Musings Of a Tired Nigerian Girl

At some point, you start healing. You start setting boundaries, speaking kindly to yourself, walking into rooms like you belong there. And suddenly… people around you start shifting.

This episode is about that moment.

About what it means to finally love yourself and how uncomfortable that makes some people.

I talk about how we’ve been taught to shrink, especially as women, or anyone who’s just a little “too much” for the world. I explore why people feel the need to humble you the moment you begin to feel proud of yourself.

I speak directly to the ones who do it whether it’s subtle shade, disapproving silence, or casual criticism masked as “just being real.”

This episode isn’t just a call-out. It’s a mirror and I am challenging you to look at it.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for your confidence, if you’ve been told “you’ve changed” like it’s a curse, or if someone else’s self-love makes you feel small this conversation is for you.

Chaos personified

Hello, and welcome back to a new episode of Musings of a Tired Nigerian Girl.

It’s been a while. The last time I was here was after Small Sallah, and I was unwell.

Since then, a lot has happened, now I’m back in Kaduna.

This episode is just me showing up again. I don’t have everything figured out, but I missed this space and I want to ease back into it.

Thank you for sticking around.

Hello my love, how are you doing? How have you been!

On this episode I talk about unlearning and taking responsibility for my self, whether that be emotionally, physically, mentally.

Refuse to be silenced my love. Until next time xo

Love

Hikmah

A Tired Nigerian Girl

So we are now a bi-weekly podcast! It’s a good thing, trust me.

On this episode I share what I learnt from reading “Deep work” by Cal Newport. I hope one or two things stick with you. I would totally recommend this and like I say, please before reading or diving into the world of self help, please and please learn about your self first. That’s the best way to start and the best way to get the highest reward from them

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Ramadan is here, and with it comes the highs, the struggles, and the unfiltered drama! In this episode, we go into the real Ramadan experience from the ultimate Ramadan starter pack (dates, giant water bottles, and last-minute dua lists) to iftar fails, hanger management, and the Muslim aunties who won’t let you rest.

We also talk about the Ramadan glow-up, the guilt of not fasting, and what it’s like to fast while managing a chronic illness. Whether you’re team Suhoor or Skip It, this episode is full of relatable moments, laughter, and honest reflections.

Hit play for a fun, lighthearted take on Ramadan, and don’t forget to share your funniest Ramadan moments with us!

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On this episode, I yap as usual 😅, click the listen button to learn one or two things and maybe get dragged along the way. Sorry not sorry.

You ever notice how, for like two weeks, you’re on top of the world, productive, organized, crushing your to-do list, then suddenly, boom, you’re questioning every life choice you’ve ever made? Yeah, welcome to the luteal phase.

In this episode, I’m ranting about the absolute betrayal of being a woman, spilling on my big move to a new city (chaos? maybe), and getting real about decisions, progress, and the never-ending feeling of wtf am I doing? It’s fun, it’s unfiltered, and you might just relate a little too much.

I learnt the importance of taking a break the hard way, don’t let that be you. In this episode I get real about burn out, the “woker-holic” culture, and the pressure to always be productive.

I have learned to prioritize my well-being without feeling lazy. how to set boundaries that actually stick, and why sometimes the most productive thing you can do is… nothing. If you’ve ever felt bad for taking a break, this one’s for you!

Are you a fellow spice girl who is tired of the box society seems to want to put us in? Then this episode is for you.

In this episode of Motng I talk about the weight and the exhaustion of being misunderstood. As a Yoruba Muslim Nigerian Woman, I share some personal experiences navigating cultural and religious misconceptions and assumptions attached to being a Muslim girl of spice.

I explore the emotional and mental toll of constant explaining my identity and discuss how to reclaim the narrative. Tune in for an honest and reflective conversation that challenges the box we’ve been shoved in and join me in celebrating the beauty of embracing who we truly are.