Transform Your Life With Steve and Pete

Moving Past your Pain


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Transformation Tip: “Turn your wounds into wisdom”. - Oprah Winfrey


Concept(s)

Consequences of unresolved pain form unhealthy mindsets and behaviors (the 10 saboteurs)

  1. The Judge: generates false assumptions resulting in selective hearing. 
  2. The Avoider: directs attention away from the conflict, leading to a lack of resolution
  3. The Controller: self-protects and creates a fearful negative perspective of what can go wrong, restricting others and destroying relationships
  4. The Hyper-Achiever: constant performance. Get self-worth from achievement. Unsustainable. make you too goal-focused (miss relationships and the big picture). 
  5. The Hyper Rational: Feeds the controller and has a fear of taking risks (faith).
  6. The Hyper-Vigilant: results in danger-awareness level being calibrated to an extreme (worst-case scenario). Can never relax/anxious
  7. The Pleaser: Can’t say “NO” and has no boundaries – overwhelmed – guilt-driven. 
  8. The Restless causes one to look for escape or comfort (grass is greener), Busyness
  9. The Stickler: needs perfection to find security and value, is caught in so much detail- can’t let go (too possessive).
  10. The Victim: causes one to take things (too) personally, focus on emotional state, and spend too much time venting and dwelling on all wrong negativity.   


Practical:

POSITIVE INTELLIGENCE (SAGE QUALITIES)

1.   EXPLORATION 

2.   EMPATHY

3.   INNOVATION

4.   NAVIGATION

5.   ACTIVATE 


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https://www.positiveintelligence.com/saboteurs/

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Transform Your Life With Steve and PeteBy Steve Chua and Pete Cafarchio