By Mandy Lehto
The podcast currently has 46 episodes available.
This is the final episode of MoxieCast! (sniff, sniff).
I'm closing out this series of nourishing, soulful conversations with David Taylor-Klaus, coach and author of Mindset Mondays: 52 Ways to REWIRE Your Thinking and Transform Your Life.
I have something new in the hopper! Please stay subscribed and watch this space!
On today's episode, David and I talk about some really practical ways to:
Shift our beliefs to fulfil our potential;
approach problem solving in a juicy new way;
and how we can quit being hardholics, already. Not everything has to be difficult to be worthwhile.
Some of my favourite bits of the show include:
Grab your cuppa and join us! David is SO wise, uplifting and fun.
Links and Resources:
David Taylor-Klaus
Mindset Mondays by David Taylor-Klaus
Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
The Anatomy of Peace by the Arbinger Institute
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Quotes by David Taylor-Klaus:
“We’re sort of wired for confirmation bias. We want to be right.”
“Armour is sexy. Suiting up for battle, that feels good, it looks good.”
“You change your lens, you change your experience. That’s the most powerful tool you have, is your mindset.”
Because duct tape isn't an option...I've created an episode to help you handle a challenging boss.
Today's guest is Parissa Behnia, formerly a challenging boss herself, who now specialises in working with what she calls 3D leaders (difficult, dismissive and divisive).
She shares three strategies for you to try next time you're about to lose your shiitake at work.
Learn...
Grab your cuppa and join us.
Links and Resources:
Parissa Behnia on LinkedIn
Parissa Behnia’s Website
The Asshole Survival Guide by Robert Sutton
Hogan Assessments
Mandy Lehto
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Quotes by Parissa Behnia:
“A 3D leader is difficult, dismissive, divisive. They are high-value, high performers, have high positions in an organization, but because of being that 3D leader, they are starting to diminish their value.”
“Empathy means that we are looking to find out what is driving the behavior of these 3D leaders.”
“In times of stress, the dark sides of our personalities always come out. But it’s also sometimes the dark sides that help us be super productive and get the results that we’re looking for.”
Excuses are always available.
And yet there are people who just go for it in life. They have a spark about them. A knack of creating a big, juicy life, not just reacting to a never-ending to-do list.
Danusia Malina-Derben, is one such woman. She's an entrepreneur, academic, and organizational behavior and development expert. Oh, and she's a mum of ten.
She's also the host of the School for Mothers and School for Fathers podcasts, and the author of two forthcoming books in 2021.
I asked Danusia to share about being brave and handling her insidious inner critic.
How does Danusia set and accomplish unreasonable goals?
How does she live a created life on her OWN terms?
Our conversation covers:
Grab your cuppa and join us!
Links and Resources:
Effective Leadership Development and Business Consulting
Danusia Malina-Derben on LinkedIn
School for Mothers Podcast
School for Fathers Podcast
David Taylor-Klaus
Fear of Flying by Erica Jong
Mandy Lehto
Mandy Lehto on Instagram
Review MoxieCast on iTunes
Quotes by Danusia Malina-Derben:
“Somehow, my soul had a calling to do lots of things - and do them really well.”
“I’m concerned about the bottom line, but I’m more concerned about people. People are my thing.”
“Unreasonable goals drive accomplishments.”
As the world grapples with Covid-19, deep presence and the ability to create a sense of calm and groundedness feel more important than ever in leadership.
I'm not just talking about VIP's in the business world. I'm talking about self-leadership too.
Today's guest says a leader is someone entrusted with holding the heart of an endeavour or a family. It's someone who inspires us "to hold each other well." (I mean, how beautiful is that?)
Kelly Wendorf is a coach, mother, spiritual mentor and founding partner of Equus, an 11-acre experiential learning & discovery campus in Santa Fe, New Mexico. Horses are co-facilitators in their work at the ranch, and much of Kelly's wisdom on leadership has emerged from her life-long observations of the horse herd, a 56-million-year-old system.
Kelly's also the author of the forthcoming book, Flying Lead Change, published by Sounds True this autumn.
In this episode, we discuss:
Join us (and alpha horse, Artemis).
Links and Resources:
Equus
Flying Lead Change
Getting Ahead by Leading From Behind
Mandy Lehto
Mandy Lehto on Instagram
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Quotes by Kelly Wendorf:
“I love to create conditions for people to have transformative experiences and change their lives.”
“The qualities I trust and I look for, both in myself and in those who I trust to lead, are curiosity, vulnerability, porousness.”
“These are qualities that are much more powerful because they draw people in.”
“Be deeply present with what is—our feelings, who we are, our circumstances. That is a powerful spiritual practice.”
Ever run yourself ragged hosting a party, and yet DECLINED offers of help (while seething silently)?
Or maybe you agreed to watch a friend's gaggle of unruly kids for the weekend (while your own bandwidth and energy were already non-existent), and yet declined her offer to reciprocate next weekend.
You have a huge portal for giving, and a teeny pinhole for receiving.
Sound familiar?
And if so, what the heck is going on there?
Today's guest, April Boyd, a psychotherapist, says not receiving can be a way of protecting yourself in relationships.
After a traumatic event in her own life, April learned that receiving help - and even more, ASKING for it - was riddled with complexity.
She says it's vulnerable to receive. Asking for help is even more of a challenge. And yet, declining it blocks connection.
If you regularly utter, "No, it's fine, I've got this," this episode will help you get better at saying, "Thank you, that would be really great."
We discuss:
Ready to receive more (and seethe less)?
Join us!
Links and Resources
April Boyd on Instagram
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Quotes by April Boyd:
“One of the things that makes receiving so much harder than giving is it’s actually a really vulnerable place to be.”
“We have this culture that really encourages us to wear that badge of honor of being so independent and not needing anyone, and being able to do it all. That’s a myth.”
“How often do you say ‘yes’ when you really mean ‘no’?”
“Recognize that the guilt is just often a built-in part of this process.”
Ever feel like your relationship with pleasure, sensuality and the feminine is a bit of a Rubik’s cube?
For years, I heard the phrase “get out of your head and into your body,” and never really understood it. I mean, duh, where else would I be? I clearly had a lot to learn…
Today’s guest is Alexis Artin, owner of a globally renowned female empowerment company who’s on a mission to help women connect with their bodies.
Before you do a U-turn Gents, this episode isn’t just for women. There’s some real insight here for you too…
We discuss:
Links and Resources
Alexis Artin
Alexis Artin on Instagram
The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine
Why Gender Matters by Leonard Sax
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Mandy Lehto on Instagram
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Quotes by Alexis Artin:
“I really wear so many hats in my life. My friends refer to me, jokingly, as the Forrest Gump of the Feminine.”
“What are the three worst words that a man can hear from a woman? ‘We gotta talk.’”
“It is inherently dangerous to be in a feminine body. Being in a feminine body, life is the ultimate resource and that’s what the feminine is, she’s the source of life.”
“Feminine Experience of Life: When a woman is in that experience, it’s pleasureful, and that pleasure is magnetic.”
How would life change if you could shift your relationship with the negative voice in your head? Submit to it less. Lighten up a little. Do what you want anyway, even if the voice threatens you with public humiliation and epic cringey-ness.
Honestly, we can be such dicks to ourselves. If you're as sick of that as I am, grab your mug of something hot and hit .
Suzy Reading - author, coach, and champion of all things self-care-related - is back on the show by popular demand.
Listen to our popular previous episode, "Win at self-care and willpower," HERE.
Today we talk about:
Join us!
Links and Resources:
Suzy Reading
The Little Book of Self-Care
Stand Tall Like a Mountain: Mindfulness & Self-Care for Children and Parents
The Self-Care Revolution
Suzy Reading on Instagram
Suzy Reading on Facebook
Suzy Reading on Twitter
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Quotes by Suzy Reading:
“It comes down to how we talk to ourselves, treat ourselves, view ourselves, and allow other people to treat us.”
“It’s learning how to shape your inner language, as well as your actions.”
“You can’t change something until you’re aware of it.”
“Our thoughts, our emotions, our sensations, our memories, all of these things are passing states.”
"Is this all there is?"
Maybe you've asked yourself that question after achieving something - a promotion, a degree, a level of success - that you were convinced would fulfil you.
And when you get there, it feels kinda meh, empty even.
Then there's the guilt about how you're feeling, when, to the outside world, you've MADE IT, baby.
It's depressing, yet alienating (I mean who'd complain at having your embarrassment of riches, hey?) So you shut up, and suck it up.
That's what makes it the head screw of all head screws.
Meet today's guest, Shelley Paxton, former chief marketing officer of the badass brand, Harley-Davidson.
She rode choppers in some of the coolest places on the planet; had a swoon-worthy wardrobe; had people hanging on her every word.
I knew her back then. She seemed like one powerful mofo, a woman with her life together.
The reality? Shelley was holding on by her manicured fingernails, numbing nightly with food and a bottle of wine. She felt empty and full of self-loathing, unsure how she could go on like this. She had recurring nightmares for months. To say she was 'burnt out' was putting it mildly.
“My soul was feeling neglected. It wanted to be acknowledged and loved and nurtured and fed. Instead, it was shrivelling up and dying.”
In today's episode, Shelley shares how she became the Chief Soul Officer of her own life (I love that phrase!)
She created the Soulbbatical, a new way of being that listened to the knowing that was trying to bubble up from within, instead of tamping it down with food and booze and pretending.
Show highlights include:
Grab your cuppa and join us. Your soul will thank you!
Links and Resources:
Soulbbatical
Shelley Paxton on Instagram
Shelley Paxton on Facebook
Stillness Is The Key by Ryan Holiday
Mandy Lehto on Instagram
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Quotes by Shelley Paxton:
“Soulbbatical is about creating a life that’s more authentic, more courageous, and more on purpose.”
“I’m on a mission to liberate a billion souls.”
“Soulbbatical is about rebelling for who we are and what we want for our best life, for our fulfillment, for our own unique path forward.”
Today's guest craves failure (not chocolate like the rest of us).
Most people will run a mile to avoid failing and looking bad, lest folks point and laugh.
Not Dr. Erin Baker.
She's a leadership coach with a PhD in social psychology. In her previous career, Erin held senior roles at Microsoft and Facebook (READ: lots of pressure to perform and get things right).
With a big brain and a stellar career, you might find yourself thinking, "Say what?" if I told you that Erin was terrified of failing.
Or rather, she used to be.
Instead of living in fear, Erin geeked out on it, examined it like a scientist, and came up with some fascinating conclusions that you want to know about.
If you've got bullet-proof confidence and eat fear for breakfast (with a side of spiders), this episode is NOT for you. Have a lovely day. Bye now!
But if you've ever felt like a weenie, doubted yourself, or played small because you're afraid to splat, then tune in my friend. You're in for a treat.
Here's a few things we play with in this episode:
Join us! There's bubbly at the end!
Links and Resources:
Dr. Erin Baker
Dr. Erin Baker on Facebook
Dr. Erin Baker on LinkedIn
The Little Engine That Could
Mandy Lehto on Instagram
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Quotes by Dr. Erin Baker:
“I am a recovering perfectionist. I spent the first 33 years of my life just absolutely terrified of what it meant if I failed.”
“These days, I actually crave failure.”
“When we fail, we’ve just done some sort of action.”
“Bubbles for everyone!” (very possibly the best quote ever)
I first met Harriet Minter when she was giving a talk at the Festival of Doers this summer. One of her lines stuck with me as she described her career path:
"Proceed until apprehended."
I knew straightaway that I wanted her on the podcast.
Harriet is a woman who understands that if you want something, no one is coming to present the object (person/job/opportunity) to you on a silver platter.
There's no Harry Potter wand involved, no booming Charlton Heston voice from the clouds permissioning you to go for it.
You proceed until apprehended.
Life lesson right there.
I'm excited for you to meet Harriet, who has been a journalist for nearly fifteen years (with six of those at the Guardian). As a freelance journalist she has written for The Times, The Telegraph and The Sunday Times, as well as many leading magazines.
She's the host of the award-winning Badass Women's Hour and regularly appears on the BBC and Sky News as a commentator.
Oh and she's also a qualified coach and facilitator.
In today's episode Harriet shares three key pieces of work wisdom that she's gleaned from extraordinary leaders, including Sheryl Sandberg and Arianna Huffington.
Grab your cuppa and join us. Your career will thank you.
Links and Resources
Harriet Minter
Harriet Minter on Twitter
Harriet Minter on Instagram
Thrive by Arianna Huffington
Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In Initiative
Mama Gena
Sean Stephenson
Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo
Headspace Breathing Exercises
Mandy Lehto on Instagram
Review MoxieCast on iTunes
Quotes by Harriet Minter:
“I’ll just do it. If it’s not ok, somebody will tell me.”
“If you don’t want to do something, don’t say ‘yes’ to it. Just say, ‘no’.”
“Whatever you are doing, it’s always just one moment in your life. You’ll get another one in another moment.”
“Time expands. The slower we take life, the more time we have.”
The podcast currently has 46 episodes available.