Do you feel resigned to the life you have? Do you have a vision for what life could be? Six years ago—before Abby found network marketing—she was a mom to two girls, a wife, and nannying full-time. Her husband worked for a marketing company and traveled all the time. They both had great jobs—but always had more month than money. They always had debt. They always had bills. They never had time together. She knew there had to be something more. Something was missing. No matter how hard she worked she couldn’t get ahead. She did all the right things, and it wasn’t enough. How did network marketing change her life? What did it take to get her on board with the process? How does vision-casting help you reach your goals? Listen to learn more!

You will want to hear this episode if you are interested in...

 

• Abby’s journey to network marketing
• The catalyst for the crossroads
• Should you find products you love?
• Create time—not excuses
• The dos and don’ts of vision casting
• The importance of starting with a vision
• Belief and vision must blend together
• How to lead with integrity

Vision casting: the magic wand question

 

Abby emphasizes that vision casting is getting to know a person more than an outcome. You have to pour the belief into that person and show them that it’s possible. You have to paint a reality for someone that doesn’t feel possible. The vision and the belief belong together.  When you ask someone what they want, they may not truly say what they desire in life because they don’t think it’s possible for them.

 

You have to ask the “magic wand” question: The magic wand question: If I was able to give you a magic wand—and money and time were of no consequence—and you could have anything you want in life, what would it be? Asking great questions can improve the richness of your conversations. You’re getting to know someone on a human level that even the people they’re closest to don’t ask them about.

The importance of starting with a vision

 

Abby’s goal when she first started was to pay off their credit card debt and student debt. She had a vision. She positioned herself with the confidence that she could get there. She was going to share that vision with others and invite them to where they saw themselves in a similar vision. She believed she was going to get there and enrolled people to go with her.

 

“People have these incredible visions for themselves, they have these incredible goals, they do believe they’re possible—but then they’re unwilling to show up long enough and consistently enough to finally see it happen.” You work your butts off and don’t see a lot of results in the beginning. You have to commit to the long-term vision.

 

What would you do with an extra ten hours a week? $500 a month? You have to repaint the picture for them. Point out that you may not feel it’s possible now, but that you’ve seen people do exactly what you want to do. With hard work, commitment, trust, and consistency, it will be possible. You just have to put in the work to make it happen. You get to choose your hard.

 

Show them that you believe in them. That you’ll hold their belief for them until they can grasp it for themselves. When things get hard having belief and a vision for your future is so important. How has network marketing changed Abby’s life? Her family’s life? Listen to learn more!

How to create clarity around your vision

 

When you say you’re going to do something—you need to do it. If you have a big vision and you know it’s your why, you can make it happen. You lay out what will take you from point A to point B. You have to put in the work. If you promise you’ll do something, and you don’t—are you truly a person of your word? It requires you to be a person of integrity. Most people struggle to follow through on their promises to themself but keep them for other people.

 

People break their promises because the promises they make to themselves are so out of alignment with their current behaviors. It takes small and steady steps toward a goal. You will hit a wall that will stop you every day. Things will come up that make you think you can’t do it. You will question everything. It’s in those moments in life that you get to decide if you'll rise to the occasion or resort to what’s comfortable. Those moments separate you from success. Don’t have a vision that you’ll never see come to pass.

 

Abby ends this episode with a challenge to listeners—in network marketing or not. Don’t miss it!

Connect with Abby O’Neil

 

• Follow on Facebook
• Abby on Instagram

Connect with David T. S. Wood

 

• Follow David on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtswood
• Follow David on Instagram: @DavidTSWood
• Follow David on Twitter: @DavidTSWood1

What is the power of the magician? How can it transform the world around you? David T. S. Wood was on a call last night and was talking about how powerful humans are. Humans are magicians. Whatever you want, you can have. Most people think it sounds ridiculous, but it's not. Listen to this episode of My Extra Mile to hear how David transforms the world around him—like a magician.

You will want to hear this episode if you are interested in...

 

• How to experience the world of the magician
• The transformational power of kindness
• Overcoming the weight of anger

  The weight of anger

 

David points out that if you're angry, you have to think specific thoughts, move in a certain way, and focus on certain things. Anger is something you do—not something you are, and it includes movement, thought processes, and physiology. There must be a catalyst, and then you must assign it meaning. You can become triggered by something or someone, and then you behave angrily. 

 

When you behave angrily, you are scowling, tense, and focused on something negative. What if your pilot is late for your flight? Or the plane needs maintenance? Or is it rescheduled because of the weather? People get so upset by that. Things change, it comes with the territory. 

The transformational power of kindness

 

When you're emitting angry energy, what happens? People are impatient, frustrated, short, impolite, and unapologetic. The person helping them is doing so under pressure. Because they have a job to do, they have to steel themselves. 

 

David could walk up to that same person with warm and compassionate energy and say, "Hey, how are you doing?" and be genuinely kind. You can apologize for the person you were behind. He often asks people if they want a hug. While a stranger isn't likely to hug you, your demeanour leads to immediate response. The tension rolls off of them. The response is almost always a relief, openness, and a willingness to help. 

 

You have the ultimate power.

 

You get to decide how you respond in any given situation. You have the power to share kindness. The intention is always to be giving. If someone is having a bad day and they're angry, short, and frustrated—look at it as a personal challenge. The angrier the person is, the more compassionate David tries to be. You have the absolute power to manage the situation. This person may not be deserving of his kindness. But he can break through it. 

 

You have the power to create a beautiful outer world. A world where people will bend over backwards to do kind things for you. How? By just being kind. By emitting different energy. If someone isn't more compassionate in response, at least you're in a calm and centered place. 

 

David went to one of Cesar Milan's live shows, and he would bring out wild dogs that were uncontrollable. He would transform them within minutes. Cesar calls it calm-assertive energy. What if you started implementing calm assertive energy in your daily life?

 

How to experience the world of the magician 

 

If you want to experience the world of the magician and you want everything to work in your favour, you must understand that you have to give disproportionately. You give to people that don't deserve it. You elevate above situations.

 

Magical things will happen wherever you go. David emphasizes that if you want to taste the life of the wizard, you have to practice. Walk into a bar or restaurant and pretend to close up. Don't communicate, be short with people, and watch how people treat you. They mirror your energy. 

 

But when you're open, kind, confident, caring, and loving, people tend to open up. You must love beyond the capacity of most people to receive. You give without expecting anything in return. The world will repay you tenfold. And that is how you embrace the power of the magician. 

 

Connect with David T.S. Wood

• Follow David on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtswood
• Follow David on Instagram: @DavidTSWood
• Follow David on Twitter: @DavidTSWood1

 

If you're feeling unfocused or overwhelmed with your schedule it can be hard to focus on time management strategies. In this enlightening episode of My Extra Mile, David T. S. Wood interviews serial-investor, multi-millionaire, and wonder-mom, Susan Sly. If you're interested in learning how to master your schedule, effectively structure your week, and find time for what matters most to you, this episode is a must-hear!

 

You will want to hear this episode if you are interested in...

 

• Learning how to master time management
• Identifying your primary need and focusing on it
• Actively structuring your day and week
• A challenge to help you identify your goals
• Taking time for yourself so you can be your best self
• A day in the life of a successful businesswoman
• Pushing yourself forward to become who you want to be
• Learning how to set boundaries
• Deciding to move forward towards your goals

 

How time management strategies can change your life

 

You have the same amount of time in your day as the people you admire. All the obstacles you face may seem overwhelming, but there is always a way out.

 

First, identify what your primary needs are in life, and focus on achieving that one goal. Whether it's money, health, or family time, take the steps you need to accomplish crucial things in your situation. Then, actively structure your day and week to work for YOU by making a schedule that helps you meet your goals.

 

If you feel scattered, determine how much value your time is worth and then figure out where your time is currently going. For example, write down everything you do for a month to see where your time is going and where you can restructure your days to make the most of your time.

 

Using a schedule to get more of what you want

 

Susan suggests always making your schedule the night before so you can know what to expect each day. Being strict with your schedule will help you reach your goals so you can actively make time for yourself, your family, and your business goals. She suggests taking 45 minutes daily to your income-producing activities and staying focused on what you're going TO, not what you're going to THROUGH at any given time.

 

A common mistake people make is resisting change and being too comfortable being uncomfortable. But, if you want to reach your goals, you have to become someone you've never been. Going backward in life should scare you enough to push you forward. Figure out what you need to say "no" to every day so that you can say "yes" to the things that matter.

 

Setting boundaries and taking care of yourself first

 

What boundaries do you need to set to keep yourself focused on the things that matter most? For example:

• Not working on Sundays
• Powering down electronic devices at a set time
• Getting enough sleep
• Canceling things when necessary

 

What have you done in the last 24-hours that moved you towards your goals and dreams? If you're feeling unmotivated, start with:

1. Getting a book or study materials to keep you focused
2. Writing out 100 goals
3. Doing something every day to work towards your goals

 

Taking care of yourself first will allow you to be there for everyone and everything else. Make sure your actions align with what you want most. Ten years from now, what will your legacy be? What will you wish you spent more time doing? You have to CHOOSE to move forward towards your goals to create the type of future you want.

Connect with Susan Sly

 

• Susan Sly on Instagram: @susansly
• Follow Susan on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SusanSlyLive/
• Book: Organize Your Life

 

Connect with David T. S. Wood

 

• Follow David on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtswood
• Follow David on Instagram: @DavidTSWood
• Follow David on Twitter: @DavidTSWood1

When it comes to working with your best friend, learning how to succeed together will help you become even closer. In this episode of My Extra Mile, David T. S. Wood talks with best friends Kylie Donaldson and Emma Van Der Waal about their journey and their key to success is doing it together.

David used to hold grudges. He lived as though things were happening “to” him and he’d blame, justify, and complain. He didn’t realize the impact holding on to grudges was having on him. Now, David practices something called immediate forgiveness. What is the concept? How does it benefit him? In this episode of My Extra Mile, David shares how immediate forgiveness impacts your health, how it changes your outlook and transforms your life.

How do you go from “look at me” to “here I am?” How do you bridge the gap from operating in ego and arrogance to embracing your true self? How do you move from invisible to known? This is just one of many of the deep topics that Zach Slobin and David. T.S. Wood share in this episode of My Extra Mile. Don’t miss his inspiring and emotional story.

Many women are struggling with authenticity and transparency in a world that exerts pressure on them to be perfect. Women tend to get lost in their children and their spouses. When their kids are grown and out of the home, they feel they have nothing left to contribute. That it’s too late to transition. But according to Tanya Kirkpatrick, you can make this the best chapter of your life. Tanya is authentic, transparent, and passionate about coming alongside women and lifting them up.

David is a big believer in radical change. It’s easy for him to see how someone lives—from understanding their relationships, bank accounts, and bedrooms—in a short conversation. How? Based on the language they use. Many people don’t take a full inventory of the words or phrases they use daily. They don’t realize how limiting they can be. So how do you break those chains of habit? Listen to this episode of My Extra Mile as David T. S. Wood shares how you can rebuild your dictionary.

What is true intimacy? How do you get right with your “wobbly” self? What is your wobbly self? Relationship and intimacy expert Allana Pratt joins David in this episode of My Extra Mile for a conversation about intimacy in its truest form. She takes a deep dive into learning how to become “whole.” She shares how to have dyadic conversations with your significant other. Allana even walks through one of her signature meditations and talks about her new “dating” app. Don’t miss this episode!

You will want to hear this episode if you are interested in...

 

• What is true intimacy?
• How to get right with your “wobbly” self
• Sexual energy is sacred lifeforce energy
• How to have a dyadic conversation
• The journey to being “The One”
• What does becoming “whole” mean?
• Allana’s signature meditation: The “Little You”
• Learn all about Allana’s app: HeartMates

How to have a dyadic conversation

 

Allan shares that the idea of a dyad is to put aside 45 minutes to an hour once a week to create a safe space to just have a conversation where everything is sacred to talk about. You ask each other these questions

 

• Tell me something you like about me?
• Tell me something you think we align on?
• Tell me something you’re afraid to tell me? Tell me something you want me to understand? The third question can always change.

 

The other person can only say “thank you.” There is no judgment. The conversations can take you anywhere. Relationships aren’t about total agreement. They aren’t about control. They’re about being understood. Being an active listener is being willing to let your opinions change. These conversations and relationships allow the other to have a safe space to be who they are. It is love without conditions. Allana knows you’ll be amazed at the depth of intimacy that evolves.

The journey to being “The One”

 

Growing up, Allana’s dad was always drunk and stoned. So, she spent her life looking for a man to save her. She was looking to find the “one” to complete her. After two failed marriages, she realized that the only commonality was herself. She was still seeking approval from the outside in to be okay with herself. She never gave herself the approval she had been seeking.

 

Allana emphasizes that when you go into a relationship from “empty” looking for someone else to complete you, your insecurities meet one another’s insecurities and it’s a train wreck waiting to happen. It doesn’t work. But what if two “wholes” came together? You complement one another, you don’t complete each other. You become greater than the sum of the parts.

 

It is your job to complete yourself. It is your job to heal the wounds of your past. It’s your job to make the very worst the very best. Whole mates stand beside one another. You give from the overflow to your partner. That overflow spills into humanity. You uplift others. The world needs more heart-mate couples. What does becoming “whole” mean? What does it look like? Listen to learn more.

Allana’s signature meditation: The “Little You”

 

Are you seeking approval from other people? How do you stop looking for external validation? It starts on the inside. Allana points out that when we do inner integration work, it involves our thoughts, images, emotions, and body sensations. All four need to be fully integrated so your brain and nervous system transform. Have a dialogue with your “little you.” What do the “little you” need? What are you doing to feed his or her hunger for connection?

 

Instead of trying to “fix” yourself, have a dialogue with yourself. Your “little you” can say “You call me fat!” and you have to say “I hear you, thank you. What else?” You have to find rapport with yourself. Soon, that dissociated part of you will start to trust you. You will always have your back. You develop humility and dignity. That is attractive. It’s a powerful exercise.

 

Allana shares about her dating app as well as another practice you can do morning and night to become your most congruent self. Don’t miss this episode, where David and Allana talk about how to “Become the one, to find the one, to keep the one.”  

Resources & People Mentioned

 

• The HeartMath Institute

 

Connect with Allana Pratt

 

• Allana’s Website
• The HeartMates Dating App
• Allana’s Podcast
• Watch on YouTube

Connect with David T. S. Wood

 

• Follow David on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtswood
• Follow David on Instagram: @DavidTSWood
• Follow David on Twitter: @DavidTSWood1

Mahatma Gandhi. Nelson Mandela. Mother Teresa. Oprah Winfrey. What do they all have in common? What sets them apart? They were and are some of the most compassionate people in the world. Their legacies will endure throughout history. Why? Because they are freedom-fighters and philanthropists, driven by compassion. In this episode of My Extra Mile, David T.S. Wood uses these famous examples to drive home the need to embrace a compassionate mindset every single day.

You will want to hear this episode if you are interested in…

 

• Examples of people who left a legacy of compassion
• How compassion must grow from within you
• The ability of compassion to change someone’s life
• David’s challenge to live more compassionately

 

Famous examples to learn from

 

Gandhi was a lawyer who lived in South Africa and was heavily persecuted for the color of his skin (apartheid endured In South Africa until 1994). He went back to India and eventually led them to independence from British rule. Gandhi endorsed a peaceful process to right wrongs through compassion—not hatred. He lived with a level of compassion that mobilized an entire nation.

 

Nelson Mandela was a South African political leader, philanthropist, and anti-apartheid revolutionary. Mother Teresa was a Roman-Catholic nun who dedicated her life to caring for the poor. She became one of the most powerful people in the world and opened doors because of her compassion. Oprah Winfrey’s ability to connect and identify with humanity set her apart. She’s known around the world for her philanthropy. All of these great people in history wielded a sword of compassion.

Compassion must grow from within

 

David emphasizes that compassion is something that has to start internally. You have to learn to be compassionate with yourself. Stop comparing yourself with other people. Dark energies of jealousy and self-loathing will start to creep in. Self-love diminishes. You must be compassionate with yourself to be compassionate with others.

 

David has learned to see people as people. All people—regardless of their economic background, their education, the color of their skin, or their beliefs—are people. Everyone’s hearts beat the same. This is a fragile life. We have physical and emotional fragility. We all carry wounds from the past. Compassion is a powerful force that connects humanity and allows you to connect on a deep and meaningful level.

Challenge your long-held stereotypes

 

Walk up to someone. What goes through your head? Do you immediately judge their appearance? Does it evoke fear in you? You can find a man in a leather jacket and covered in tattoos completely intimidating. But he could be the father of three young kids and one of the kindest men you’ll ever meet. David challenges you to practice extreme compassion. Whoever it is that you walk up to, project a different thought pattern. Project interest and fascination instead of fear and judgment.

Compassion may change someone’s life

 

David had a conversation with a friend’s daughter in which she used the blanket statement that “Hitch-hiking is dangerous.” David challenged her stereotype. He doesn’t see it as bad or necessarily unsafe and will gladly pick up hitchhikers on the side of the road and give them a ride and a meal.

 

Years ago, David was driving through rural Zimbabwe and he picked up a hitchhiker. A few months later, she came and lived with David and Pam in Canada. That hitch-hiking experience changed her life. Her family in Zimbabwe was deeply impacted when former President Robert Mugabe seized the farms of every white family living there. Meeting David led to a series of events which allowed her to provide for her family. If you live in fear and live by blanket statements and stereotypes, it pushes you away from compassion.

 

David’s challenge to you: Take 90 days and notice every time you move out of compassion. Take a moment, open your eyes, and have a beautiful conversation. Push fear aside and move into a richer and deeper connection. Watch what happens when you learn to lead with compassion.

Resources & People Mentioned

 

• Mahatma Gandhi
• Mother Teresa
• Nelson Mandela
• The Truth and Reconciliation Commission

 

Connect with David T. S. Wood

• Follow David on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtswood
• Follow David on Instagram: @DavidTSWood
• Follow David on Twitter: @DavidTSWood1