Navigating Holidays as an Adoptee: Exploring Complex Emotions & Self Care

Episode Summary: 

For adoptees, holidays mean performance. Acting like you care, acting like you’re happy, acting like you’re grateful. And if you don’t perform, then you live in guilt. It’s ironic, because adoption itself is an act. Join us as we explore this and discuss what holidays are like for us adoptees. 

In this episode, we cover:

(00:38) Father’s day for adoptees 

(08:01) Mother’s day for adoptees

(11:15) Creating your own holiday traditions 

(13:46) Thanksgiving and christmas for adoptees 

(16:38) Always in debt

(18:29) “Performing” Christmas 

(20:14) Ruining the vibe 

(21:00) Not invited

(24:46) Doing your own thing

(25:39) Birthdays for adoptees

(29:47) The most f*cked up holiday OR Gotcha Day 

(33:37) Advice to adoptive families about holidays OR Question for adoptive families OR What every adoptive family must answer

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