When these parts want different things, we can’t move forward and become unstuck by forcing our way forward. We could do all the actions that seem right and seem to make it appear as if we’re making progress. Yet we can only move as fast as our slowest part.

When we try to override or ignore the part of us that’s scared, we don’t move forward. We just burn out.

The real shift happens when we turn toward that part with curiosity and compassion. When we ask it what it needs. When we recognize that it's not trying to ruin our plans. It’s trying to protect us and love us, the only way it knows how.

That part deserves to be seen. To be held. To be loved.

And when it finally feels safe…when it receives the acknowledgment and care it’s been longing for…it can begin to soften. It can release its grip. Not overnight, but slowly. Naturally. In its own time.

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