It’s been a hard week.

If you are like me, you are home with children, doing your best to help them pass the days. It’s gonna be a long old trek before we see the end of this.

And here’s the thing.

I don’t know anything about Corona virus.

Except we all need to wash our hands and avoid other people.

But I can help you to talk to your kids about sensitive stuff.

So here’s the third in a row of questions about how we make new humans!

(For the other two, go here and here.)

Today’s question is: 

‘When my 7-year-old asks, How did you make me?, 

what do I say?’

For me, these questions are so fun and beautiful. 

They’re full of the gorgeous curiosity of childhood. 

Your kid is like a scientist. 

They’re looking at the world around them and they want to know how it all works. 

And that is just lovely. 

So you can answer it in that spirit.

But the first thing for YOU to figure out is this. 

What are you comfy talking to your kid about?

And, in fact, how *did* you make them?

Did you have sex?

Did you do IVF? 

Did you adopt? or use a donor? or something else? 

And: if you had sex to make your kid, are you still with your partner? 

Maybe you aren’t. 

Maybe you never really were.

Or maybe you are, and you live with them, and they’re in the next room.

A kid who is 7 is absolutely able to understand the basics. 

That everyone in the world was made with a sperm, an egg, and a uterus. 

And that we’re all made in different ways (and how cool is that). 

So it’s about you figuring out what YOUR story is, and how much you’re comfortable sharing. 

And - by the way - you’re allowed to keep some stuff private, for yourself. 

(I have a funny story about how *I* learned that, in today’s video.)

So this question from your 7-year-old is a really cool, joyful thing.

You can say to your kid, how happy you are that they asked you!

And that they’ve got a scientist’s brain. 

And that, actually, a lot of grown-ups feel awkward talking about this stuff because they weren’t taught how to talk about it. 

But you’re so glad they asked. 

(Because we know how important it is to talk about these things.

For THEM to receive the info they need, and for YOU to learn how to chat about it. 

Even if it feels a bit awkward.)

So - these are wonderful convos to have! :)

And we’re happy to give you some tools to help you feel more confident and comfortable having them. 

watch this episode here or listen to the podcast version which is now up on Itunes and Spotify.

x Sarah

Ps. You might be under so much pressure right now that you aren’t capable of thinking about this part of your parenting.

That’s ok.

You are doing the best parenting you can manage right now.

Keep Safe

 

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