Episode 21 - Non Offending Pedophile

A conversation with a non offending pedophile. A very difficult subject to navigate through, possibly one of the hardest conversations i’ve ever had. So many mixed feelings.

Here are some of the articles referenced:

My original email interview with other non-offending pedophile: http://nicemangos.blogspot.ca/2015/11/interview-with-non-offending-pedophile.html?zx=7bb7c36dd4b927c4

Admittedly, i think i have made some steps forward from when i first emailed back and forth with the other non-offender. It certainly didn’t help that he (and his friends who approached me on twitter) didn’t feel much guilt or that he made creepy comments. In contrast to this episode, where my interviewee recognized it as an issue, and did not try to rationalize it. I think that helped me change my attitude quite a bit. I used to not be able to believe that there were pedophiles who truly didn’t want to act out on their desires. But I’m definitely starting to change my mind. We do need to create a distinction for those who want to “manage” their condition, vs. those who go out and commit horrible crimes.

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I mentioned a bad experience from my childhood:

http://nicemangos.blogspot.ca/2012/06/i-am-broken-doll.html

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Kat Von D non-pology

https://www.facebook.com/katvond/posts/10155445610990454:0

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Dunkelfeld website (English) https://www.dont-offend.org/

How Germany treats pedophiles before they offend: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/oct/16/how-germany-treats-paedophiles-before-they-offend

"Although Dunkelfeld has come in for criticism for focusing on the potential abusers rather than the abused, it has been supported by victims’ groups in Germany and elsewhere. The family of April Jones, the five-year-old Welsh girl who was murdered by Mark Bridger in 2012, have appealed for help for paedophiles who seek it."

“If someone says to the doctor: ‘I have these feelings, can I have help?’ it would be better to try to help them before they ruin someone else’s family,” Coral Jones said this year.”

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I mentioned an article by Robert T. Muller:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/talking-about-trauma/201603/non-offending-pedophiles-suffer-isolation

"Robert T. Muller, Ph.D., C.Psych. completed his clinical fellowship at Harvard, was on faculty at the University of Massachussetts, and is currently Professor of Clinical Psychology at York University”

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Study finds pedophiles brains wired to find children attractive: http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/05/23/study-finds-pedophiles-brains-wired-to-find-children-attractive.html

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