After a six-month hiatus, I’m back — with clarity, vulnerability, and a few dating disasters worth laughing over. In this deeply honest episode, I open up about what nine months of alcohol-free dating has taught me about my patterns, self-worth, and the kind of love I'm truly seeking.

From chasing emotionally unavailable partners to realizing how many first dates feel like monologues, I reflect on the painful, funny, and unexpectedly healing parts of modern dating — sober. I share the inner shifts I’ve experienced, why temporary highs are no longer worth the crash, and how every relationship (or lack thereof) is a mirror guiding me back to myself.

Whether you're sober-curious, dating, single, or simply doing the deep work of healing, there’s something in this episode for you.

 Key Takeaways:

• The impact of sobriety on clarity, patterns, and emotional availability in dating

• Why we chase temporary highs and what that reveals about unresolved wounds

• How to break the cycle of seeking worth through conquest

• The subtle (and not-so-subtle) red flags that become obvious when you're sober

• The emotional toll of performative dating culture and one-sided conversations

• How dating is a mirror for our deepest insecurities — and our growth

• The importance of staying grounded in your worth regardless of someone else’s attention

  
  

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