TRIGGER WARNING: Discusses domestic abuse, suicidal thoughts, divorce
When we got married, it was anything but a fairytale and nowhere near a happy ending. Soon after saying "I Do", we were met with some pretty heavy relationship changes, trauma projection, domestic abuse and just not anything like what we pictured marriage would be like.
Join us for this episode where we share our experience of being in a bad relationship, how we felt, working through it, and the lasting effects of what abuse can do. There really is no nice way, no politically correct way, and no filtered way to talk about a personal experience such as this, but in a world where everything is filtered, being unfiltered is needed. Being bombarded with "perfect" relationships on social media, in media in general, creates room for comparison, alienation and just not nice thoughts. Seeing that others struggle and have their own imperfect relationships can make you feel less alone, more normal and just overall in a better headspace - at least it did for me. While I don't compare our "pain" or wish others to go through any type - seeing that another relationship also have bumps, makes me feel more connected, more human and less isolated in our problems.
This is a heavy topic, we have to acknowledge that, but in the same token, it is very common sadly, and while we did get a positive ending, not everyone does. If you or anyone you know is in an abusive relationship, please seek help. Please speak up, please be safe and please know that you do not deserve to be treated any less than amazing.
We worked hard to get where we are now. We still feel the lingering effects of abuse, but we have collectively put in the work and now our relationship truly has come to the "honeymoon" phase. It wasn't easy - but we did it.