• “Prepare Your Heart by Looking In”
Series: “One Word that Will Change Your Life”
In his book Predictably Irrational, researcher Dan Ariely claims that most of us are masters at deceiving ourselves and justifying our actions. In particular, he writes, we often make our decisions based not on what is right but on what we want. He gives as an example his own story of buying a car. “When I turned thirty,” he writes, “I decided it was time to trade in my motorcycle for a car. But I couldn’t decide which car was right for me. The web was just taking off and to my delight I found a site that provided advice on purchasing cars.” He then tells of how he dutifully answered all the questions on the website, after which it was recommended that he purchase a Ford Taurus. He describes his reaction this way: “The problem was that, having just surrendered my motorcycle, I couldn’t see myself driving a sedate sedan. I was now facing a dilemma: I had tried a deliberative and thoughtful process for my car selection, and I didn’t like the answer I got. So, I did what I think anyone in my position would do. I hit the “Back” button a few times, backtracked to my earlier stages of the interview process, and changed many of my original answers to what I convinced myself were more accurate and appropriate responses. I kept this up until the car-advertising website suggested a Mazda Miata. The moment the program was kind enough to recommend a small convertible, I felt grateful for the fantastic software and decided to follow its advice.” Then commenting on what he learned in the process, Ariely writes, “The experience taught me that sometimes we want our decisions to have a rational veneer when, in fact, they stem from what we crave deep down.” They stem from what we crave deep down.
Do you know what it is that you crave in the deeper places of your heart? If Ariely is correct, it’s hard for us to take a hard look into the mirror of our hearts and see those places that are not what we would prefer them to be. So, instead of seeing what is actually in our hearts and driving our thoughts and actions, we deceive ourselves into believing that what we see on the inside is something more acceptable, something we can live with. But of course, the irony of our deception is that we cannot really live with the lies that we tell ourselves, at least not the life that we all yearn to know. In order to live that level of life, we have to be willing to take the hard look and face the blunt truth.
Taking the hard look and facing the blunt truth is precisely what the prophet Jeremiah was calling God’s people in his day to do. You know the prophet Jeremiah. We call him “the weeping prophet” because of how Jeremiah’s heart was broken over the refusal of his people to live into God’s ways and trust God’s protection. The more Jeremiah reflected on the cause of this disobedience the more he became convinced that the real problem was a problem of the heart. “The heart,” he declares, “is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” (Jer. 17:9)
We should note a couple of things about Jeremiah’s diagnosis. In the first place, when Jeremiah spoke of the human heart, he wasn’t speaking solely of the emotional character of the people in his day. In our current context, any time we hear someone speak of the heart, we think feelings and emotions, as in “Put your heart into it” or “I love you with all my heart.” To people in Jeremiah’s day, the heart wasn’t just the emotional center of human existence; it was also the center of every aspect of our being – our emotions, our thoughts, and our actions.
Secondly, the word that Jeremiah uses to characterize the human heart, “deceitful,” is an interesting choice, and an inspired one. The word comes from the same root stem as the name “Jacob,” which if you remember from the Jacob story in Genesis refers to the tricky, deceitful nature of that biblical patriarch. It was Jeremiah’s way of saying that there’s a little bit of Jacob in each of us, except for the fact that it’s not others we deceive; it’s ourselves. We are masters at deceiving ourselves.
But Jeremiah doesn’t offer a diagnosis without a treatment plan, like the TV commercial with the poor guy in the dental chair, who hears what he thinks is a dentist tell him that indeed he has a cavity, only then to be told that the guy who’s offered the diagnosis isn’t really a dentist; he’s just a “dental monitor.” Jeremiah isn’t just a “prophecy monitor;” he’s a prophet, God’s spokesperson who’s inspired to help people see and know what at times is God’s uncomfortable truth, which in Jeremiah’s case meant that while the people might be content in their self-deception, God isn’t and He is constantly at work “searching the heart and examining the mind, to reward each person according to their conduct, according to what their deeds deserve” (Jer. 17:10). In other words, God is constantly at work to bring to the surface those places in our life we are constantly at work to suppress – not to punish us for our deceit, but instead to invite us to ask Him into those places in order to make them right.
As C.S. Lewis, whom I quoted last week, was quick to remind us, this is actually a good thing; for “it is when we notice the dirt (in our hearts) that God is most present in us. (Indeed,) the (dirt in our hearts) is the very sign of God’s presence.”
“Well,” you say. “That changes everything.” “If God makes His presence known whenever I take the hard look in my heart in order that my heart may be changed for the better, then how do I go about doing it?”
Here, then, is my suggestion. It involves three questions: (1) What do I need most in my life? In other words, what areas of my life require the most change, and why? In fact, the “why” question is actually more important than the “what” question. “What” do I need most and “why” do I need it?” (2) What’s in my way? What are the things that are keeping me from experiencing this change that I know I need? And again, “why” am I allowing it to happen?” (3) What needs to go? What’s holding me back from experiencing this needed change, and “why” haven’t I already let it go?
These questions actually reflect an ancient Christian practice of “examen,” or scrutiny. The practice goes back to the desert fathers of the third century, who took the time to spot idols in their lives by asking the question, “How is it with my soul?”
I’m not asking you to go to some desert in order to engage in this self-examination. But I am asking you to pull away from the busyness of your life, which is just another way of rationalizing your self-deception, so that you can see what God already sees and then trust it to God’s grace as God has made it available to us through His gift of Jesus Christ. There is no other way for you to find and enjoy the life you so desperately are yearning to know.
Years ago, when I was a seminary student in Louisville, Kentucky, I came across a remarkable story that had taken place in nearby Evansville, Indiana, which is just down the Ohio River from Louisville. The story was about a 71 year old man who had his life saved in a most unusual way, a way that involved a truck smashing into his house. As the story explained it, it was 2:35 in the morning when a driver lost control of a truck on icy pavement, struck the curb, and sailed onto the porch of the man’s house. The next morning, a utility crew came out to restore electricity to the man’s home and to check for gas leaks. In the process the crew discovered that the man’s chimney and pipes were clogged up with two feet of soot and leaves, which was causing odorless, poisonous carbon monoxide fumes generated from burning natural gas to back up into the house. The man had noticed that over the past two years he had been sick with classic flu-like symptoms, including chills, nausea, and headaches, which are also symptoms of carbon monoxide poisoning. At times the man would black out. Then he would come to when he would get out in the fresh air. Every day it would get worse and worse. The odds were great that if the truck had not smashed into his house the man would have been dead.
But the kicker to the story was not simply that the accident led to the discovery of the clogged chimney. The kicker was that the man whose house was smashed into once worked as a building contractor. He had spent his working life warning his customers to check their chimney flues every two or three years to make sure they weren’t clogged. “But somehow or another,” he said, “It never did dawn on me to check my own chimney.”
So, don’t forget to check. Only then will you see what God sees and be at a place where God’s grace will abound and give you not just what you deserve, but even more.