benefit of sharing this knowledge with our partners.

   

• Sex and the menstrual cycle.

   

• Maisie offers such a wonderful explanation of how the go falls back and we may feel distant from reality just before our period starts.

Relevant links

Maisie's website

https://www.maisiehill.com/maisie

and

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/_maisiehill_

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About Nikki

Nikki is the founder of Nikki Hill Apothecary and is a fully qualified Naturopath, Clinical Nutritionist and Medical Herbalist. Nikki loves to work with women who are struggling with their hormones and periods and are looking for a natural solution to help ease their symptoms and improve their overall health.

'Nikki Hill Apothecary' was born after years of seeing clients with similar hormonal issues and she wanted to develop a range of gorgeous and therapeutic products women could use each day to relieve their symptoms, but more importantly nourish their body to help prevent long-term hormonal imbalance.

Episode highlights

• What is naturopathy

• How herbs can support women's health problems (the difference between the flowers and the roots with teas and tinctures) particularly hormone imbalance, fatigue, PMS, anxiety and feelings of overwhelm.

• Herbs for new mothers and breastfeeding mothers.

• Functional tests that can be ordered to assess hormones including the DUTCH test.

• Lifestyle factors we can turn to to nourish ourselves.

• The effect of stress on our hormones and our "allostatic load" with a great analogy to an overloaded bath. Highly recommend listening to this section of the audio as it really gets the message across.

• Permission to rest

• Women's belief system around rest

• Education about why we need to slow down.

• Food should not be a source of stress – moving away from perfection

• Benefit of keeping changes to our diet and lifestyle simple.

• Being a conscious consumer

• Our value system around food

• You matter!

• Self care as a skill to teach our children.

• Mothers giving their children nourishing food but not doing the same for themselves.

Relevant links

Nikki's website and Instagram

Dr Libby's TED Talk

Discount Code for Nikki's website is AlisonBarker15

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Disclaimer

The information and reference guides in this podcast are intended solely for the general information for the reader/listener. The contents of this podcast are not intended to offer personal medical advice, diagnose health problems or for treatment purposes. It is not a substitute for medical care provided by a licensed and qualified health professional. Please consult your health care provider for any advice on medications.

The materials contained on this podcast are provided for general information purposes only and do not constitute legal or other professional advice on any subject matter. Alison Barker does not accept any responsibility for any loss, which may arise from reliance on information contained on this site.

Sophie Fletcher is the author of the best selling book Mindful Hypnobirthing and co-founder of Mindful Mama, one day mindfulness and hypnosis birth classes which are taught around the world.

Sophie has trained over 100 practitioners and taught thousands of people. For Sophie Hypnobirthing was key. It was never just about the birth - it was about the women and helping them light their fire.

Sophie is also a mother to two children aged 15 (almost 16) and 14.

Sophie's new book Mindful Mama is due to be released on 7 November 2019.

• Sophie's role as a clinical hypnotherapist.

• Sophie's career change after having her children.

• Sophie's tips on writing a book.

• Benefits of writing the book in this season of motherhood having had the lived experience with children who are now older.

• The power of affirmations.

• Self care as a mother when you have no time.

• Loneliness vs Aloneness of motherhood.

• Building your support network.

• Role of hypnobirthing in the postnatal period.

• Exploring the issue of identity as a mother.

• Importance of defining our values once we are in motherhood.

• Phone use in motherhood and tips on setting boundaries.

• The mind/body effect on breastfeeding and how hypnotherapy can assist with breastfeeding.

• The themes of Sophie's new book which will be released on 7 November 2019.

Mindful mamma website Instagram and Twitter

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Disclaimer

The information and reference guides in this podcast are intended solely for the general information for the reader/listener. The contents of this podcast are not intended to offer personal medical advice, diagnose health problems or for treatment purposes. It is not a substitute for medical care provided by a licensed and qualified health professional. Please consult your health care provider for any advice on medications.

The materials contained on this podcast are provided for general information purposes only and do not constitute legal or other professional advice on any subject matter. Alison Barker does not accept any responsibility for any loss, which may arise from reliance on information contained on this site.

Emma is a speaker, writer, editor and designer promoting positivity with the Winning as a Mummy® movement through campaigns, the Positive Wellbeing Zine for Mums and the Positive Wellbeing Podcast for Mums.

• How Isabella & Us started

• Emma's journey into motherhood

• How the magazine has given Emma a sense of purpose

• Emma's vision for the brand

• How motherhood has given Emma the impetus to do more than she ever imagined

• The importance of Emma's support system

• How Emma achieves balance in her role as mother and her 2 jobs

   

Isabella & Us website Instagram and Twitter

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Dr Oscar Serrallach graduated with a medical degree (MBChB) from the Auckland School of Medicine, New Zealand in 1996. He received his fellowship of Family Medicine and General Practice in 2008 and is currently completing a Fellowship in Nutritional and Environmental Medicine. He is the owner and principal doctor at the Mullumbimby Integrative Medical Centre based in Northern NSW Australia, which he has been running since 2011.

• The famous GOOP article.

• What is Postnatal Depletion

• Why symptoms can be seen even 7 years postpartum

• Oscar talks about how many mothers he believes are affected by Postnatal Depletion.

• Mother's struggles have become normalised.

• Oscar's findings from travelling around the world looking at mother-care in various communities

• Oscar's mother-care project.

• Mother-care as a starting point for societal repair

• Antidote to masculine energy.

• Role of the father

• Main drivers for postnatal depletion

• The village it takes to raise a baby AND a mother.

• Maternal brain changes in pregnancy

• The impact of postnatal depletion for mothers in subsequent pregnancies

• How mother's struggles have become normalised.

• Oscar's holistic approach to maternal wellbeing.

Oscar's book The Postnatal Depletion Cure and his website

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You can email me at [email protected] with your questions, suggestions and feedback. I love to hear from you.

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Disclaimer

The information and reference guides in this podcast are intended solely for the general information for the reader/listener. The contents of this podcast are not intended to offer personal medical advice, diagnose health problems or for treatment purposes. It is not a substitute for medical care provided by a licensed and qualified health professional. Please consult your health care provider for any advice on medications.

The materials contained on this podcast are provided for general information purposes only and do not constitute legal or other professional advice on any subject matter. Alison Barker does not accept any responsibility for any loss, which may arise from reliance on information contained on this site.