In this season premiere of Eden Restored, Dr. Stacy and Rhonda Spencer break down the first three phases every couple faces in marriage: the Dream Phase, the Recovery Phase, and the Disappointment Phase. From rose-tinted glasses to real-world conflicts, quirks, and unmet expectations, they share honest stories, practical tools, and biblical wisdom to help you press through and grow deeper together.

00:00 – Welcome back!

00:19 – Why restoration matters for couples

00:43 – Today’s topic: longevity in marriage

00:52 – The 6 phases of marriage explained

01:16 – Don’t give up before you go up

01:40 – God’s vision for marriage

02:04 – The 6 phases overview

02:27 – Phase 1: The Dream Phase

03:15 – What makes the Dream Phase so powerful

04:02 – Phase 2: The Recovery Phase

04:45 – Facing conflict and reality checks

05:36 – Phase 3: The Disappointment Phase

06:22 – Why couples quit too soon

07:05 – Tools for pushing through hard seasons

08:30 – Closing thoughts and encouragement

In this powerful and transparent episode of the Naked and Unashamed SLS Podcast, Dr. Stacy and Rhonda Spencer open up about the hard-earned wisdom behind their joyful marriage. With honesty, humor, and hope, they dive into two of the biggest relationship game-changers: financial nakedness and emotional vulnerability.From growing up in poverty to building a solid financial future together, the Spencers share how they created a spending plan, navigated joint and personal accounts, dealt with debt, and stayed united through economic storms. They offer real, relatable advice about budgeting, emergency funds, and prioritizing shared goals like retirement and travel.But they don’t stop at money. This episode goes deeper into emotional safety, nonviolent communication, and how to talk to your spouse in a way that invites connection rather than conflict. With stories from their own journey—including breakthroughs around communication, intimacy, and trust—this is more than a podcast; it's a roadmap for couples who want to thrive.Whether you’re married, engaged, or seriously dating, this episode is a must-watch if you’re ready to build a relationship where both partners can be fully known, fully seen, and fully loved—naked and unashamed.Timestamps:00:00 – Intro & Toy Story Kickoff01:00 – The Truth Behind Our Smiles: Working Through the Mud04:00 – Financial Nakedness: From Pell Grants to Property Ownership08:00 – Budgeting Tips, Homeowner Hacks & the Envelope System13:00 – Joint vs. Separate Accounts Debate16:00 – Paying Off Debt: Real Testimonies19:00 – Joseph's Famine Principle Applied Today21:00 – Emotional Nakedness: Learning to Communicate with Grace30:00 – Childhood Trauma, Roaches, and Relationship Clean-Up33:00 – Trust, Honesty, and the Fruits of Repentance40:00 – Eden Circle, Marriage Mastery, and Final Wordswww.TheEdenCircle.comThe Eden Circle is an exclusive membership in the inner circle of Dr. Stacy L. Spencer and Rhonda Spencer. It is a select group of married couples who receive coaching concerning intimacy, communication, conflict resolution, spiritual guidance, and sexual healing.Subscribe, Like & Share:Help us reach 1,000 couples this year by subscribing and sharing this episode with your married or dating friends. Let’s grow stronger—together.

We were faithful, but still frustrated. Praying together, but not really present.

In this powerful Part 1 of this marriage deep dive special, Dr. Stacy and Rhonda Spencer walk through their journey from early shame and spiritual disconnect to prayer, laughter, and deep intimacy. They talk about what it really takes to feel safe, seen, and sensual in Christian marriage—without censorship.

First orgasms and first heartbreaks: what the Church didn't teach

Trauma and emotional toll of their son's early medical issues

P*rn vs. real connection

Prayer before pleasure—and how it helped them build a marriage that feels fun, free, and fully intimate

Are you ready to take your Love, Marriage Sex to the next level? Tune in to our Love and Marriage podcast to hear experts discuss all things relationship-related! Learn real secrets, tips, and tricks to help you feel the love. Join us Every Monday at 7pm. 💞 #LoveAndMarriage #love #marriage #relationship #marriage #marriedlife #marriagegoals #love #podcast

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The Eden Circle is an exclusive membership in the inner circle of Dr. Stacy L. Spencer and Rhonda Spencer. It is a select group of married couples who receive coaching concerning intimacy, communication, conflict resolution, spiritual guidance, and sexual healing.

“People see the smiles… but not the scars.”
This is the teaser for a two-part series from Dr. Stacy and Rhonda Spencer, licensed sex doulas, marriage counselors, and ministry leaders with over 30 years together.

In this deeply personal look at their journey, the Spencers share:

• The spiritual and emotional disconnect that almost broke them

• Their early struggles with sex, shame, and silence

• How prayer, vulnerability, and curiosity transformed their connection

• What it really means to be naked — emotionally, spiritually, physically — and unashamed

For married and seriously dating couples. For those healing. For those hoping.

Subscribe now so you don’t miss Part 1 — premiering next week.
Available on YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.

This content is for informational purposes only. We are licensed sex doulas and certified Christian counselors. We don’t offer replacements for personal therapy or pastoral care.

Let us know in the comments:
What’s one area of intimacy you're praying to rebuild this year?

How do you balance holiness, happiness—and horniness—in a thriving marriage?In this episode of Naked & Unashamed, Dr. Stacy and Rhonda Spencer tackle the topic every married couple feels but few churches teach: stewarding sexual desire with joy and without shame.Learn how to communicate your needs, cultivate deeper intimacy, and align your spiritual and physical connection the way God intended.You'll discover:The myth of "either holy or happy"Why horniness (desire) is a holy signal for connectionHow to steward desire without shamePractical steps for fostering erotic language & sacred sexHow communication & mutual agreement protect your marriageJoin us—and share with another couple ready to be Naked & Unashamed.00:00 — The Challenge of Balancing Holy, Happy & Horny00:52 — Why We Must Disciple Married Couples on Desire01:33 — Introducing the 3 H’s: Holy, Horny, Happy02:19 — The “False Dichotomy” of Holy vs. Happy03:36 — Naked & Without Shame: God’s Intent for Desire04:35 — Marriage is a Sacred Space for All 3 H’s04:58 — Let’s Talk About Desire (Horniness)06:27 — When the Body Speaks Louder Than the Schedule07:01 — Stewarding Desire: Suppression vs. Misdirection08:07 — You Were Created for Connection09:04 — How God Designed the Marriage Bed09:29 — Four Practical Steps for Stewarding Desire09:39 — #1 Name It Without Shame10:26 — #2 Sometimes You Need to Schedule Intimacy11:26 — #3 Learn Each Other’s Erotic Language13:14 — The Power of Erotic Communication13:53 — #4 Schedule Sacred Sex (Touch Over Penetration)15:55 — 1 Corinthians 7:5 — Don’t Deprive Each Other Without Agreement16:28 — How to Communicate Needs with Mutual Agreement17:15 — Don’t Weaponize Sex—Worship God Through Unity18:11 — Breaking Down Happy, Holy, and Horny19:05 — The Power of Self-Love and Knowing What Pleases You19:52 — Why All 3 Need to Be in Balance20:26 — Marriage Thrives with Communication, Priority & Connection21:12 — Final Reflections: Don’t Let Shame Win21:33 — Speak Up: Marriage Is Not About Suffering in Silence22:03 — Takeaway Questions for Reflection24:17 — How to Connect with Our Coaching Community25:22 — Final Blessing: Be Holy, Be Happy, Be HornyAre you ready to take your Love, Marriage Sex to the next level? Tune in to our Love and Marriage podcast to hear experts discuss all things relationship-related! Learn real secrets, tips, and tricks to help you feel the love. Join us Every Monday at 7pm. 💞 #LoveAndMarriage #love #marriage #relationship #marriage #marriedlife #marriagegoals #love #podcastwww.TheEdenCircle.comThe Eden Circle is an exclusive membership in the inner circle of Dr. Stacy L. Spencer and Rhonda Spencer. It is a select group of married couples who receive coaching concerning intimacy, communication, conflict resolution, spiritual guidance, and sexual healing.

In this episode of Naked & Unashamed SLS, Dr. Stacy and Rhonda get real about how money—whether abundant, missing, or mismanaged—shapes intimacy, trust, and power in marriage.

They unpack how unresolved financial tension shows up in the bedroom, why transparency is sexier than secrets, and how faith and shared vision can restore connection where resentment has crept in.

From "pillow talk" budget meetings to dealing with shame from financial trauma, this conversation is raw, spiritual, sex-positive, and real.

You’ll learn how to:

- Unpack the spiritual/emotional meaning of money in relationships

- Identify how finances shape power and desire

- Rebuild intimacy through transparency and shared vision

- Heal from financial trauma together

- Use scripture and sacred sex to realign your connection

00:00 - Intro: No Romance Without Finance

03:00 - Money Isn’t Just About Money

06:45 - When Money Feels Like Power

13:19 - Scripture Spotlight: Amos 3:3

14:10 - Tip 1: Monthly Money & Intimacy Check-ins

15:10 - Tip 2: Shared Financial Vision

16:00 - Tip 3: Undress the Shame

17:00 - Bonus Insight: Mind & Body Connection

18:30 - Closing Word: Faith, Hope, and Love

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Are you ready to take your Love, Marriage Sex to the next level? Tune in to our Love and Marriage podcast to hear experts discuss all things relationship-related! Learn real secrets, tips, and tricks to help you feel the love. Join us Every Monday at 7pm. 💞 #LoveAndMarriage #love #marriage #relationship #marriage #marriedlife #marriagegoals #love #podcast

www.TheEdenCircle.com

The Eden Circle is an exclusive membership in the inner circle of Dr. Stacy L. Spencer and Rhonda Spencer. It is a select group of married couples who receive coaching concerning intimacy, communication, conflict resolution, spiritual guidance, and sexual healing.

Is your body really yours in marriage? Or does Scripture say something deeper?

In this provocative episode of the Naked and Unashamed SLS Podcast, Dr. Stacy and Rhonda Spencer unpack one of the most misunderstood verses in the Bible—1 Corinthians 7:4. But this isn’t just about sex—it’s about mutual consent, emotional safety, and spiritual intimacy.

They explore questions like:

• Is it biblical to say “no” to your spouse?

• How do couples steward each other’s bodies in a holy and pleasurable way?

• What’s the difference between desire and entitlement?

If you’ve ever wondered what it means to truly belong to each other in marriage—this conversation will stretch, liberate, and bless you.

Watch now, share with another couple, and don’t forget to hit that subscribe button as we push toward 1,000 subscribers on YouTube!

#NakedAndUnashamed #ChristianMarriage #1Corinthians7 #SexualWholeness #Consent #Marriage

In this powerful and raw episode of Naked and Unashamed, Dr. Stacy and Rhonda Spencer confront the silent drift that leads couples toward divorce — and offer candid, biblically grounded strategies to stop it in its tracks. From the dangers of emotional distance to the power of sacred touch, this conversation is a blueprint for any seriously dating or married couple who wants to build a marriage that lasts.

Get real answers on:

• The difference between a contract and a covenant

• Why silence and swallowed offenses kill intimacy

• How routine touch and spiritual connection revive love

• Why your sex life isn’t a “snack” — it’s the main meal

• Who should be pouring into your marriage

You’ll also hear about the upcoming “Love Without Limits” Marriage Workshop on June 7th and Sweet Talk at Soul Cafe on May 18th.

Whether you’re newly married or 30 years in — this is a conversation you can’t afford to ignore.

Register for the conference: nakedandunashamedsls.com
Eventbrite Tickets for Sweet Talk: [Search “Sweet Talk Soul Cafe” on Eventbrite]
Join Eden Circle community: theedencircle.com

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