One of the current challenges of feminine leadership is knowing when to draw the line between sacrifice and martyrdom. Historically, women have been socialized to serve as mothers and wives. From this conditioning arose the belief that self-worth is directly related to how many people they nurture. It’s true that leadership is about lifting others up, but it shouldn’t be at the expense of personal well-being.

The opportunities for growth, challenge, and leadership are endless. How does one discern when to say yes and when to say no? Keep in mind that a “no” is not a closed door; it may lead you to somewhere different. Before making a decision, ask yourself: Is it a cause you care about? Will it contribute to the cultivation of the self? It also helps to examine the sensations in your body. These sensations serve as signals; reclaim your body’s intuition.

Another important area to apply discernment is in regard to motivation. Are you serving because it is a conscious choice or is it out of habit? Is it for yourself or is it to meet outside expectations? The practice of self love can combat the compulsion to overperform. Listen to your body, heart, and spirit intently.

Nina Simons is an award-winning social entrepreneur and visionary thinker. She is co-founder of Bioneers and its Everywoman’s Leadership program. Her work currently focuses on writing, speaking and teaching about women, leadership, diversity, nature, systems thinking, leading from the heart, and restoring the feminine in us all.

 

What we discuss:

02:51 - Nina's leadership journey

11:24 - How to create boundaries

18:14 - Socialization of martyrdom

26:01 - Discern choice from compulsion

32:10 - Reclaim the body’s wisdom

39:32 - Realize untapped potential

44:38 - What's the message of the Divine Mother to us?

 

Learn more from Nina:

Websites: ninasimons.com & bioneers.org