All of us have experienced loss and disappointment. We have buried loved ones. We live with shattered dreams and unmet expectations. Our lives have not turned out the way we had hoped, leaving us disoriented and confused. When these waves hit, our natural instinct is to bury our pain and put on a brave face. After all, "the show must go on." But Psalm 42 gives us a completely different blueprint for processing grief. In this Sunday’s sermon, we are going to look at the raw, unfiltered honesty of a psalmist who is drowning in sorrow. We will learn how to navigate the dark valleys of life so that our hearts come out softer and our souls closer to our Lord.
1. The sermon mentioned that the reasons why so much grief is unprocessed is because we equate grief with weakness, don't have time to grieve, or don't know how to grieve. Which of these reasons resonate most with you? Are there other reasons you could think of?
2. The psalmist had the emotional awareness to not only feel his pain but to articulate and describe with apt descriptions. How emotionally self-aware are you when it comes to noticing and articulating negative feelings?
3. The psalmist doesn't just feel his feelings but also diagnoses them and finds the "why?" When you experience a wave of grief or disappointment, how easy or difficult is it for you to pinpoint the exact root and cause?
4. When you compare your prayers to the brutal honesty of the psalmist, who accuses God of not only forgetting him but treating him as an enemy, how honest are you? Assuming that you are not as honest as the psalmist, why do you believe this is the case?
5. When you consider the birth, life, death, and resurrection of Jesus, how does the Gospel motivate us to feel our grief, diagnose our grief, and carry our griefs to God? Which of the three steps do you believe you most need to practice?
6. The sermon talks about how unprocessed grief does not disappear but goes underground. What griefs in your life have not been fully processed in your life? Which do you believe God is calling you to address?