In this forty-fifth episode of My Kind of Business, Alex is joined by Becca Upton — also known as The No BS Therapist — for a candid conversation about authenticity, individuality and building a private practice that truly reflects who you are.
Becca shares her journey from childhood dreams and traditional NHS therapy roles to creating a bold, personality-led private practice supporting organised, type A women navigating burnout, exhaustion and overthinking. Her style is realistic, honest and refreshingly direct — challenging long-held ideas about what a therapist “should” look and sound like.
Together, Alex and Becca explore what happens when you stop trying to fit the professional mould. From dyeing her hair and ditching formal dress codes to swearing in sessions and showing up unapologetically online, Becca explains how embracing her true self didn’t repel clients — it attracted the right ones.
This episode dives into perfectionism, black-and-white thinking, and the pressure to “get it right” — especially for high achievers building businesses. Becca opens up about balancing ambition with flexibility, managing workload boundaries, and redefining success in a way that prioritises freedom and fulfilment over societal expectations.
They also break down what therapy actually looks like behind closed doors — the structure of a typical session, different therapeutic approaches such as CBT, person-centred, attachment and compassion-focused therapy — and how flexibility sits at the heart of meaningful client work.
From workshops and retreats to her Destress Membership and live online sessions, Becca shares her vision for growing her impact without losing the authenticity that built her brand.
If you’ve ever felt like you don’t quite fit the stereotype in your industry — this conversation is your permission slip to do things differently.
In this episode, Alex and Becca explore:
Becca’s childhood ambitions and early career influences
The shift from NHS therapy to private practice
Breaking professional stereotypes in the therapy industry
Authentic self-expression in business and marketing
How individuality attracts aligned clients
Building a “no BS” brand and setting clear boundaries
Managing perfectionism and black-and-white thinking
The structure and flexibility of therapy sessions
Different therapeutic approaches: CBT, person-centred, attachment and compassion-focused
Balancing ambition with self-care and lifestyle freedom
Redefining success beyond societal metrics
Future plans: workshops, retreats, collaborations and expanded offerings
The power of community, diversity in personality types and client preference
Timestamps
[00:00] Introduction: redefining therapy on your terms
[01:00] Childhood dreams and early influences
[02:30] From NHS to private practice
[04:00] Dyeing hair, swearing and casual dress codes
[05:45] Industry norms versus authenticity
[07:00] Marketing self-expression and attracting the right clients
[08:30] Building a no-BS brand
[09:45] Breaking therapist stereotypes
[11:00] Relatability and connection in therapy
[12:30] Authenticity and client retention
[14:00] What a typical therapy session looks like
[15:45] Different therapy approaches explained
[17:45] Overcoming first-session nerves
[19:00] First-year lessons in business
[20:30] Flexibility and freedom in private practice
[22:00] Balancing ambition with self-care
[23:45] Future plans and expansion
[25:15] Workload balance and perfectionism
[28:00] Advice for high achievers
[30:00] Redefining success
[32:00] Future experiments and growth
[34:00] Community and authentic connections
[36:00] Individuality in professional spaces
[38:00] Letting go of rigid expectations
[40:00] Business as an extension of your true self
[41:30] Final reflections: My kind of business is…
Key Highlights
Authenticity as a client attraction strategy
Breaking stereotypes in traditional industries
Managing perfectionism in business
Building flexibility without sacrificing ambition
Redefining professionalism on your own terms
Creating a business aligned with personality and values
Connect with Becca
Becca Upton is The No BS Therapist — helping organised, type A women with exhaustion, burnout and overthinking to find balance whilst still getting sh*t done. Her approach is realistic, honest and rooted in helping clients rewire their thinking and find their grey area.
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_no_bullshit_therapist
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61565579537810
Website: https://beccauptontherapy.co.uk/
Destress Membership (7 day free trial):
https://buymeacoffee.com/thenobullshittherapist/membership
Free 9-minute breathwork session:
https://buymeacoffee.com/thenobullshittherapist/intro-breathing-9-mins
Resources Mentioned
The Confidence Code by Katty Kay & Claire Shipman
Attachment Theory Overview
Connect with Alex
Website: https://www.alexmccarthycoaching.com/
Book onto an upcoming Business Connection Session:
https://www.alexmccarthycoaching.com/business-connection-sessions