I am celebrating my 100th podcast episode (Neuroqueering and Let Pleasure Be the Measure combined) with one of my new favorite people and the inspiration for my future work as I lean into creating cultures of neuroinclusion and accessibility.  All the way from northern Ireland, welcome Jamie Shields! 

Jamie Shields is a registered blind AuDHD speaker, trainer, and consultant, who works with individuals and brands, helping them make inclusive accessible change.  He is also the creator of Disabled by Society. 

Jamie and I talk about DEIB, including the concept of neurobelonging, an internal sense of belonging and self-acceptance. 

I ask "How do we get leaders of organizations to care about disability and accessibility before it is their own lived experience?" This leads to an important conversation about power, privilege, anger,  ableism, discrimination, neurodiversity, and the importance of inclusive language. 

Follow Jamie on Linkedin @JamieShields 
www.disabledbysociety.com

Stay tuned for an exciting and even more expansive podcast coming soon!

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In today's "Neuroqueering" podcast, Ellie Carn (she/they), psychotherapist, and host Pasha Marlowe (she/they), marriage and family therapist and coach, explain what IFS (Internal Family Systems/"parts" work) is and why it is so effective for neurodivergent minds, especially those with ADHD and autism. Ellie begins with an overview and history of IFS then describes what the therapeutic process of parts work looks like. 

Ellie shares how traditional therapy models are often pathologizing and ableist, whereas, IFS is beneficial for neurodivergent people as it is empowering, playful, guided by the client, and creates space to "meet clients where they are at". Ellie even ponders if "parts work" is, in essence, unmasking. Pasha and Ellie conclude by encouraging listeners to try many different therapists and therapy modalities. 

IG @ifs_with_ellie
https://www.eleanorcarn.co.uk/
"No Bad Parts" book https://a.co/d/4AcMwBp

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https://pashamarlowe.com/
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In psychologically safe workplaces, people feel safe voicing their opinions about conflict and mistakes-without the fear of negative consequences. Leaders need to be brave-brave enough to invite open and honest feedback. Leaders need to hear what’s really going on, so dysfunctional and unhealthy patterns can be interrupted and problems can be solved. 

 But only when the most vulnerable team members, those with the most intersecting marginalized identities, feel free enough to express their thoughts and feelings, is an organization psychologically safe enough for everyone to thrive.

In this episode, Pasha talks about the cultural transformation that occurs when you intend to create psychologically safe spaces. She also talks about the term "safe space" and how we can never guarantee safety for all. Finally, she offers a framework to build "psychological safety nets" through the lens of intersectionality and inclusion. 

Please reach out to Pasha if you would like to hire her as a coach, consultant, or speaker at [email protected] 
She looks forward to helping you. 

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To reach Pasha (and please do, as she loves to connect with listeners!):
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https://pashamarlowe.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/pashamarlowe/
https://www.instagram.com/neuroqueercoach/
https://www.tiktok.com/@neuroqueercoach
https://linktr.ee/pashamarlowe

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AuDHD burnout is real! 
This episode (or is it a comedy routine?) is for anyone ADHD or autistic with a big event like a family gathering or conference coming up. 
Allow me to share ways to rock, ruin, and recover from your experience. 
From tips on traveling to recovering from sensory overload to how NOT to pee on your shoes, this conversation is raw, relatable, and hilarious, especially if you belong to a neurodivergent family! 




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To reach Pasha (and please do, as she loves to connect with listeners!):
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https://pashamarlowe.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/pashamarlowe/
https://www.instagram.com/neuroqueercoach/
https://www.tiktok.com/@neuroqueercoach
https://linktr.ee/pashamarlowe

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Part 2 of the Neuroqueering and Neurobelonging discussion

This episode provides practical tools and a complete framework for supporting neurodivergent and queer people. The skills you learn today will help ALL leaders (parents, teachers, coaches, and therapists) be neurodiversity-affirming and gender- affirming. 
Pasha shares the framework that was presented at the international ADHD conference that includes intersectionality, asking, affirming, and advocating. Concepts of psychological safety, non-apparent disability, inclusive design, and safe space are explored. 
Pasha states "Unless you intentionally include, you will unintentionally exclude" and encourages people to "drop the disorder" from our language. 
If you want to dig deeper into the concepts of the neurodiversity paradigm, psychological safety, inclusive language, and dual stigma, please listen to Part 1, entitled "Neurobelonging and the Neurodiversity Paradigm". 

Please reach out to Pasha with any questions or to discuss these concepts further at [email protected]
 

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https://pashamarlowe.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/pashamarlowe/
https://www.instagram.com/neuroqueercoach/
https://www.tiktok.com/@neuroqueercoach
https://linktr.ee/pashamarlowe

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Pasha Marlowe is on her way to the international ADHD conference to present "Neuroqueering: Beyond the Intersection of Neurodiversity and Queerness". She shares best practices for supporting neurodivergent and queer communities in part 1 of this highly actionable episode. 
Pasha answers questions such as:
"What is neuroqueer?"
"What is the neurodiversity paradigm?"
"What is the difference between fitting in, belonging, and neurobelonging?"
She also discusses how 1/2 of GenZ identifies as neurodivergent and will change the landscape of the workforce. 
Finally, she shares a framework and best practices for caring for and supporting the neuroqueer, neurodivergent, and queer communities. 
Part 2 coming soon! 


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To reach Pasha (and please do, as she loves to connect with listeners!):
email [email protected]
https://pashamarlowe.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/pashamarlowe/
https://www.instagram.com/neuroqueercoach/
https://www.tiktok.com/@neuroqueercoach
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Join Pasha Marlowe (she/her) and Rae Nelson (they/them), a DEIB leader and Human Resources Generalist, for a vulnerable and mind-shifting conversation about microaggressions and subtle acts of exclusion.  

Rae describes the 3 types of microaggressions and gives examples of each. They explain intention vs impact, implicit bias, and inclusive design through the lens of intersectionality, queerness, and non-apparent disability, and neurodiversity. 

The most impactful part of the conversation was when Pasha and Rae both shared personal and vulnerable stories about their past microaggressions and how those experiences inspired their work as activists and leaders.

To reach Rae Nelson:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/rae-n-629905234/

Resources Rae shared: 
 

Microaggressions mosquito video

https://www.uml.edu/research/advance/about/microaggressions.aspx

Interview with SAE Author Dr. Tiffany Jana

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CzL8tUmT3IU

Unconscious bias intro video: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KCgIRGKAbfc

 Microaggressions in Movies:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bjzWENcW6NQ

Derald Wing Sue on Microaggressions:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=okE-5eg7ARc

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https://pashamarlowe.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/pashamarlowe/
https://www.instagram.com/neuroqueercoach/
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Leela Sinha  (ze/zir) joins me today to talk about  zir work with the Intensives Institute and what it means to be an intensive. I have always identified as an intense person, so the intensive framework spoke to me. 

Leela shares that ze created the intensive framework because it makes people feel "less broken". So many of us intensives feel like we are "too much". We do not deal in small feelings. We are risk takers, innovators, and leaders. We go hard and come back for more. Often this causes conflict, especially in relationships, which Leela speaks to. 

We end with a discussion about intensive leaders can protect their boundaries and keep laughing, even as the world around us is experiencing collective trauma. 

To reach Leela: 
[email protected]
Tik Tok @leelasinha
Podcast "Power Pivot"

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https://pashamarlowe.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/pashamarlowe/
https://www.instagram.com/neuroqueercoach/
https://www.tiktok.com/@neuroqueercoach
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This episode is short, but mighty! Pasha unpacks neuroqueering, neuronormativity, heteronormativity, and the current pathologizing language of neurodivergence. She talks about needing a paradigm shift, away from the pathology paradigm and towards the neurodiversity paradigm, which uses neurodiversity-affirming and strength-based language. Pasha encourages listeners to go beyond adopting less pathologizing language and make meaningful shifts in mindset and behavior. Somehow, in 9 minutes, she also works pigs and pancakes into the conversation. Hello, AuDHD!

This is a small sample of Pasha's presentation on neuroqueering, which she is presenting at the 2023 Annual ADHD Conference.  To book Pasha as a speaker on neuroqueering, neurodiversity-affirming practices, or neurobelonging, please email her at [email protected].

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To reach Pasha (and please do, as she loves to connect with listeners!):
email [email protected]
https://pashamarlowe.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/pashamarlowe/
https://www.instagram.com/neuroqueercoach/
https://www.tiktok.com/@neuroqueercoach
https://linktr.ee/pashamarlowe

An easy way to support Pasha and her mission: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/pashamarlowe

Jen Berlingo (she/her) is a coach, thought-leader, and best-selling author of the book "Midlife Emergence". She and I talk about how we unmask and unravel truths as we shed social, cultural, and familial layers. 

Like Jen and I experienced, many women and non-binary folx are living heterofacing lives and feeling like their marriages are "fine" or "good enough on paper". The thought of leaving to explore their sexuality feels scary and, sometimes, selfish. And yet, the whispers of knowing turn into screams and they start fantasizing about the paths not taken. They want more-more truth, more connection, and more pleasure.

Jen and I discuss how coming out queer mirrors the journey of coming out neurodivergent. We dig into the language of neurodiversity and the messy middle and unpack systems of oppression. This is a revealing and empowering episode that will speak to any midlife person who is emerging through fear to the places that will set them free. 

Please share with a friend and it would mean the world if you would also subscribed to and/or reviewed the podcast. Thank you. 

Follow Jen Berlingo:
http://jenberlingo.com/
IG @jenberlingo

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HIRE PASHA to SPEAK at your next training event or conference.
Or hire her as your personal coach (1:1 and couples)
https://pashamarlowe.com/

To reach Pasha (and please do, as she loves to connect with listeners!):
email [email protected]
https://pashamarlowe.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/pashamarlowe/
https://www.instagram.com/neuroqueercoach/
https://www.tiktok.com/@neuroqueercoach
https://linktr.ee/pashamarlowe

An easy way to support Pasha and her mission: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/pashamarlowe