Welcome back to New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast!

I am thrilled to welcome Jill Kaufman to the show for this episode. 

Jill is a divorce coach, therapist, mediator, and co-parenting expert. After going through her own difficult divorce, Jill made it her life's mission to help others not have it so tough. Her book, online course, and her transformational coaching program help parents navigate the overwhelming process of divorce so that they have less stress, more confidence and a greater sense of peace.

In this episode we address:

• The idea of "staying for the kids" and how it really impacts children
• Co-parents bad mouthing each other to the kids and ways to avoid falling into this trap
• How the BIFF style of communication is invaluable for parents going through divorce
• The importance of protecting yourself and your children emotionally 

You can join Jill's facebook group for divorce support here:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/separationanddivorcesupportcommunity.

or, find her on her website:

divorcecoachjill.com

As always you can find me on Instagram or by email or on my website nbdivorcecoaching.com. 

 

 

 

A few weeks ago, Tamar came across an instagram post in which a woman sent a Venmo request to the woman who had an affair with her husband. In the memo, she explained that since this woman played a role in her divorce, the other woman should at least contribute to it financially. She hashtagged the memo with "homewrecker" 

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This got Tamar thinking about accountability and who is actually responsible for the end of a marriage. Spoiler alert: it's not the woman who didn't take vows. 

In this episode, Tamar:

• Breaks down the misogyny behind the concept of the homewrecker and why we need to stop using the word
• Looks at how the idea of "girl code" stays with women throughout their lives
• Focuses on the importance of holding men, and men alone, accountable for the actions of men
• Differentiates between being responsible for causing pain and being responsible for the status of a marriage.

Share your thought on this episode on Instagram or email Tamar at [email protected]. Happy listening!

 

I am so excited to welcome Joelle Perez to the podcast to discuss mediation and why it's such a great option for people looking to end their marriages.

Joelle Perez is a compassionate and experienced divorce mediation attorney who serves as a neutral third party, helping clients reach mutually agreeable settlements with dignity and respect. Her mediation style is rooted in creating a safe, supportive environment that prioritizes the emotional and financial well-being of both spouses—and their children.

Having personally navigated divorce mediation, Joelle brings a unique and deeply empathetic perspective to her work. She understands firsthand the emotional challenges her clients face, which allows her to approach each case with sensitivity, insight, and a genuine commitment to helping families transition with care.

Joelle is the founder of Peacemaker Divorce Mediation, a practice dedicated to guiding clients through the divorce process in a cooperative, amicable, and cost-effective way. Her mission is to help individuals move forward with clarity, control, and compassion.

In addition to her private practice, Joelle is a leader in the field of divorce mediation. She is the Past President of the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation, the former Chair of the Council’s Nominating Committee, and former Co-Chair of its Education Committee. She also serves as Program Manager for the Long Island Collaborative Divorce Professionals, working to advance collaborative approaches to family law.

On this week's installment of the New Beginning's podcast, Tamar welcomes Nanette Murphy to talk about Netflix's new show, Four Seasons. 

A remake of a 1981 film of the same name, Four Seasons follows three couples in their 50s, all best friends since college, through one year of their lives -- as one of them decides he's ready to end his marriage and start a new chapter. 

Tamar is thrilled to be joined by Nanette Murphy to unpack these characters and their stories. 

Nanette Murphy is a dedicated Divorce and Life Reinvention Coach for women over 40, who understands the unique challenges that come with navigating life after divorce. Having experienced her own journey of healing and growth after a 25-year marriage, she has spent the last decade transforming her pain into purpose. Her mission is to empower women to prepare for the divorce process, gain essential knowledge, and ultimately thrive in their new lives. Nanette walks alongside her clients, offering support, guidance, and a compassionate ear as they heal, grow, and rediscover their true selves.

You can find Nanette at her website livelifenowwithpurpose.com.

As always you can find Tamar on instagram or threads @nbdivorcecoaching or on her website http://nbdivorcecoaching.com. 

 

 

It was an absolute pleasure to welcome Leah Hadley onto the podcast! Leah Hadley will tell you she's no stranger to financial challenges. She became an adoptive parent to three overnight, got divorced, and built her business from the ground up, to name a few. These were times when careful financial planning was critical to her peace of mind.

Now an award-winning financial planner, sought-after speaker, Accredited Financial Counselor (AFC), and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), Leah is the founder of Intentional Wealth Partners and Intentional Divorce Solutions as well as the host of the Intentional Divorce Insights podcast. She uses her knowledge and nearly 20 years of experience to help her clients make wise financial decisions so they can feel confident in their financial future.   We are so lucky to have Leah sharing her wisdom with us! If you'd like to connect with Leah, find her on Instagram at @watchherthrive or visit her website http://watchherthrive.co. Leah also has an active Facebook community which you can find by searching Watch Her Thrive on FB.    As always you can find me on Instagram at @nbdivorcecoaching. Book a free 20 minute coaching discovery call or reach out with any questions or comments on my website at http://nbdivorcecoaching.com.    I look forward to connecting with you!

Hi all, 

Welcome back! In this episode, I'm exploring the question of whether marriages can survive after there's been infidelity. 

I'm not simply answering the question, because the answer is easy. We *can* do anything. But looking at the why of it all is far more interesting and important if you're considering staying married to a person who has betrayed you in this way. 

Have a listen and let me know your thoughts. 

Find me on Instagram or on my website. 

We're back! After a summer hiatus that lasted through much of the fall, I'm thrilled to be back with a new episode of New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast. 

In this episode, I am looking at the natural trajectory of relationships and exploring how the commitment to a marriage impacts that natural course. 

I'd love to hear your thoughts after you listen. Please come find me on Instagram or email me at [email protected]. 

If you're interested in booking a free 20 min discovery call to learn more about divorce coaching, visit my website here: www.nbdivorcecoaching.com.

 

This week, I am so excited to welcome Victoria Kirilloff to the podcast.

Victoria is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Family Financial Mediator who helps clients get clear on their financial facts in order to make their divorces as financially successful as possible. 

After a decade in a marriage that wasn't working, Victoria found herself at a crossroads. Wanting to leave her partner, but recognizing that they were completely financially entangled, Victoria set out to make sense of the finances in order to bring about the freedom she needed. Victoria created her first ever Divorce Impact Analysis report which she now uses with her clients to help them get the financial clarity needed for a successful uncoupling. 

Victoria's knowledge and expertise is invaluable and I am so excited to share her thoughts with you. You can see more of what Victoria has to offer a on Instagram at @divorceanalytics or on her website at divorceanalytics.com.

As always you can find me at

@nbdivorcecoaching

nbdivorcecoaching.com

[email protected] 

 

Oof!!

This week we were treated to video footage of Kansas City Chief's kicker Harrison Butker speaking to the graduating class of Benedictine College in Kansas. He throws out some wildly archaic ideas about marriage and the role of women in the home that I felt needed to be immediately addressed.

Always curious to hear your thoughts! Come share them with me on instagram or threads @nbdivorcecoaching or email me at [email protected]. 

 

Months ago, my therapist and I, prompted by an answer in the NYT crossword had a long conversation about the Sunk Cost Fallacy. Though it is a concept that refers to business investments, it is incredible how well it relates to relationships. There is so much insight to be gained from the Sunk Cost Fallacy in terms of undesrstanding the motivations behind our decisions. Can't wait to hear what you think.

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