Social media has turned our current social culture on its head. People can have parasocial relationships with absolute strangers, teens are finding it harder and harder to socialize in real life, and parents have no idea how to regulate any of it. And should parents even be regulating social media use? It's a common question that no one seems to have the answer to. 

There might not be any broad strokes, right-for-everyone answer to any of this. The truth is, we just don’t have definitive answers on anything yet because of how new social media is culturally. The best we can do is learn from our real-life experiences and a few scandalous books, along the way. 

In this week’s episode, we talk about how social media has been impacting our lives, for better or for worse. All these apps and constant connection are reshaping how we parent, how we interact as a family, and how our youths are creating culture. Our experiences are our own, and they may be a little niche, so don’t forget to let us know how social media is impacting your family in the comments below! 

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Internalized misogyny will inevitably eventually creep into female friendships, especially as we start to get older and start caring more about the opposite sex. It's just how the system works. But does it have to ruin every single friendship we care about? Not necessarily. 

Female friendships are so beautiful and so fulfilling. The best part of our days is oftentimes the hours we spend hanging out with our friends and talking about absolutely everything. And at some point, we have to put our foot down and protect these friendships from the misogynistic systems around us. And to do that, we need to identify what exactly is internalized misogyny and why it hurts so much. 

In this week’s episode, we talk about our experiences with internalized misogyny, why it’s different in the US compared to in the Netherlands, and how to protect our friendships when guys get in the way. This system was made to keep us apart, which is exactly why thriving female friendships are a radical act. Rebel with us and let us know how you responded to internalized misogyny in the comments below!   

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If you’ve been listening to our podcast from the beginning, then you know that our co-host Lulu has been in an abusive relationship before. It was devastating and incredibly confusing to go through at the time. Now that it’s been a few years, Lulu is ready to talk about just how abusive this relationship was and how she finally ended it once and for all. 

And this topic isn’t just about straight romantic relationships! This kind of abuse happens everywhere - in gay relationships, between friends, and even between family members. Abusers are behaving this way because they want control. It’s not your fault it happened, but it is your responsibility to get out of it. And this week, we’re going to talk about how you can do just that. 

In this week’s episode, we’ll be talking about coercive control, Cassie’s testimony, and how Lulu broke free from abusive relationships. Abusers want to confuse you, isolate you, and make them the most important person in their world. But they’ll do it so sneakily that most of the time you won’t see it coming. We’re hoping that by sharing our story, you’ll be able to catch the red flags early and get out before it’s too late.

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Hook-up culture can be a way to explore your sexuality in a fun, no-strings-attached way. Both of our hosts have had (safe and healthy) hook-ups, make-out sessions, and one-night stands. It’s a part of growing up, and it helped us become the women we are today.

Female sexuality is not often talked about. Mainstream media tells us to keep our legs closed and our virginity to ourselves until we get married. Otherwise, we’re labeled as sluts, bops, or messy. Then again, those who don’t ever hook up are labeled stuck-up, prudes, and childish—so there’s no winning either way.

So instead of following rules that set us up to fail, let’s embrace our sexualities in a fun and safe way! We deserve the same chance to explore our sexuality as men do! And we should be able to do it safely and without stigma.

In this week’s episode, we’ll be talking about hook-up culture both here in the U.S. and in the Netherlands. We are two different women with two different sexualities, which means our journeys looked so different in some ways, but also similar in others. And that’s okay! We’re here to break the social stigma and actually talk about our experiences without any judgment for once.

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Disordered eating is such a nuanced topic, especially when your family can see how it’s affecting you and when you can see how it’s affecting them. On top of that, there’s society’s idea of what is healthy and beautiful, and usually, it means being as thin as possible. So while you know your behaviors are hurting you, someone may think you’re doing what’s right for you. We’ve had friends and family members encourage dieting and disordered eating, thinking they were doing the right thing when they’re really causing more harm than good. 

This is why we encourage you to seek help and start the healing process. It's up to you to take the first step. We are not medical professionals, so take what we say with a grain of salt. But we hope that by sharing our experiences, we can help at least one person who’s watching take the first step to healing. Whether that be by reading the books we recommended, booking an appointment with a doctor, or just feeling safe in this moment with us. 

In this week’s episode, your hosts Anousha and Lulu are discussing how an eating disorder affects their family and how they’ve started to heal. It has been a rough battle for everyone involved, but with in-depth research and unrelenting tenacity, your favorite podcast family is starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Tune in for resources, real-life experiences, and more on the No Boundaries podcast. 

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Dieting, binging, and purging are all signs that what our host, Anousha, was experiencing was an eating disorder. But that didn’t matter at the time. What mattered was that she was a size 6, and everyone else her age was a size 0. Growing up, people were always commenting on her weight, pressuring her to lose a few pounds, and even poking at her body when she was a young girl. It wasn’t until Anousha was a grown woman that she realized she couldn’t do this anymore and needed to heal her relationship with food. 

Disclaimer: We are not medical professionals, so don’t take what we say as medical advice. If you want to seek treatment for possible disordered eating, please reach out to a reputable medical professional. We will, however, talk about our own experiences with disordered eating and what Anousha did to start the healing process. 

This week, we’re talking about the differences between disordered eating and an eating disorder, how they both affected Anousha growing up, and how the same pressure that Anousha felt to be thinner is still prevalent in today's society. We hope that by sharing this story, we can help anyone who’s going through the same thing seek help. You can heal your relationship with food, if it’s possible for us, then it is possible for you too <3 

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Hot Take: Ultra strict parenting styles do not work. So why do some parents still swear by them? They think that by isolating their kids and imposing restrictive rules on their teens that they’re protecting them. But it turns out that these parents are doing more harm than good. 

Take this week’s guest is Nayelli. Nayelli has been friends with our co-host Lulu  since they were sixteen. Lulu saw how restrictive Nayelli’s parents were and tried to help her feel like a normal teenager. They’d go out and get food, go to parties, and occasionally drink for a bit of fun. And that helped for a while, but it wasn’t until Nayelli had one too many blow ups with her mom that she decided she needed to break this toxic cycle. 

In this week’s episode, Nayelli shares why she felt like she had to leave her home and how that affected her relationship with her family. When the screaming, the insults, and the restrictive behavior were too much to bear, Nayelli started making plans to move out. To some, that sounds like a normal reaction to how she was being treated. But in a strict family home, that’s the most insulting thing you can do. Tune into this week’s episode to hear how Nayelli moved out and what happened after the dust settled. 

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Parenting styles are tricky. Some people do free parenting, like our family, and give their children a bit more freedom at a younger age. Some parents are more strict and want to have a bit more control over their kids in order to keep them safe. Each parenting style comes with its own benefits and consequences, and since we don’t know much about the stricter parenting style, we’re going to talk to someone who’s lived it. 

This week’s guest is Nayelli, a wonderful young lady who’s been friends with Lulu since they were sixteen. Growing up, Lulu and Nayelli observed each other's families’ parenting styles from afar. Lulu got to see what a stricter household was like, and Nayelli got to see what a freer household was like. And while Nayelli could understand why her parents were so protective of her, she knew she couldn’t live like that forever.

In this week’s episode, Nayelli shares what it was like growing up with very strict parents and how that affected her as she grew up. To be clear, when we say strict, we don’t mean getting good grades and a 10 pm curfew. We mean she couldn’t go out two weekends in a row, had to help pay for the household expenses, and wasn’t allowed to date until she was in her 20s. That kind of life can leave a lasting impression on a person, and it definitely has on Nayelli.

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Adolescence sheds light on how violent communities can indoctrinate young boys through social media. The main character, Jamie, is only thirteen, but he is accused of murdering a female classmate over bullying he faced on social media. But as the show goes on, we start to see Will verbalize dangerous dog whistles that prove that he may have started to deeply resent women and want to punish them in a violent way. 

Incel communities are typically made up of men who claim that they are “involuntarily celibate” and meet online to discuss their growing hatred of women. This hatred escalates to planned acts of violence that affect the women around them and shake their local communities to their core.  

In this week’s episode, we dive deeper into each episode of Adolescence and explain the real-world implications of each character's actions. We also discuss what we can do to stop the spread of these ideologies. No one wants to lose their sons and brothers to a violent misogynistic group, and that’s exactly why we have to talk about it before it’s too late. 

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Love is love. No matter what. In this week’s episode, we’re talking all about coming out, exploring our sexuality, and embracing a beautiful thing called love. Lulu shares her personal experience with being outed — a moment that should have been her choice, not someone else's. But as you know, if you’ve been listening to the first few episodes of the podcast, this person is horrible. While being outed without warning was frustrating, she was lucky to have a loving family who supported her no matter who she loved. 

We also talk about what it means to be an ally, especially when it comes to supporting your children. In the episode, we reflect on how our parents raised us and our siblings to be accepting of everyone, and why that foundation made it easier for us to support our queer family memebers when they shared their truth. We also talk about common fears and misconceptions parents may have when their child comes out — like the idea that something went "wrong" — and why love and acceptance are key. After all, if you believe in God, then you know that God doesn’t make mistakes. So why question it? 

We hope this episode offers some comfort, support, and maybe even a little guidance, whether you’re navigating your own journey or showing up for someone you love.

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