Donna writes,

A year and a half ago, I was in a brief relationship with this guy.  He was cool and fun to be with, but he said he needed his space to work a few things out before making a commitment, because he didn’t feel he was in any shape to make a real commitment to me.  Well, a few days ago, I received a text from him saying that he is a changed man and that he found the love of his life. I told him I was happy for him and that I hope everything works out for him, but honestly, the news was like a knife in my heart.  What should I do?

 

I’m sorry Donna.  

I know it hurts to the core.  So for now, try to take many deep breaths.  

You have every right to feel sad, frustrated, angry, disappointed and any other feelings that come up. It’s alright to feel what you feel.  If you need to cry, cry. If you need to yell, yell. Get your feelings out.  

Also,  be sure to take this time to be kind to yourself.  Don’t beat yourself up for having these feelings. Instead, in your silent moments, be proud of yourself for being brave enough to open your heart to both love someone and receive love.    

It feels horrible when someone doesn’t feel the same way, but that’s okay.  

Believe it or not, you are a strong person.  I know this because you feel the loss of someone you love so deeply.

Don’t rush into trying to get over him, but don’t let the negative feelings linger so long that you become jaded about loving someone or being loved.  You have the power to decide what lessons this relationship has taught you.  

Give yourself time to grieve and heal.  Then, pick yourself up again and show the world what you have to offer.  

You are worthy of receiving love.  Keep your heart open and if your heart desires a romantic relationship, keep your heart and mind open to receiving love from others.  Feel free to contact me and let me know how you are doing. 

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