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We're serving up a heaping helping of advice on this week's episode! We're solving crimes at the gym, finding boring girlfriends, starting our own dating app and trying to figure out what to do when our co-worker writes a p*rno and promotes it at work.
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This week's feature advice seeker asks:
One of my coworkers wrote his first book! We are so excited for him and realize that even if it is self-published, it’s a huge accomplishment. He actually gave out free copies to everyone in our department and all of management.
I can ignore the quality of the writing of the book, but what I (and now the rest of the office) can’t ignore is that it is incredibly sexually explicit. It invents euphemisms that are as awkward as they are confusing while describing activities I would not normally advise discussing with your boss. It’s become office gossip enough that several of my coworkers read it aloud to each other during lunch for a good laugh. Certain foods have been henceforth “banned” from our department as a result of some particularly memorable passages. If he’s out of the office, he is no longer mentioned without a joke about his book following, which is a shame since he’s probably one of the nicest people I know.
I hoped the book would become old news, but he is REALLY promoting it. We’re talking emails about book-signing events, telling everyone about how it’s going to be turned into a TV show and a play and maybe a movie, and other things for which etiquette demands congratulations but everyone knows will never happen.
I feel like this is going to blow up. If any of our (very conservative) bosses who received a copy of the book actually read it, if he ever finds out what other people have been saying, or if any of our bosses found out the level of ridicule he’s been subject to (behind his back), there will be problems. Management for our department runs pretty hot and cold. Usually it’s entirely hands-off until a situation reaches the tipping point and it turns into the Spanish Inquisition (except we’re usually expecting it).
I’m pretty junior, and I don’t think it’s my place to tell him (or really anyone else) to stop talking about it. Do you have a suggestion for how to get out of these potentially damaging bash-fests? Is there a rinse-and-repeat phrase to shut down the negative (but so tempting) discussions that’s not overly formal? I’d also appreciate any advice on keeping my mouth shut (if you can’t say anything nice and all that), a skill I’m developing as part of my Stay Employed plan.
Side information: As far as I know, it was not written on company time, and he sends out promotional emails at most once a week only to coworkers he knows personally (so it’s not excessive). The promotion is more amusing than bothersome.
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If you have a question, send us an email at [email protected] or shoot us a DM on:
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This episode was streamed live on Twitch and YouTube on 16.03.23.
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00:00 - It begins!
00:40 - James is driving home
03:45 – David attempts to fill
06:24 - Where digital Dana lives & the crimes of David's mobile
08:28 - Question: Showerheads at my gym keep getting stolen
22:20 - Question: How can I meet a boring girlfriend?
32:23 - We start our own dating app - Snooze Fest: Boring is Better
44:08 - Feature: My co-worker wrote a p*rno
1:06:20 - How David sells his book
1:19:40 - A poem about a man named David who can't write poetry
1:20:45 - Outro
1:22:38 - Who was that?
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By The AdvisoryWe're serving up a heaping helping of advice on this week's episode! We're solving crimes at the gym, finding boring girlfriends, starting our own dating app and trying to figure out what to do when our co-worker writes a p*rno and promotes it at work.
--
This week's feature advice seeker asks:
One of my coworkers wrote his first book! We are so excited for him and realize that even if it is self-published, it’s a huge accomplishment. He actually gave out free copies to everyone in our department and all of management.
I can ignore the quality of the writing of the book, but what I (and now the rest of the office) can’t ignore is that it is incredibly sexually explicit. It invents euphemisms that are as awkward as they are confusing while describing activities I would not normally advise discussing with your boss. It’s become office gossip enough that several of my coworkers read it aloud to each other during lunch for a good laugh. Certain foods have been henceforth “banned” from our department as a result of some particularly memorable passages. If he’s out of the office, he is no longer mentioned without a joke about his book following, which is a shame since he’s probably one of the nicest people I know.
I hoped the book would become old news, but he is REALLY promoting it. We’re talking emails about book-signing events, telling everyone about how it’s going to be turned into a TV show and a play and maybe a movie, and other things for which etiquette demands congratulations but everyone knows will never happen.
I feel like this is going to blow up. If any of our (very conservative) bosses who received a copy of the book actually read it, if he ever finds out what other people have been saying, or if any of our bosses found out the level of ridicule he’s been subject to (behind his back), there will be problems. Management for our department runs pretty hot and cold. Usually it’s entirely hands-off until a situation reaches the tipping point and it turns into the Spanish Inquisition (except we’re usually expecting it).
I’m pretty junior, and I don’t think it’s my place to tell him (or really anyone else) to stop talking about it. Do you have a suggestion for how to get out of these potentially damaging bash-fests? Is there a rinse-and-repeat phrase to shut down the negative (but so tempting) discussions that’s not overly formal? I’d also appreciate any advice on keeping my mouth shut (if you can’t say anything nice and all that), a skill I’m developing as part of my Stay Employed plan.
Side information: As far as I know, it was not written on company time, and he sends out promotional emails at most once a week only to coworkers he knows personally (so it’s not excessive). The promotion is more amusing than bothersome.
---
If you have a question, send us an email at [email protected] or shoot us a DM on:
Youtube | TikTok | Instagram
---
This episode was streamed live on Twitch and YouTube on 16.03.23.
---
00:00 - It begins!
00:40 - James is driving home
03:45 – David attempts to fill
06:24 - Where digital Dana lives & the crimes of David's mobile
08:28 - Question: Showerheads at my gym keep getting stolen
22:20 - Question: How can I meet a boring girlfriend?
32:23 - We start our own dating app - Snooze Fest: Boring is Better
44:08 - Feature: My co-worker wrote a p*rno
1:06:20 - How David sells his book
1:19:40 - A poem about a man named David who can't write poetry
1:20:45 - Outro
1:22:38 - Who was that?