My Boss/My Mom

We talk about the HBDI (Herrmann Brain Dominance Instrument) and how it saves us when we get into a bad argument. Understanding our preferences gives us space and insight with each other to be compassionate towards each other. It's our secret sauce.

In episode 14, we talk about Lynn's snow skiing experience and how she froze up on the top of a mountain. We walk through what it took to get her back from fear to calm and grounded again. We all deal with things that terrify us, it's important to know what YOU need to do to get yourself grounded again.  

Katherine Shoulders is our special guest on the show this week and she teaches us the fundamentals of foundation training. She also lets us in on how her retreat with us went and some things she got out of working with us.

We discuss the snow storm that Lynn drove through to help Jen get into rehab...the first time. It's always so hard to know what to do when your loved one is struggling through addiction. There were some valuable lessons learned throughout the process. This is just one of many.

We decided we wanted to start going into our earlier stories of our struggles with each other. Our relationship hasn't always been where we had the capacity to work together. It's taken a lot of work and growth on both of our parts and we wanted to share with people what it takes and how far we have come. Change is possible.

Lynn hates being put on the spot, but I thought it would be fun to give her a surprise prompt and show how we work through things on the spot. We had no idea how it was going to go and if we could keep the cameras rolling. 

Using the same words and saying them louder does not always work when you are giving instructions. In this episode, we talk about the day when Lynn (the mother) was trying to give instructions to Jen (the daughter) and Lynn just kept saying the same words, only she just continued to get louder. How often do we find ourselves not able to take a step back and give simple instructions?

We bicker, we argue, but over our series of the Malibu Open Interviews, we had a couple of big blow outs. The first one was Jen just got frustrated and needlessly popped off at Lynn and we had to sit in some uncomfortable feelings as we sorted through why Jen was so upset. The second was over an idea that Jen didn't set context for and Lynn leapt to the wrong conclusions while Jen yelled and walked away.

Austin was supposed to go to the Malibu Open, he trained incredibly hard for the event, and shortly before the Open happened, he hurt his back. Listen to how he deals with being disappointed and upset about not getting to go and how he learned to accept the disappointment. He also talks about his business and how he sees what happens when people are supporting each other versus competing against each other. 

In this episode, we talk to a gentleman from Sydney, Australia that runs two businesses. We talk to him about what you need to do to be able to let go and manage from a far and how it is to let go of the perfectionist tendencies in order to design your life the way you want to and be able to do the things you want to do. Also, we don't always perform to our highest abilities and how do we manage ourselves when we fall short of what we know we are capable of doing.