Are you the only one always reaching out, or do you feel like you’re grieving a friendship that’s still technically active? Realizing that a one-sided friendship is no longer serving you is a uniquely painful experience, especially when you’ve poured your heart into the connection only to receive silence in return.

In this episode, Noah Osborne joins Charles to pull back the curtain on the seasonal nature of relationships and the "victim mentality" that often clouds our judgment when circles begin to shift. Noah Osborne shares his raw journey through marriage and divorce at 22, revealing how major life transitions act as a "time warp" that illuminates who is truly meant to walk into your next season and who was only meant for the last one.

A friendship is often out of balance when one person consistently handles the emotional labor of reaching out and following up while the other remains passive. Noah discusses the exhaustion of being the primary "initiator" and the importance of communicating expectations before resentment builds.

Major milestones like marriage, divorce, or career success can create a "wavelength" gap between you and your old community. When you focus on personal development or therapy, you may find that some friends remain "frozen" in time, requiring a level of grace and the realization that outgrowing people is a natural part of maturity.

It is easy to fall into a victim mentality where you feel like no one cares as much as you do, but this is often a projection of past family dynamics or trauma. By looking in the mirror and addressing these internal narratives, you can learn to distinguish between a friend who is "struggling" and a friendship that has simply reached its natural end.

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• Charles Turtz
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• 00:00 – The "I regret saying that" vulnerability hangover
• 02:38 – The video that exposed the truth about mutual effort
• 03:01 – Why your 20s feel like a friendship "time warp"
• 04:12 – The Bullseye Theory: Moving people between circles
• 05:17 – What happens to your circle when you divorce at 22?
• 06:05 – Dealing with "success jealousy" in old friendships
• 08:34 – Why "Quality Time" is the most dangerous love language
• 10:04 – The apology that changed nothing
• 12:50 – Identifying the "behind the scenes" struggle of distant friends
• 15:59 – Is it your ego or is the friendship actually over?
• 19:30 – The "Quarterly Hangout" and the fear of disappearing
• 24:23 – Returning home to find your friends "frozen" in time
• 27:43 – The difference between being "friendly" and being a "friend"
• 31:13 – Knowing who can actually handle your "trauma dumping"
• 32:41 – The "Big Assumption" mistake that derailed the conversation
• 36:03 – How a spouse can actually save a friendship
• 42:03 – The "Dangerous Prayer" that removed people from Noah’s life
• 50:41 – The mask of "keeping it all together" for too long