Love is Self-Less not Selfish

This Episode continues the quest of establishing what Love is vs what it is not.  In this episode we are navigating the perils of selfish relationships and teaching valuable skills in avoiding to toxic or egocentric love.

In the American Psychological Association (APA) dictionary, the definition of “selfishness” is listed as:  the tendency to act excessively or solely in a manner that benefits oneself, even if others are disadvantaged.

We are social beings at the core

BALANCE IS KEY

1. Too much selfishness (or self centeredness) can suffocate the relationship by fostering hard feelings, emotional distancing and neglect.

2. Too much selflessness can make you feel taken advantage of, feel under appreciated or resentful.

Find a balance using communication, understanding and compromise.  Recognize your individual needs, your partner needs and the needs of the relationship as a whole.

TAKE ACTION!

1. Focus on your partner’s priorities

Create a list of the top 10 items your partner cares about the most. Have your partner do the same. Share it with your partner

When your hear the list, listen without judgment and ask clarifying questions to see your partner’s perspective.

Have a collaborative discussion about the items on the list and edit accordingly.

Each week, pick one item from your partner’s list and make it your focus priority.  

2. Create shared experiences

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In this podcast episode, we dive into the power of honor, a fundamental principle that has the potential to elevate your relationships to extraordinary heights. Discover how honor creates a safe haven for authenticity, celebrates your partner’s true self, and fosters a deep and enduring connection.

Key Points:

Practical Definition of Honor: Recognizing another person’s worth, valuing their opinions and feelings, and treating them with dignity.

Benefits of Honoring:

10 Practical Ways to Honor Your Partner:

Active Listening: Put away distractions, listen without interrupting, and show genuine interest.

Acknowledge Feelings and Show Empathy: Validate their opinions, emotions, and right to feel their way.

Respect Boundaries: Be mindful of their triggers and avoid pushing them beyond their comfort zone.

Keep Promises: Demonstrate trustworthiness and reliability by fulfilling your commitments.

Speak Kindly: Use words wisely and avoid sarcasm, criticism, or hurtful comments.

Express Gratitude Regularly: Recognize and appreciate their efforts, both big and small.

Support Goals and Aspirations: Encourage their dreams, be their cheerleader, and offer support.

Value Their Time and Commitments: Be considerate of their schedule and obligations.

Maintain Physical Intimacy: Nurture intimacy amidst busy schedules and show affection through gestures and touch.

Forgive Mistakes: Practice true forgiveness, which involves moving forward without holding grudges.

Conclusion:

Honoring your partner is not a fleeting gesture; it’s a lifelong commitment that requires love, patience, and care. By incorporating these principles into your daily interactions, you can cultivate a relationship built on mutual respect, deep connection, and enduring love.

Isaac and Michelle discuss the differences between pride and arrogance, and explore the negative effects of arrogance in relationships. They highlight some common characteristics of arrogance, such as criticism, lack of compromise, and judgmental attitudes, and offer tips on how to avoid them. Tune in to this insightful podcast to learn more.

WHAT IS PRIDE?  WHAT IS ARROGANCE?  

Arrogance can be defined as the personality trait where a person has an obnoxiously elevated sense of self-worth. It is a disrespectful trait because the arrogant person acts as though superior or more valuable than others. Arrogance listed as a trait of narcissistic behavior and is characterized by having an exaggerated sense of our importance or abilities.  Sometimes, people are arrogant because they wrongly believe that their expertise will justify their behavior.

Some characteristics of arrogance can manifest in the following examples:

Join Isaac and Michelle as they explore the do’s and don’ts of these characteristics and learn how to avoid them in your relationship.

“Love is this, not that!”  is a series that breaks down healthy relationship principles with actionable implementation steps that you can implement right away.

In this episode, Isaac and Michelle will dive into another attribute of love- of Kindness.  They will share what it is and what it is not.  Join them as they share research, strategies and techniques that you can use immediately to grow your relationship and and family.

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“Love is this, not that!”  is a series that breaks down healthy relationship principles with actionable implementation steps that you can implement right away.

In this episode, Isaac and Michelle will dive into the topic of patience, what it is and what it is not.  Join them as they share research, strategies and techniques that you can use immediately to grow your relationship and and family.

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Sooner or later, relationships will experience conflict.  It is not the absence of conflict that makes a successful marriage.  It is the ability to resolve conflict that strengthens a relationship.  In this episode, Isaac and Michelle will explore practical ways to resolve conflict in sensitive situations as they share their own lessons and experiences.

This is the first episode of “My Little Family.”  Join Isaac and Michelle as they explore the Genesis (or beginnings) of strong, lasting relationships as well as how current beliefs and lifestyles can affect their outcome.