In this episode of The Crux, Luke and I dive into the real reasons why intimacy breaks down in long-term relationships — and what it takes to rebuild it.

We explore how boys are conditioned from an early age to suppress emotion, and how this wiring leads many men to disconnect from their feelings in adulthood. The result? A painful dynamic where partners are asking for connection, and men don’t know how to give it — or worse, feel shame for even wanting to try.

We talk through:

• How masculine and feminine nervous systems process emotion differently
• The quiet damage caused by emotional avoidance
• Why many men equate vulnerability with weakness
• What happens when men finally feel safe enough to open up — especially in the company of other men

You’ll also hear personal stories from our work, insights from group coaching, and practical takeaways for creating deeper connection — not just with your partner, but with yourself.

00:00:00 - Introduction to Relationship Dynamics

00:05:30 - Masculine vs. Feminine Nervous Systems

00:10:00 - Cultural Conditioning and Emotional Expression

00:15:00 - The Impact of Emotional Closure

00:20:00 - The Role of Vulnerability in Relationships

00:25:00 - Personal Stories and Social Wounds

00:30:00 - Finding Solutions and Embracing Vulnerability

00:35:00 - Conclusion and Call to Action