Here are the most common problems I see in my counselling sessions.  The longer you leave these issues unexplored the harder it is to find a resolution.

• Sexual issues
• Different views about money
• Lack of common goals
• Feeling misunderstood by partner
• Difficulty in openly expressing feelings and thoughts.
• Difficulty in expressing love and affection.
• Different interests
• Different parenting views
• Power struggles

Begin with reflecting on why your marriage is not working:

Be honest and speak truthfully as to why the marriage isn’t working. Use I statements, have turns in sharing, talking, and listening, regularly.

To start thinking about the changes that you can begin making is a great place to start.  Just creating space to look at this is a positive start.