Welcome to today's episode where we'll be discussing a powerful story of personal transformation and the importance of healing oneself. Our guest Melissa will be sharing her experiences growing up in a dysfunctional family, becoming a caregiver for her younger siblings, and struggling with family drug and alcohol abuse. Through her journey, she discovered the power of retraining her beliefs, setting boundaries, and releasing emotions to become a better leader, parent, and person. She reminds us that when we heal ourselves, we can positively impact those around us and create a better world. Stay tuned for an inspiring and insightful conversation.

KEY POINTS:

• Melissa is the oldest of five siblings and there is a 10-year age gap between her and her youngest brother.
• Her childhood was happy and peaceful, but as her younger brothers were born, her mother's health started to decline due to severe abuse she suffered growing up.
• As her mother struggled, the speaker became a caregiver for her younger siblings, especially her youngest brother, who she often took with her everywhere.
• As the speaker and her siblings got older, they started experimenting with drugs and alcohol, which led to chaos and fighting in their home.
• Despite the difficulties, the speaker did not want to have anything to do with drugs, alcohol, or pills.
• The speaker had an epiphany one day when she felt chewed up and spit out by the world, realizing that she can retrain her brain.
• She started to recognize the beliefs she had as a child growing up in a dysfunctional family that she didn't matter and it was her job to take care of everyone else.
• Melissa made an effort to retrain those beliefs, figure out what she wanted, and set boundaries.
• Learning how to set boundaries and not feel guilty or responsible for others' outcomes was the hardest thing for her to overcome.
• When she was able to set good boundaries and release the emotion behind them, she was able to love and have compassion for her loved ones.
• Healing oneself is important not just for codependents but for anyone who wants to be a good leader, parent, or have an impact on people.
• The most loving thing one can do for everybody is to heal oneself.
• When you change yourself, everything around you and the people around you change.

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