Clayton Olson joins us today to talk about the relationships we build with others and ourselves and how to navigate personal growth within them.

Clayton is an International Relationship Coach, Author, and Facilitator, with over 15 years of experience enhancing and optimizing human behavior and social dynamics.

Throughout our conversation, we delve into the evolution of Clayton's relationship with himself, which led to developing his coaching career. We explore the effects of growing up in chaotic environments, how it defines our relating style, and how that makes us feel under safe, non-chaotic circumstances.  

We analyze the role of triggers in relationships and what they mean in terms of growth. We also touch on the difference between making a sober decision to walk away from a relationship and doing it because we felt triggered. 

Clayton also gifted us with golden nuggets on enhancing our relationship with ourselves, and he shared some practical yet powerful tools to do it.

Some Questions I Ask:

How did you land in the relationship space? (2:33)

When your dad passed away, you said that the chaos stopped, everything got still, and you didn't like what you saw. What was coming up for you in that stillness? (6:59)

In relationships, there are so many triggers that clearly are growth opportunities. Still, how do you know the distinction between a relationship to stay in and grow and a relationship not set for growth? (18:16)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Clayton shares about his journey and the discoveries he made about himself and his identity (5:11)

Clayton explains how growing up in chaotic environments affects how we create and behave in our relationships (9:03)

What is the best way to react to the pit in the stomach we feel when we find ourselves out of our comfort zone in a relationship (11:28)

Clayton describes how the meta-architecture of our relationships works (16:13)

Clayton talks about getting good at dancing in conflict with our partners (22:23)

Clayton talks about the importance of learning to be at peace with things instead of trying to solve them (33:21)

Resources:

Clayton Olson Coaching website

Book: Michael Singer - The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself

Book: Shanti Christo Foundation - Way of Mastery

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