No Off Season 4 Dads

Listen to some tips, some familiar and more novel) on raising our children in 2022.  

1.  Hug Your Children Daily  

2.  Talk & Listen with an Open Mind

3.  Allow a Controlled Freedom

4.  Treat & Respect Them for their Age

5.  Loosen the Leash

6.  Be consistent and Persistent in Your Love

7.  Pray for Them & You

Additional Resource:  The Angst of Adolescence by Sara Villanueva, PhD

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Investing in anything takes time and effort.  It takes a level of concentrating on a single item to ensure that it gives a return.  Why not invest in your child, especially in their faith.  Take a listen to Dijon as he gives some keys on how to do this.

I have never been one to want to pay my boys for doing their chores.  I always considered it as a part of 'earning their keep'.  However, I have heard of some parents who do pay their children money for doing household chores.  At the time of me writing this, 36% of people polled said the do pay their children for doing chores while the other 64% said, 'Heck No!'.  Some also gave incredibly valid reasons.  Take a listen and offer your perspective as well.  Listen. Enjoy. Share. Fund. Repeat. 

Notes:

Produced by dijondabassman in The NOS Studio.

'The Opposite of Spoiled:  Raising Kids Who Are Grounded, Generous, and Smart About Money' by Ron Lieber

'5 Reasons To Pay Your Kids For Doing Chores (& 5 Reasons Not To)' by Christine Persaud (2019) on www.moms.com

'7 Chores You Should Pay Your Kids to Do' by Stacie Williams (2015) on www.sixdollarfamily.com

How do you ensure a strong, mentally healthy family?  Listen in as we had the founders from the Renew and Revitalize Marriage & Family Institute as our guests.  Our guests were Dr. Jendayo Grady, Carissa Oyebanjo, LCPC, and Dr. Paula Anderson.  

The mental health of a family is so important to focus on.  As parents, it is our responsibility to ensure that everyone living under our roof is either mental healthy or has the resources to improve their mental health. 

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www.renewandrevitalize.org

Podcast produced by dijondabassman in Studio NOS

Interlude music by dijondbassman

For the People (Instrumental) by Pete Rock

Move On Up by Curtis Mayfield

I spoke about independence previously (episode 6), but growth, life, and other circumstances made me revisit the topic.  Watching my boys put together IKEA furniture was another level in their growth, especially for me to see.  I truly believe that releasing the 'leash' on our children is essential in their growth.  You're going to have to let it go anyway.  

Take a listen as I talk about releasing the leash and how an IKEA furniture piece  helped me to realize that.  Listen.  Enjoy. Share. Fund. Repeat.  Also, follow us on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook at No Off Season 4 Dads (NOS4Dads).

Produced and edited in Studio NOS.

Music produced by dijondabassman.

Samples from Mood4Eva (Instrumental) by Beyonce'.

Additional sponsors:  Renew and Revitalize Marriage & Family Institute  (www.renewandrevitalize.org/counseling)

I am entering a new phase of life.  I am old enough to have an adult son.  This means that my parenting is going to have to be a bit different.  My style and delivery has to be different.  However, principles stay the same.  I am sure that many of you are in this phase of life as well.  These are simply perspectives that I am currently learning and will continue to mature in as the days go on.  

Thoughts?!?

"Your job is to set the limit, not to control how your child feels about it or reacts to it." -- Sara Bean, M.D.

I really don't understand how such a powerful word is only two letters.  I know my parents had to use it with me as I grew up, but I don't think I realized how hard it could be for me as a father to use that word with my own children.  It's a simple, yet very complex word, filled with emotions and consequences, some of which are good and some that are bad.  Take a listen as Dijon speaks to this dynamic word and how to manage using it with your child.

References:  parentinghighschoolers.com & empoweringparents.com

Credits:  

Intro music and beats produced by dijondabassman

Mood 4 Eva (Instrumental) performed by Beyonce

The World Is Yours (Instrumental) performed by NAS

Anyone who has trained for an event knows that it takes a lot of time -- months and even years.  Training a child takes an entire lifetime! Take a moment to listen to Dijon as he talks about a popular Bible verse in a life perspective.  You don't have to be religious to get this proverb.  

Interlude music by dijondbassman

For the People (Instrumental) by Pete Rock

Mood 4 Eva (Instrumental) by Beyonce'

Raising teens can be a beautiful endeavor and sometimes an incredible challenge.  Raising teens in our modern day world is even more difficult.  Not only do we deal with their ever-changing personalities, we also have to be aware of the media that floods their world daily, especially as it relates to their technology.  Smartphones have taken over the way a teen views the world.  And with thee smartphones are also the potential casualties of sexualized media, ones that we are aware of and others that we are not.  

I was recently a panelist speaking about how to raise teenagers in a highly sexualized, digital world.  I wanted to continue that conversation.  Let's take a listen as I chat in The New Lounge with Abou Djaouga, Lanre Oyebanjo, Raynold Mensah, and Eric Henderson.  All of these men are very well accomplished in their line of work, but they are even more incredible fathers...and fathers of teens.  

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Music Credits:  The World is Yours (Instrumental) -- NAS; 'Mood 4 Eva' (Instrumental) -- Beyonce; Interludes created by dijondabassman.

Resources:  

Every Young Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn

Every Young Woman's Battle by Shannon Ethridge and Stephen Arterburn