Who taught you how to have sex? If you’re like the average person, porn is the answer. Fact: most people are not fully informed about sex, pleasure, what to do or what not to do before they actually engage in it. The problem is that “porno is not real; women do not look like that in real life; sex almost never goes the way it’s depicted in porn; the average person does not have a ten inch penis. All of this is wrong” according to Stanley Fritz. On this week’s episode we welcomed our first guest and editor in chief of the popular men’s blog Let’s Not Be Trash. We’re talking about sex and it gets raw! As usual, we unpacked - not just porn itself but how the history of porn has pushed racial stereotypes, misguided expectations of men AND women and most importantly how porn as a teacher is fucking up the game, no pun intended.

Inspired by this article from Madam Noire, Men Who Attract “Crazy” Women: It’s All Your Fault, on this week's episode, we're discussing the the article's claim that there are certain tell tale signs of a woman that's "crazy".  Is that true or false? Are we responsible by way of our choices for the type of people that we attract? Are the metrics that we use to measure other people a mirror reflection of who we are? Also, some men love calling women "crazy" but, are we really? Or have we been subjected to foolishness and are no longer with the shits. There's so many layers to unpack - Lets 👏 talk 👏about 👏 it 👏! 

Should we be exercising restraint with what we engage with? When should we start drawing the lines? A like, a comment, or a DM? Is your spouse “allowed” to like dick pics or half naked women... should they just look and keep scrolling? Should we suddenly freeze our preferences or close our eyes to the things we 'like' just because we're in a relationship? Are there too many rules or not enough? Overwhelmed yet? Yeah, us too. The impact of social media is undeniable. Instagram users 'like' 4.2 BILLION posts a day. The content that we consume has a direct impact on our moods, choices, perspective, preferences, etc, etc, etc. No matter which side you choose, it is evident that there are feelings behind this social past time. Join us as we unpack how to navigate the instasphere when you're in a relationship. 

This week's episode was inspired a Harper's Bazar article written by Melanie Hamlett. Here's a small excerpt from the piece..

"In our culture, men have always found ways to be near each other, but it’s never been centered around feelings,” he explains. “Men are taught the remedy to heartbreak is to get drunk with your buddies, objectify women, and go out and get laid; to basically distance yourself from your feelings and channel them into an aggressive outlet. We use sports as an excuse to bump up against each other, so desperate we are for human touch and intimacy. But this kind of closeness is based in camaraderie and aggression, not vulnerability and trust. The former is very surface level and not nearly as satisfying as the latter." 

Read more here:

https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a27259689/toxic-masculinity-male-friendships-emotional-labor-men-rely-on-women/