New Dad Order – Episode 37 is a thoughtful, wide-ranging conversation about modern fatherhood, youth sports, resilience, and intentional parenting, featuring the real-life experiences of a former Division I athlete, attorney, coach, and dads. The episode explores how early life lessons, career pressure, natural disasters, and sports culture shape the way men show up as fathers today. The discussion begins with youth sports and the complicated decision many fathers face about whether to coach their own children. Drawing from firsthand experience in competitive football environments, the episode highlights the importance of fundamentals, safety, fairness, and emotional maturity in coaching kids. It directly addresses common problems like favoritism and “daddy ball,” emphasizing that youth sports should prioritize character development, teamwork, and confidence over winning or parental ego. From there, the conversation expands into the long-term impact of athletics on personal growth. Lessons learned through high-level football—discipline, accountability, leadership, and time management—are reframed through the lens of parenting. The episode connects sports culture to fatherhood, showing how habits formed on the field often influence how dads approach structure, expectations, and communication at home. A major theme of the episode is resilience, particularly parenting through instability and crisis. The family’s experience surviving Hurricane Katrina, losing their home, living displaced for months, and later enduring Hurricane Ida provides a powerful backdrop for discussing emotional safety, adaptability, and how children process trauma. The episode explores how disruption affects kids differently at various ages and why parents must balance honesty, reassurance, and emotional presence during uncertain times. Rather than advocating rigid parenting rules, the episode promotes a philosophy centered on guidance, course correction, and respect. Parenting is framed as an evolving process—one that requires awareness of developmental stages, empathy, and accountability without authoritarianism. Contact Attorney Tony Maska:Email him at [email protected]✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: [email protected]: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors#NewDadOrder #Podcast 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: [email protected]📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: [email protected]💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ba418c03-7313-46c7-ae75-8dc55122a082/new-dad-order

In this episode of New Dad Order, Ray and Parfait dive deep into the college football coaching carousel, reacting to Lane Kiffin leaving Ole Miss for LSU and the ripple effects it creates across the SEC and the national landscape. This conversation tackles the complicated intersection of NIL, the transfer portal, early signing day, and the evolving expectations placed on modern college coaches. Whether you’re a fan of Ole Miss, LSU, or simply fascinated with high-stakes college football drama, this episode breaks down why Kiffin’s move is bigger than one program—it’s a symptom of how the sport has changed.Ray argues from the player-first, culture-building perspective: college coaches play a crucial role in shaping athletes’ lives through development, mentorship, character building, and academic support. When a high-profile coach like Lane Kiffin leaves during a pivotal moment—right as the expanded College Football Playoff era begins and during the most sensitive part of the recruiting calendar—it raises questions about loyalty, leadership, and the promises made to players and their families. Ray emphasizes the emotional and relational cost when coaches sell stability and then walk away at the height of a program’s trajectory.Parfait counters with a business-reality take: college football has always been transactional. Coaches move for better jobs, players transfer for better opportunities, universities chase revenue, and fans are the only ones who get emotionally attached. With the rise of NIL money and the transfer portal, players now have as much freedom as coaches, making it inconsistent to criticize coaches for doing what players do every offseason. From his lens, Lane Kiffin going to LSU isn’t betrayal—it’s normal.The transfer portal introduces constant roster turnover, raising questions about continuity, culture, and long-term development.Throughout the episode, the conversation stays grounded in the show’s core mission—fatherhood, faith, and navigating manhood today. Ray and Parfait remind listeners that sports are ultimately a “man’s soap opera,” something we enjoy and invest in emotionally, but not something that defines us.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: [email protected]: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors#NewDadOrder #Podcast 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: [email protected]📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: [email protected]💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ba418c03-7313-46c7-ae75-8dc55122a082/new-dad-order

Will AI destroy us, or are we panicking about the wrong things? Through a fast-paced and honest conversation, we explore how artificial intelligence, social media, screen addiction, and technology are shaping modern life—and whether any of it actually threatens humanity.The discussion begins with the widespread belief that social media is destroying society. But the hosts challenge this idea, arguing that social media itself isn’t the real problem; it’s how we use it. Platforms like Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube reflect our behaviors, habits, and emotional states. When people consume negativity or conflict-driven content, they naturally spiral into a darker worldview. The issue isn’t the screen—it’s the content diet.From there, the episode shifts into the debate around screen time and digital addiction. Parents often worry that kids are glued to smartphones, but adults are just as dependent—sometimes more so. The hosts point out a key difference: today’s kids have grown up with technology and are likely to self-regulate better than older generations. Just like society learned to handle alcohol, smoking, and seatbelts over time, we will eventually learn to manage digital habits in healthier ways.The conversation then turns toward AI fears, particularly stories of AI models appearing manipulative, emotional, or intelligent. One example involved an AI system generating a response that seemed like it was “threatening” a fictional manager. While shocking, the hosts explain that this doesn’t mean the AI is conscious or dangerous—it’s simply predicting patterns and mimicking human-like behavior. It feels alive, but it isn’t. Another major theme is the idea that technology is making us dumber. The hosts fully debunk this. With tools like Google Search, GPS, and AI-powered assistants, the goal is no longer memorizing everything—it’s knowing how to find information quickly and accurately. Efficiency doesn’t equal stupidity; it reflects a shift in how intelligence works.This episode is a must-listen if you're curious about the future of AI, the impact of social media on mental health, or whether technology addiction is really as bad as we think. ✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: [email protected]: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors#NewDadOrder #Podcast 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: [email protected]📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: [email protected]💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ba418c03-7313-46c7-ae75-8dc55122a082/new-dad-order

The Dad Rules Compilation explores a humorous yet relatable set of “dad rules” covering fitness etiquette, grocery store behavior, men’s fashion, and the culture of fatherhood. Blending real-life scenarios with bold opinions, the conversation outlines what it means to be a modern dad—and what behaviors should be avoided.A major focus of the discussion is gym etiquette. The hosts emphasize that dads should never wear weightlifting gloves, arguing that calluses symbolize hard work and commitment. They also highlight a controversial take: sumo deadlifts don’t count, calling them an ego lift with no real functional benefit. The podcast stresses traditional lifting form, discipline, and teaching sons the value of physical effort.Another standout rule is about grocery cart etiquette, a surprisingly viral topic in dad culture. The hosts believe leaving a cart in the parking lot is a major character flaw. A real dad always returns the grocery cart to the designated cart return, no excuses—even for older adults. This dad rule reinforces responsibility, accountability, and respect for shared spaces.The discussion also takes aim at dad fashion pitfalls, specifically calling for the end of cargo shorts and outdated jeans bought decades ago. The hosts claim modern dads need to stay somewhat current with fashion rather than relying on old, oversized, below-the-knee shorts or early-2000s denim. The humor underscores a real message: stay presentable, stay confident, and avoid becoming a walking time capsule.The conversation shifts into fantasy football, a cherished dad tradition. The hosts insist on live drafts, not online ones, arguing that the camaraderie, road trips, and competitive rituals build lasting friendships. They describe a homemade NFL-style combine—complete with sprinting, punting, and broad jumps—to determine draft order. This reinforces a core theme: fatherhood thrives on connection, laughter, and traditions shared with the “dude group.”Overall, the compilation blends comedy with practical life principles. The dad rules emphasize fitness discipline, proper etiquette, modern style, and male bonding rituals, all wrapped in a humorous, conversational tone. These rules are aspirational yet accessible, giving dads a simple roadmap for being more intentional, respectful, confident, and fun.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: [email protected]: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors🎧 Listen on Spotify: New Dad Order Podcast on Spotify📸 Follow us on Instagram: @newdadorderpodcast1 #NewDadOrder #Podcast #rules 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: [email protected]📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: [email protected]💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124

In this episode, Ray and Parfait dive deep into the real meaning of failure, discipline, and doing hard things—and how these principles shape success in sports, business, parenting, and everyday life. They break down why people fear failure, why excuses become our biggest obstacle, and how building discipline through small daily challenges leads to long-term growth.Sports becomes a central metaphor throughout the episode. Ray and Parfait talk about coaching, competition, and how a “win the next pitch” mentality helps kids (and adults) bounce back quickly. They highlight the difference between getting beat by someone better versus beating yourself with avoidable mistakes. Both agree that sports teach powerful life skills—accountability, resilience, and learning to analyze what went wrong instead of getting emotional about it.A major theme is discipline vs. comfort. Parfait shares his personal mission to “do something hard every day,” whether it’s CrossFit at 4 a.m., road biking, learning new hobbies, or pushing past the desire to coast. Ray reflects on his own struggles with discipline, especially around fitness and self-accountability. They call out how easily adults make excuses—especially hiding behind “I don’t have time”—when in reality, discipline is a choice.Parenting also enters the conversation with a powerful framework: Parfait’s new journaling practice with his son. Each day, his son writes down something hard, something easy, something he wants to improve, and something kind he did for someone else. The goal? Teach kids to identify challenges, build self-awareness, and develop emotional discipline.Faith plays a role as well. Ray opens up about making Scripture reading his “hard thing,” highlighting how spiritual discipline is often more difficult than physical discipline because it requires patience, humility, and sustained focus.The episode closes with a discussion around youth sports culture and the controversial idea of “playing to get better, not to win.” Ray and Parfait push back—believing you practice to get better and play to win, because winning requires effort, teamwork, and high standards. They end with the reminder that practice makes progress, not perfection, and the key to improvement is consistently choosing the hard thing over the easy one.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: [email protected]: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors#NewDadOrder #Podcast 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: [email protected]📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: [email protected]💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124

In a special Father’s Day episode of the New Dad Order Podcast, hosts Ray and Parfait welcome their longtime friend and first guest, Jason Lipscomb, a local real estate mogul and entrepreneur from Ponchatoula, Louisiana. Jason’s inspiring journey from dealing cards at poker tables to becoming a top-producing real estate broker, investor, and restaurateur highlights the power of hustle, motivation, and family values.Jason first stepped into the poker world as a dealer after realizing he wasn’t a great player. What started in small card rooms soon led him to run some of the biggest tournaments, including the World Series of Poker and high-stakes games across the country. His poker career taught him discipline, people skills, and the ability to thrive under pressure — qualities that later fueled his success in real estate.When the casino industry shifted and Jason became a new father, he transitioned into real estate sales. What began as a way to control his own investments quickly grew into a thriving career. Jason built one of Louisiana’s leading real estate teams, closing over $60 million in transactions annually, and later launched his own brokerage, Downtown Realty, right in the heart of Ponchatoula. By focusing on listings, smart delegation, and strong local relationships, Jason created a scalable model that allowed him to become one of the area’s most respected brokers.Jason’s entrepreneurial spirit doesn’t stop at real estate. He has invested in commercial properties, restaurants, and community projects, helping preserve the small-town charm of downtown Ponchatoula while driving local growth. His philosophy is simple: shop local, support local, and reinvest in the community that raised you. This commitment has made him a cornerstone of the region’s business landscape.Beyond business, Jason is a dedicated father of five, including bonus children. He emphasizes leading by example, teaching his kids the value of hard work, balance, and resilience. From supporting his son’s journey to LSU Law School, to encouraging his daughter’s entrepreneurial dream of opening a bakery, to backing his youngest son’s athletic pursuits, Jason blends fatherhood with mentorship. He openly shares lessons on work-life balance, acknowledging the sacrifices of his early hustle years while celebrating the ability to now be more present for his family.Jason’s story is also about embracing change and seizing opportunity. Whether transitioning from poker to real estate, or expanding into restaurants and investments, he demonstrates how adaptability, grit, and vision can create generational impact. His hobbies — from pickleball and boating to traveling with family — underscore the importance of enjoying the fruits of hard work while continuing to build for the future.This episode offers powerful insights for fathers, entrepreneurs, and anyone chasing success: embrace risk, delegate wisely, invest in your community, and never stop learning. Jason Lipscomb’s journey proves that with focus and heart, you can go from poker dealer to real estate broker and beyond — building not just a business, but a legacy.📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: [email protected]📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: [email protected]💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorder

New Dad Order, welcomes Ernie M. Burns, Jr., President & CEO of Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors and host of the TV show Total Retirement with Ernie Burns. With over 30 years of experience in retirement income planning, Ernie shares his personal journey of resilience, faith, and discipline, along with expert insights on retirement planning, wealth management, estate planning, and financial independence.Listeners will hear how Ernie turned tragedy into triumph after a life-changing accident, building one of the Gulf Coast’s most trusted financial advisory firms. As a Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®) and Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana (2022 & 2023), Ernie has become a leading voice in helping families create conservative retirement strategies, prepare for Medicare and Social Security, and protect their legacy through estate planning.Ernie also explains why so many Americans struggle with retirement, the common misconceptions about financial planning, and how to approach money with both honesty and strategy. His motto, inspired by Zig Ziglar, is clear: Help enough people get what they want, and you’ll get what you want in life.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: [email protected]: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: [email protected]📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: [email protected]💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderTime Stamp:0:00-Intro clips01:27–Jerrard intros4:19-Ray intros Ernie Burns5:38-Parfait starts the interview 6:42-Thirdzy Ad7:05-Ernie’s accident where he lost 8 pints of blood 8:28-Asked God for guidance 10:15-Failed more than succeeded 11:06-Biggest learning in business so far14:55 -Giving someone a bit of advice 16:06-Ernie’s first wife passes away17:59-High school journey19:25-Martial arts journey 24:37-Widow at 3133:06-What advice for me to retire33:09-Dubby ad37:40-Emotional vs Monetary time to retire 42:26-Quality of life breakdown by Parfait 43:22-Question about putting away for your kids education 44:47-Ernie’s answer 46:08-Dry Powder also known as cash47:34-how can a young person get financially stable?50:17-Biggest misconception about financial planning?52:40-Good to invest in real estate?56:19-How do you manage all 12 locations?1:01:26-Do you mix business with family life?1:05:53-Do you have to Dad up Brayden?1:12:41-Greatest piece of advice he’s been given?1:31:00-Fun questions1:34:11-Ernie’s wife Erin1:34:45-Wrap up1:37:39-Outro

In this episode of The New Dad Order, Ray and Parfait break down what it truly means to have “Ice in the Veins” — that elite-level calm under pressure that separates average performers from true leaders. Drawing from college football memories, parenting lessons, and the psychology of performance, they unpack how emotional control, preparation, and resilience build both great athletes and confident kids.Ray shares his first start at the University of Pittsburgh vs. Notre Dame, reliving the nerves, a dropped pass, and the immediate bounce-back that led to a breakout performance. He reflects on playing alongside legends like Curtis Martin and Alex Van Pelt, and being coached by future NFL greats like Jon Gruden, Mike McCarthy, and Marvin Lewis. These stories illustrate how poise under pressure and quiet confidence often matter more than hype or volume.The hosts explore the difference between quiet and loud leadership, comparing Tom Brady, Kobe Bryant, Michael Jordan, Drew Brees, and Peyton Manning. Each led differently—but all shared a mastery of focus, calm, and execution. The phrase “ice in the veins” isn’t arrogance—it’s emotional maturity, the ability to stay grounded and perform when it counts.⏱️ Timestamps / Chapters00:00 – Intro | What “Ice in the Veins” Really Means02:10 – Cold-Blooded or Calm? The Truth Behind “Ice in the Veins”06:25 – Ray’s First Start at Pitt vs. Notre Dame10:40 – Playing with Legends: Curtis Martin, Alex Van Pelt & NFL Coaches15:30 – Leadership Styles: Brady, Brees, Kobe & Jordan20:55 – Quiet Leadership vs. Loud Motivation25:45 – Parenting Through Pressure: Lessons from the Field30:20 – From Benched to Starter: The 9-Year-Old Redemption Story34:40 – Practice, Poise, Performance: The Three-Step Formula for Kids38:25 – Applying the Athlete Mindset to School and Life41:30 – Sponsors & Final Takeaway: Calm Beats Chaos43:57 – Outro | Stay Cool. Lead Strong.👉 Subscribe for weekly episodes on leadership, parenting, and resilience — real talk for people who want to build strength, not excuses.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: [email protected]: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors🎧 Listen on Spotify: New Dad Order Podcast on Spotify📸 Follow us on Instagram: @newdadorderpodcast1#podcast #newdadorder 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: [email protected]📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: [email protected]💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124

This episode explores the often-unspoken reality behind modern masculinity — where strength and vulnerability collide. This episode dives deep into the emotional struggles men face in silence, the pressure to “be the rock,” and the hidden cost of suppressing pain. Hosts Ray and Parfait open a real conversation about how men can carry strength without losing their humanity, combining stoic principles with emotional intelligence to define what healthy masculinity looks like in 2025.This discussion challenges outdated stereotypes about what it means to “be a man.” The hosts unpack courage, leadership, and emotional control — emphasizing that masculinity is not about hiding emotions but mastering them. Drawing from real-life experiences and pop culture icons like Kobe Bryant, Michael Jordan, and Yellowstone’s John Dutton, the episode reveals how true confidence is rooted in preparation, composure, and calm under pressure. When men learn to lead with balance — strength without arrogance, vulnerability without collapse — they unlock what the show calls “quiet power.”In “Real Leadership Starts with Emotional Control” the conversation turns raw and real. The hosts talk about grief, anxiety, and the weight men carry when life demands composure in moments of chaos — from funerals to fatherhood to everyday leadership. They highlight how being stoic doesn’t mean being emotionless. Instead, it’s about the discipline to act with courage and clarity when others need you most. Through humor, honesty, and sharp insight, “When Men Break” bridges old-school values and modern emotional awareness. The hosts challenge the “alpha male” myth, arguing that real masculinity thrives on humility, purpose, and preparedness. They discuss the difference between performative strength and authentic resilience — showing that calm leadership, not dominance, defines real power. 👉 Subscribe for weekly episodes on leadership, parenting, and resilience — real talk for people who want to build strength, not excuses.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: [email protected]: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors🎧 Listen on Spotify: New Dad Order Podcast on Spotify📸 Follow us on Instagram: @newdadorderpodcast1#CharlieKirk #NewDadOrder #Podcast #CharlieKirkMurder #Politics #FreedomOfSpeech📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: [email protected]📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: [email protected]💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124

In Episode 30 of the New Dad Order Podcast, hosts Ray and Parfait dive into the unspoken rules of emotional intelligence, and conversation skills. The episode opens with a relatable truth—how men often default to saying “I’m good” even when they’re not. It’s a cultural shorthand for emotional restraint, politeness, and control, but it can also isolate men from real connection. The hosts explore how social conditioning makes men less likely to express vulnerability and more likely to keep conversations surface-level.Small Talk and Social ConfidenceThe conversation shifts to small talk—the “elevator speech” moments that define first impressions. Ray and Parfait share humorous stories from retail jobs, where polite interactions often turned into oversharing sessions. They dissect the difference between genuine connection and social obligation, offering practical advice for men who struggle with social anxiety or party settings. Ray admits he’s not the life of the party, but he’s learned techniques to navigate unfamiliar rooms. His go-to strategy? Find common ground. He uses sports (especially Saints and LSU football) as easy conversation entry points, then pivots into personal stories or shared experiences. Their takeaway: being interesting is really about being curious. Ask questions, look for context clues—like family photos or travel pictures—and invite others to talk about themselves.Debate, and Emotional ControlThe second half of the episode focuses on how men debate, argue, and manage emotions. Ray confesses he often walks away from heated conversations replaying what he “should’ve said,” while Parfait explains his “poker-face” approach: stay calm, lower emotional intensity, and never mirror the other person’s anger. This emotional discipline, is key to effective masculine communication. It’s not about domination—it’s about maintaining composure to earn respect and keep control of the narrative👉 Subscribe for weekly episodes on leadership, parenting, and resilience — real talk for people who want to build strength, not excuses.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: [email protected]: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors🎧 Listen on Spotify: New Dad Order Podcast on Spotify📸 Follow us on Instagram: @newdadorderpodcast1#CharlieKirk #NewDadOrder #Podcast #CharlieKirkMurder #Politics #FreedomOfSpeech📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: [email protected]📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: [email protected]💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorder