Mr. Homemaker

Pursue a happier, healthier, more fruitful marriage and family life by developing a strategy with your spouse.  Whether it's time to set New Year's Resolutions, starting a new school year, or taking a job that will require you to relocate to a new city and start all over again - this is an opportunity to begin a new chapter for yourself, your spouse, your children, and all those whose lives you touch.
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This and all subsequent modules can be found at http://www.YouTube.com/@Mr.Homemaker
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Timestamps:
00:00 = Welcome & Intros
00:14 = Show Open
01:16 = Mr. Homemaker for Beginners
01:47 = Strategy, Strategic Planning, Strategy

02:17 = SECTION: Why Do This ?
02:27 = The Golden Circle, Simon Sink

04:10 = SECTION: Bite-Sized Modules

05:10 = SECTION: Pro Tips
05:28 = Don’t Get Hung Up on Linear Process
06:05 = Don’t Make a Grocery List
06:31 = Words (and Meanings) Matter
07:54 = Seek First to Understand
08:06 = Think Win-Win
08:43 = Assume Positive Intent
09:29 = Learn from Past Years’ Mistakes

10:09 = SECTION: Setting Vision, Affirmations
11:11 = Personal
11:19 = Positive
11:29 = Present Tense
12:23 = Visual
13:06 = Emotional

13:43 = SECTION: Lines of Effort, Goals
13:47 = Lines of Effort
14:20 = Pro Tips on Validating Lines of Effort
15:08 = Vision - Lines of Effort - Goals = A Chain
15:20 = 5 W’s (& How)
15:35 = “S.M.A.R.T.E.R.” Goals
16:00 = Couples Setting Goals JOINTLY

17:26 = SECTION: Review & Next Steps
17:31 = Module 1 Recap
18:09 = Additional Resources & Recommendations
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https://mr-homemaker.com/recommendations
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"Who Moved My Cheese?" https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/291680/who-moved-my-cheese-by-spencer-johnson/ 
"The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-7-Habits-of-Highly-Effective-People/Stephen-R-Covey/9781982137137
"Your Best Year Ever" https://yourbestyeareverbook.com/
"Golden Circle" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qp0HIF3SfI4 
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18:51 = Module 2 & Beyond

19:16 = SECTION: Adjourn
19:42 = Show Close
20:46 = Bloopers
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Continuing the discussion of our vision, priorities, time allocation, communication, and conflict resolution.   
Remember: Conflict is OK if you resolve it well (as discussed in Season 1, Wk 16 - particularly in the book "Conflicted: How Productive Disagreements Lead to Better Outcomes")

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Visit our Special Guest's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheScientificSkeptic
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This Episode also available as a YouTube Video: https://www.youtube.com/@mr.homemaker
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Approximate Timestamps (correspond to YouTube video, which is not compressed the way podcast audio is - so segments start somewhat earlier than the time indicated below):
0:00 = Episode Intro
0:36 = Special Guest: Scientific Skeptic
2:36 = Scientific Skepticism in a Nutshell
3:30 = Three Philosophical Domains: Ontology, Epistemology, Axiology
5:02 = Evaluating Mr. Homemaker's Philosophical Premises
7:11 = The Importance of First Principles & Common Ground to Effective Dialogue
7:47 = Objectivism (or, more accurately Realism)
8:26 = Human Nature
9:42 = Human Nature as a Function of Evolutionary Biology
12:15 = Human Flourishing (aka Eudaimonia)
22:34 = Structuralism, Functionalism, Structural Functionalism, Functional Structuralism (idk...)
31:51 = Science ~ Philosophy: Differences & Relationship
33:45 = Epistemological Hierarchy: Truth, Knowledge, and Belief
35:32 = Truth: What Value Does it Have if We Can't Assert that We Know It ?
36:04 = Probabilitarianism
39:02 = Living with Imperfect Knowledge
42:03 = Is Evidence a Neutral Requirement; OR Does it Put a Thumb on the Scales ?
46:03 = Instinct & Intuition
51:41 = Received Wisdom & Tradition
55:29 = Adjournment
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The Mrs. registers her disapproval with the direction of the podcast and argues for a refocus on Season 1 "Household MANagement."
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Also on YouTube: https://youtu.be/6T7KGZSJ_EE  
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Special Guest: Jared
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Authorities:
"Enlightenment Now" | Steven Pinker: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enlightenment_Now
"Civilized to Death" | Christopher Ryan: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Civilized-to-Death/Christopher-Ryan/9781451659115
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Reviews & Commentaries:
"Buck up, everyone! We are riding along the Enlightenment’s long path of progress" | Caroline Winterer | Washington Post: https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/buck-up-everyone-we-are-riding-along-the-enlightenments-long-path-of-progress/2018/02/23/5535b602-f24a-11e7-b390-a36dc3fa2842_story.html
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Charity for October: Mary's Place of Seattle, Washington with a vision of “Community where all families have Safety, Stability, and Housing” ~ and a Mission to ensure that “no child sleeps outside.”: https://www.marysplaceseattle.org/about-us-2 
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Also on YouTube: https://youtu.be/6T7KGZSJ_EE  
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Special Guests: Alison & Jeffrey
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Discussed:
Gary Vaynerchuk on Getting Off Your Parents Payroll: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TN2ZISLfENA  
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Video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/6KRsONnC9zw
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In a 2006 Professor Matthew Baker of the US Naval Academy and Professor Joyce Jacobsen of Wesleyan University published a paper entitled “Marriage Specialization and the Gender Division of Labor.” In it, they present a mathematical model that explains how Adolescents and Young Adults developing strategies INTENDED to serve in their INDIVIDUAL self-interest end up undermining the benefits of marriage and family life.
https://www.usna.edu/EconDept/RePEc/usn/wp/usnawp1.pdf

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Discussed:
The 80/80 Marriage: A Model for Happier, Stronger Relationship;
Hunt, Gather, Parent; 

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Charity for September: Sheepfold of California with a mission “to equip mothers with children suffering from homelessness or abuse for successful independent living with hope for the future.”
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Video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7y-brjyqpSA
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Mr. Homemaker's Definition & Purpose of MARRIAGE [Draft as of Sep 24, 2022]:
A life-long contract establishing
* mutual support and enrichment
* sexual exclusivity
* intention to jointly
-- cultivate a well-functioning family, including
-- bring-up children

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References
Seven Types of Love: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hide-and-seek/201606/these-are-the-7-types-love;
Family & Marriage: The Functionalist Perspective on the Family – ReviseSociology;
Why Bother with Marriage: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kp4FLeY6F9g;
US Supreme Court on Marriage: https://www.law.cornell.edu/supremecourt/text/14-556;  
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• Classical Philosophy distinguishes six kinds of “love” relevant to our model of Marriage - Romantic Love being just one kind.
  • (1) Passionate Love [Eros] entails sexual “Romantic Love”
  • (2) Playful, Uncommitted Love [Ludus] entails fun and/or conquest - with no strings attached
  • (3) Friendship [Philia] entails mutual good will
  • (4) Familial Love [Storge] is like Friendship, but rooted in dependency, familiarity, and our identity (rather than qualities)
  • (5) Practical Love [Pragma] is founded on reason, duty, and long-term interests
  • (6) Universal Love (e.g. of strangers) [Agape] is unselfish, altruistic concern for welfare of other [generally]

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United States Supreme Court (SCOTUS) Opinion, OBERGEFELL v. HODGES - 

• Four principles and traditions demonstrate that the reasons marriage is fundamental under the Constitution -

1. personal choice regarding marriage is inherent in the concept of individual autonomy;
2. a two-person union unlike any other in its importance to the committed individuals;
3. it safeguards children and families and thus draws meaning from related rights of childrearing, procreation, and education;

• (a) Without the recognition, stability, and predictability marriage offers, children suffer the stigma of knowing their families are somehow lesser. 
• (b) They also suffer the significant material costs of being raised by unmarried parents, relegated to a more difficult and uncertain family life.
• (c) Precedent protects the right of a married couple not to procreate, so the right to marry cannot be conditioned on the capacity or commitment to procreate.

4. marriage is a keystone of the Nation’s social order

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TED: Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved at https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved 

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Video on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKYiZCypJP8 
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I believe that, over the past 70 years or more, mindsets and lifestyles related to marriage and family have changed in detrimental ways; and that Millenials today confront a crisis, as will Generation Z very soon.
The challenge we confront - as Millennials and Generation Z - is to recognize the problem, diagnose the causes, and develop the mindsets and strategies that will enable us to have successful marriage and families … Creating a new inflection point that begins to stop and reverse these destructive cycles and trends by which our society has been destroying itself for the past 50 and 70 years; and that we provide our children and grandchildren with more favorable conditions to achieve healthy, fulfilling lives in accordance with what we know about human flourishing.
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Generations, Date Ranges - https://projects.scpr.org/timelines/american-generations-timeline/
World Events - https://www.baylorschool.org/uploaded/Library_Resources_PDFs/US_History_US_Historical_Events_from_1900_to_Present.pdf 
Presidents - https://www.whitehousehistory.org/the-presidents-timeline & https://www.whitehousehistory.org/the-presidents-timeline 
Television Shows - https://www.insider.com/best-tv-shows-ever-2017-8 
Movies - https://www.the-numbers.com/movies/#tab=year 
Songs - https://www.insider.com/best-songs-every-year-2017-8#1954-little-things-mean-a-lot-kitty-kallen-15
Marriage Age - https://www.census.gov/content/dam/Census/library/visualizations/time-series/demo/families-and-households/ms-2.pdf
Family Size - https://populationeducation.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/average-number-children-per-us-family-historic-infographic.pdf 
College Degrees - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Educational_attainment_in_the_United_States#/media/File:Educational_Attainment_in_the_United_States_2009.png 
Divorce - https://www.bgsu.edu/content/dam/BGSU/college-of-arts-and-sciences/NCFMR/documents/FP/schweizer-divorce-century-change-1900-2018-fp-20-22.pdf 
Children Born to Unwed Mothers (Out of Wedlock) - https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2015/12/17/1-the-american-family-today/
Children Living with Single Parents, Cohabitating-but-Unmarried Adults - https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2015/12/17/1-the-american-family-today/ 
Mothers Working - https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2015/12/17/1-the-american-family-today/ 
Women in the Workforce - https://www.infoplease.com/business/labor/women-labor-force 
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Video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7Qm4kuvE9H4
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Mr. Homemaker's Definition & Purpose of FAMILY [Draft as of Aug 24, 2022]:
[ Who ] A group of people who
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[ What they do (function) ] share emotional, material, and financial resources
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[ Why they do it (the purpose) ] in order to provide for the flourishing of its members – helping them to progress through Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, ultimately achieving Self-Actualization
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[ How they do it (the manner) ] while simultaneously contributing to the well-being of neighboring families, communities, societies at large, and future families
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Timestamps
0:00 = Cold Open - Discomfort with Dysfunctional; 
2:40 = Show Open; 
3:42 = Episode Welcome; 
4:28 = Episode Scope: Defining Success for Family; 
5:43 = Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs as Framework for Human Flourishing; 
8:09 = Family Success in Context (Structuralism): Neighbors, Relatives, Society, and Posterity; 
10:05 = Disclaimers and Caveats regarding the word Dysfunction; 
12:49 = Dialogue with the Mrs.; 
19:21 = Patron Thank-You's /&/ Charity for August; 
20:29 = Dialogue with the Mrs. (Continued); 
53:10 = Episode Recap & Conclusions

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CrashCourse - Sociology #37 [ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yaeiCEro0iU ]:
Families: Groups of people ... Who are Related by Genetics, Marriage, or Choice; ... who share
Material, Emotional, and Economic Resources ... [with a] commonly shared goal of well-being and mutual support of its members…
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Revise Sociology [ https://revisesociology.com/2014/02/09/functionalist-perspective-family/ ]:
George Peter Murdock - Murdock suggested there were ‘four essential functions’ of the nuclear family:
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3. Socialisation of the young – teaching basic norms and values
4. Meeting its members economic needs – producing food and shelter for example.
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Simply Psychology on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs [ https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html ]
The School of Life on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs [ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0PKWTta7lU&list=PLtc6rEGaOTJHAowpUQhjqWzcJu_l7N3Zj&index=2&t=5s ]
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Having explored the purpose of The Nuclear Family, next time we will turn our attention to the purpose of Marriage -- We will publish our next episode on the 2nd Wednesday of September - September 14th
In the meantime, I will release a bonus episode clarifying the terms, timeliness, and key concepts that I associate with all the generations in the United States over the last 100 years.
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Charity to which Mr. Homemaker has donated 20% of all revenue in August:
Child & Family Charities of Michigan at https://www.childandfamily.org/
With a mission "To strengthen and support children, families, and individuals as they evolve and grow in a changing community."
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