My Voice

ANGER

Anger is a powerful emotion and if it isn't handled appropriately, it may have a destructive result for you and those closest to you. Well managed anger can be a useful emotion that motivates you to make positive changes. Uncontrolled anger 🤬 can lead to arguments, physical fights, physical abuse, assault and self- harm.

 LET ME TELL YOU A SHORT STORY:

There once was a little boy who had a very bad temper. His father decided to hand him a bag of nails and said that every time the boy lost his temper, he had to hammer a nail into the fence.

 On the first day, the boy hammered 37 nails into that fence.

The boy gradually began to control his temper over the next few weeks, and the number of nails he was hammering into the fence slowly decreased.

He discovered it was easier to control his temper than to hammer those nails into the fence.

Finally, the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father the news and the father suggested that the boy should now pull out a nail every day he kept his temper under control.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.

you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.”

 Moral of the story:

Control your anger, and don’t say things to people in the heat of the moment, that you may later regret. Some things in life, you are unable to take back

MY FEARS

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?

…And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. 

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” — (Marianne Williamson)

Welcome everyone to another episode of my voice, the first ever in this year.

I was afraid I'd lose my audience but thank you for always being here for me 

   We all battle with fears. Fear of failing, fear of poverty, fear of not being loved, fear of getting married to the wrong person, fear of letting go of past relationships, fear of admitting your faults, I can go on and on and on. 

No one gets a free pass when it comes to fear regardless of age, gender, race, nationality or social status. 

 Being afraid doesn't matter but what matters is how you respond or deal with such fears

Your fear might be telling you to accept your perfect imperfections and give yourself room to stumble and fall especially if you're trying something new.

  Let me share a short story of myself.

 I used to be afraid of cameras, spotlights anything that has to do with speaking in public, I can get so scared that I won't be able to express myself and most times I stutter, well I made a decision that this has to stop. In 2021 I did my first music audition organized by my local church, I had to face the judges, the lights and of course the cameras, I didn't make it to the main competition but I was glad I auditioned. That same year I joined the broadcasting unit in my local church, That's a unit where I'd have to cast news and take interviews with  cameras in front of me. I was given an assignment to speak to young female secondary school children, I wanted to decline because I felt I wasn't good enough for the assignment, I was scared I'd embarrass myself but I accepted it and I was amazed at my performance at the end. I did all these to  improve and grow. I am not where I was in 2021 and the years before. I am still growing.

  You see, use your fear as a guide to help you grow and become better than who you are now. Don't resist your fear face it.

"Remember your largest fear carries your greatest growth" ( Maria Stenvinkel).

“Mistakes are gateways of discovery”, and they offer a way to attempt something new.

What should you do if you make a mistake?

1. Accept responsibility for your error.

2. Allow yourself to experience negative

emotions.

3. Examine what occurred

4. reflect on the blunder.

Mistakes are a part of life.

It's how you respond to mistakes that counts.

Forgiveness means to let go of resentments, offences, it is to choose to let go of the grudge you have towards someone.

We do not choose our parents, if we have the choice a lot of us wouldn't choose the parents we have presently. Over the years I've observed that there are no perfect parent, they all try their best to raise us in the way they felt was best and in the process, they might hurt us kids, in one way or the other. Most of them might have been abusive both emotionally and physically. They might have ripped you off your favourite toys while you were still a kid, made you sit on the floor instead of the couch, made you eat stalled meals instead of fresh meals, compared you with others and made you felt you were not good enough and that made you hold a grudge against them.

Forgiving our parents is one of the most crucial kinds of forgiveness. We see our parent in our bosses, in our mates, even our friends and children. Letting our parent off the hook is the first step towards maturity, self acceptance and happiness .

There's  a little bit of crazy in all of us, so simply know and accept your craziness

That way, you control it and it doesn't control you.

Take a Look at a picture of yourself as a baby,

Would you ever criticize that child for being flawed? Of course not.

So why do that to yourself now?

Part of knowing ourselves is  also being able to accept who we are and to value

ourselves regardless of our flaws. Accepting who we are allows us to value

our worth without condition or reservation.

(Diane Greene)

My heart speaks to me when I'm silent

I find myself in my silence

I chastise myself in the silence of my heart

In my silence I experience my own divinity

In my silence I experience my own beauty and perfection

I have learned more from being quiet and embracing silence than I've learned from talking and thinking

Silence is my greatest teacher

My silence whispers things in my ear helping me know things I won't be able to discover from anywhere else

In silence there is eloquence

In my silence stress is extinguished

My sensitivity is heightened in my silence

PAIN IS BEAUTIFUL because according to Angelina Jolie: Without pain, there would be no suffering, without suffering we would never learn from our mistakes. To make it right, pain and suffering is the key to all windows, without it, there is no way of life. Decide today to rise above your pain and take hold of your future. Enjoy the rest of your day. 

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