074 As human beings our nervous system is evolutionarily wired for connection.  While our life  circumstances have changed radically, our neolithic brains are still playing catch up in the modern world.  When a rupture happens in a close relationship we feel it on a primal level.  Core fear gets stirred that harken back to early childhood experiences and even deeper survival instincts coded in our genes.  In a time when more than half of marriages end in divorce it is critical to understand a roadmap for self care and the science of a good break up.

In this episode of Awake In Relationship I speak with Cole Zesiger a break up coach and author of Ex’s and No’s: The Breakup Advice You Don’t Want to Hear.  In this conversation we talk about the evolutionary biology driving our most extreme feelings and coping strategies during the end of a long term relationship.  We also discuss how attachment styles inform our approach to conflict and point us to a profound path of personal growth, insight and renewal.