Normalizing Men's Mental Health with Will Fruin

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Sean Martin, an Army veteran and musician, joins Will Fruin for an honest conversation about PTSD, homelessness, recovery, and how music became a tool for survival and self-expression. They discuss the realities of returning from military service, the challenges of finding the right support, and how healing changes not just the person, but everyone around them.
In this episode, Will and Sean cover the path from Army service to music school, the impact of PTSD on daily life, and why Sean’s album Aversion to Normalcy is both a personal statement and a critique of the culture around him.
Key topics
Sean explains why he joined the Army: leaving his hometown, limited job prospects, and the appeal of an 18X special forces contract.
He describes choosing deployment over immediate special forces training, then leaving the military after less than three years.
Reintegrating into civilian life was difficult because of apathy, trauma, and the disconnect between military experience and everyday society.
Sean shares how alcohol, a cheating breakup, and instability pushed him to stop drifting and commit to music.
He talks about driving from Alaska to California, then on to Minneapolis and Los Angeles in pursuit of music education.
Music school became a major turning point, especially after an early rejection that he later realized was more about one teacher’s attitude than his ability.



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What happens when the patterns that once helped you survive start holding you back?In this conversation, Steve Stapporn—founder of Neuro’s Journey—shares his path from childhood trauma, addiction, and disconnection to sobriety, healing, and a renewed sense of purpose. He and Will Fruin explore neurofeedback, nervous-system regulation, men’s healing, relationships, accountability, post-traumatic growth, and the ongoing work of becoming the person you want to be.Steve explains how neurofeedback helped him understand his brain differently, why healing requires more than one approach, and how learning to respond instead of react transformed his relationships with his family, partner, and himself.

• Childhood trauma and the patterns it can create
• Addiction, sobriety, and becoming more present
• What neurofeedback is and how it can support healing
• Why accountability and apologizing can change relationships
• The hero’s journey, resilience, and post-traumatic growth
• Psychedelic-assisted healing, integration, and safety
• Finding purpose after survival mode

If this conversation resonates, subscribe for more honest discussions about men’s mental health, healing, recovery, and personal growth.This conversation shares personal experiences and is not medical advice. If you’re considering treatment or support, consult a qualified healthcare professional.

00:00 Welcome and Steve’s healing journey

01:05 Childhood trauma, addiction, and business success

02:53 Men’s groups, vulnerability, and recovery

03:55 Discovering neurofeedback

06:40 What neurofeedback is

11:44 Nervous-system regulation and emotional choice

13:50 Becoming an active participant in life

19:18 Repairing relationships and self-forgiveness

21:38 The hero’s journey and post-traumatic growth

26:17 Stuttering, self-soothing, and being seen

28:37 Sobriety and living with presence

33:11 Psychedelic-assisted healing and forgiveness

39:06 Integration, behavior change, and safety

44:35 Where to find Steve and Neuro’s Journey

46:20 Steve’s message: healing as an ongoing practice

51:00 Final message for anyone who feels damaged

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inding Purpose Beyond Addiction: Raymond Almada on Sobriety, Suicide Prevention, and Peer Support
Will Fruin speaks with Raymond Almada, a sobriety and mental health advocate who has been sober for more than 20 years. The conversation explores what it takes to move from survival mode into recovery, how honesty and support can help people change, and why no one should face addiction or suicidal thoughts alone.
They discuss Raymond’s “moment of clarity,” the role of sponsors and 12-step tools in addiction recovery, the impact of sobriety on family relationships, and how the Wellness Worksite Project grew out of his own mental health crisis during COVID.
Key topics
Raymond shares the moment that pushed him toward sobriety after years of rehab, relapse, and struggling to fully engage in recovery.
He explains how addiction can become a way to cope with pain, shame, and difficult feelings.
Will and Raymond discuss the importance of learning practical tools for recovery and mental wellness.
Raymond describes how surrender, honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness became part of his long-term sobriety.
They explore how shame, guilt, and isolation can make it harder to seek help.
Raymond reflects on how sobriety changed his relationships with family members and former partners.
They discuss making amends through accountability, permission, and consistent actions—not just apologies.
Raymond opens up about suicidal ideation that began before alcohol and drugs, and how understanding that history affected his recovery.
He shares how a crisis during COVID led to the creation of the Wellness Worksite Project and a peer support space for suicide survivors and people facing mental health challenges.
Raymond’s central message: addiction and mental health struggles thrive in isolation, so connection and peer support matter.
Timestamps
00:00 - Why this conversation is about cost, not just abstinence

01:04 - Raymond’s “moment of clarity” and the road to sobriety

02:57 - Being confronted by his mother at the bar

04:43 - The guilt that finally pushed him into AA

06:11 - Why rehab alone did not change the pattern

07:47 - Wanting the pain and shame to stop

10:06 - The difference between having recovery tools and using them

11:28 - Learning recovery through mentorship and apprenticeship

13:39 - Why creating a new relationship with himself was terrifying

14:23 - Suicidal ideation before drinking and drug use

16:08 - Finding a sponsor and trusting the recovery process

18:19 - Why people leave relationships when addiction is present

21:04 - The painful but protective role of love and boundaries

23:48 - How making amends works in practice

27:27 - Why family members may still relate to the old version of you

29:21 - Taking responsibility for your side of the street

32:27 - Radical honesty and changing your social environment

34:34 - When family members struggle to accept change

37:41 - Why you cannot expect others to have the tools you have learned

Will Fruin speaks with Stephen Paul Edwards, author of Venus Fly Trap, about how childhood trauma shapes adult relationships, why shame keeps people stuck, and how vulnerability can become a source of strength. Stephen shares the story behind his intense relationship with Tomas, the lessons he learned about addiction, mental health, and self-acceptance, and why he believes communication and honesty matter more than trying to be “normal.”

• Stephen explains how his early years and family dynamics formed the foundation of his life, especially the impact of emotional absence, control issues, and a difficult relationship with his parents.
• He shares his belief that life is a mirror, meaning the relationships and situations we create often reflect unresolved issues we need to face in ourselves.
• Stephen describes how he spent years “running away” from himself through travel, business, and constant motion before finally confronting his own healing.
• Stephen talks about his intense relationship with Tomas, including the strong chemistry, intellectual connection, and emotional volatility that made it both magnetic and destructive.
• He talks about writing his story as a cathartic process that turned into three books, and how putting everything on the page gave him freedom from secrecy and shame.
• The conversation explores BDSM, trust, vulnerability, and the idea that sexual expression can be healing when it is honest, consensual, and emotionally connected.
• Stephen recounts learning about Tomas’s mental health struggles and alcoholism, and how that helped him understand her behavior with more compassion—even though he could not fix the relationship.
• We discuss why normalcy can feel boring or even frightening to some people, especially when excitement, risk, and intensity have shaped their identity for years.
• Stephen shares how communication, boundaries, and separate lives can help keep relationships alive without slipping into resentment, routine, or emotional stagnation.
• The episode closes with a broader reflection on shame, addiction recovery, self-worth, and why healing can involve staying away from what pulls you back into old patterns.

00:00 - Introducing Stephen Paul Edwards and the childhood wounds behind the conversation
01:01 - How early family trauma shapes adult behavior
02:50 - Running away from home, and eventually running away from himself
04:03 - Meeting Tomas and the beginning of an intense, volatile relationship
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A combat veteran, a CPA, and a lifelong believer breaks down the moment “toughing it out” stopped working and surrender became the only way forward. Keith A. Cole shares how war, grief, burnout, and years of hidden trauma finally pushed him toward peace—and why the path back to faith can be the beginning of real mental health recovery.Will Fruin guides a raw, honest conversation about the emotional weight of losing a father, surviving Vietnam, notifying families of deaths, and carrying pain in silence for decades. Keith explains why he blamed God, how that mindset shaped his drinking and isolation, and what changed when he finally cried out for help after hitting bottom.You’ll discover:

• Why Keith believes unresolved grief can shape an entire lifetime
• What it was like serving in Vietnam as a machine gunner in Leatherneck Square
• The hidden trauma of telling next of kin their loved one was killed in action
• How his framework,God’s Recovery Plan

  , turns faith into a 12-week recovery process

• The eight-step APPRAISER method: action, prayer, reading scripture, affirmation, inscribing, seeing, exercise, and rest

Keith also opens up about becoming the guardian for his younger brother and sister, building a long CPA career, and writing a book that was really a search for his own healing. His story shows how strength without surrender can turn brittle, and why one honest conversation can change everything.

is a combat veteran of the United States Marine Corps, former CPA, and author of Burnout, God’s Recovery Plan. He draws on decades of lived experience, faith, and recovery to help others find peace after trauma.Essential listening if you’ve ever felt like you had to carry everything alone, if faith and mental health are part of your healing journey, or if you need proof that asking for help is not weakness—it’s the start of true strength.

Will Fruin speaks with Todd Maguire, a former Queensland Police detective sergeant and author of Donnie and Undercover Cop with a Death Wish, about the event that shattered his life and the long road back from grief. The conversation follows Todd’s transformation from a regular police officer into an undercover identity named Donnie, and how that role became tied to unresolved trauma, PTSD, and survival.We discuss what happened on New Year’s Eve 1999, how alcohol and high-risk behavior became coping mechanisms, and why writing the book became a turning point. Todd also shares what it means to reclaim his own life, speak openly about mental health, and help other men do the same.

• Todd Maguire explains his 27-year career with the Queensland Police Service, finishing as a detective sergeant after years investigating drugs, murders, assaults, rapes, and deaths.
• He shares how he unexpectedly became a police officer after a pub conversation with a friend, then quickly realized he loved the work.
• Todd describes his first foot patrol shift in Surfers Paradise, where breaking up fights made him feel like he had found his place.
• The conversation turns to the traumatic event on New Year’s Eve 1999, when Todd found his partner Karen dead by suicide after he returned home with her young son, Clark.
• Todd recounts the immediate aftermath, including shock, CPR attempts, calling emergency services, and the emotional collapse that followed.
• He admits that after the tragedy he spent three months drinking heavily and numbing himself rather than processing grief.
• Todd explains how, about 12 months later, he met undercover officers at a pub and realized undercover work might be the only thing left that gave him purpose.
• He walks through the transition into the identity of Donnie, including changing his name, training for undercover work, and learning to live between two worlds.
• Todd describes the psychological cost of undercover life, including needing to answer to Donnie in public and distancing himself from old friendships.
• A pivotal moment came when a man he had helped arrest called him from a cliff, terrified of jail, and Todd realized he did not want to leave that kind of pain behind for others.
• Todd and Will discuss how trauma, masculinity, and emotional suppression often push men toward alcohol, avoidance, and isolation instead of healing.
• Writing the book became a form of therapy and a way to show other men that they are allowed to talk, grieve, and ask for help.
• Todd says the book is part true crime, part memoir, part mental health reflection, but at its core it is a message about survival and what not to do when life falls apart.
• He shares how his wife’s support helped him tell the story honestly without disrespecting Karen or minimizing the impact of the trauma.
• Todd explains that Donnie now represents PTSD for him, and that he is learning to recognize when that part of himself starts creeping back in.
• He closes by warning that untreated pain gets passed on to loved ones, and that healing yourself is one of the most selfless things you can do.

00:00 - Introducing Todd Maguire and the story behind Donnie
00:50 - 27 years in Queensland policing

Dr. Kristen Cook breaks down why so many behavior battles are really overwhelmed brains, mismatched expectations, and adults reacting on autopilot. If you’re raising kids, teaching them, or trying to break a cycle from your own childhood, this conversation gives you a calmer, more effective way forward.After 15 years in pediatric practice, Dr. Cook saw the same parenting questions surface across wildly different families, from underserved households to international families working in her community. That pattern led her to write Parenting Redefined, a book built to help parents understand what children are actually capable of at each stage - emotionally, socially, and cognitively - so discipline becomes guidance instead of punishment.You’ll hear Dr. Cook explain how temperament changes everything: one child may need firmer, more direct language while another shuts down under the same tone. She shares why toddlers and preschoolers often act out for attention, why tantrums are usually signs of an overwhelmed brain, and how to respond without reinforcing the behavior. She also breaks down the difference between what a child can do at different ages and why expecting adult-level emotional reasoning from a young child backfires.Will Fruin pushes the conversation deeper into emotional regulation, modeling, co-parenting, and the ways parents unknowingly pass on yelling, shame, or silence. Dr. Cook offers practical tools like “duck on a pond,” a simple visualization for staying calm under pressure, plus her approach to family meetings, repair after mistakes, and helping kids build emotional language early - sometimes before age two.Dr. Cook also addresses the hard realities: developmental delays, neurodivergence, divorce, absent parents, substance use, and how to recognize when behavior may point to something clinical like disruptive mood dysregulation disorder. Her message is both compassionate and clear - most parents are doing better than they think, and growth is possible when you trade judgment for curiosity.If you want a more peaceful home, better communication, and a parenting framework that actually fits real children, this episode is essential listening.

Stoicism is not a dusty philosophy for people with their life already figured out - it is a survival tool for the moments when everything falls apart. Benny Via Stoica reveals how divorce, a serious knee injury, and nearly five years of sobriety forced him to rebuild his life from the ground up using ancient wisdom, radical honesty, and a completely different way of relating to people.Benny is the founder of Via Stoica, where he coaches, teaches, and creates workshops rooted in Stoic philosophy. He shares how he went from heavy drinking and emotional burnout to a life built around purpose, discipline, and meaningful connection - and why the real shift happened when he stopped trying to escape his life and started learning how to live it.You'll discover how Stoicism helped Benny rethink sobriety, relationships, travel, and even the way he teaches. He breaks down why the people around you often resist your growth at first, how to spot disengagement in kids and adults, and why confidence, presence, and one-on-one attention matter more than performance. He also explains the Stoic ideas behind emotional control, minimalism, and the discipline of desire.We break down why "attention is love," how side-by-side experiences like walking, sports, and building things can create deeper bonds than small talk ever will, and why so many modern relationships stay shallow because we are distracted, overconsuming, and always reaching for the next thing. Benny connects these ideas to real life - from hosting stoic walks in Spain to finding more honest connection in conversations, family moments, and shared struggle.If you have ever felt stuck, burned out, disconnected, or ready for a more grounded way to live, this conversation will hit hard. Essential listening if you want practical wisdom, not theory - and a reminder that the good life is not found by escaping yourself, but by becoming someone you can trust.

Mike Knox on prison, parole, comedy, and advocating for epilepsy
Will Fruin speaks with Mike Knox, a comedian, writer, retired parole agent, and father advocating for his daughter with epilepsy. The conversation moves between the realities of prison and parole work, the failures of reentry systems, and the personal toll of chronic caregiving.
Mike also opens up about how humor became a survival tool, how comedy became a second career, and why empathy is the throughline connecting his work, his family life, and his advocacy.
Key topics
In this episode: Mike explains how working in prisons and parole shaped his communication style, forcing him to be direct, efficient, and firm.
In this episode: He describes prison as mostly boredom with bursts of extreme danger, and contrasts inmate behavior with officer culture.
In this episode: Mike argues that prison and parole systems do not communicate well, which creates bad transitions for people reentering society.
In this episode: The discussion covers barriers to reentry, including lack of ID, driver’s licenses, housing, job access, and follow-through from institutions.
In this episode: Mike shares how trust breaks down when supervisors, police, or systems undermine the rapport parole agents try to build.
In this episode: Mental health comes up repeatedly, especially how prisons, police, and parole often default to punishment instead of care.
In this episode: Will and Mike talk about the stigma around therapy, alcohol use in law enforcement, and the pressure to “suck it up.”
In this episode: Mike shares his experience as a father to a daughter with epilepsy, including years of seizures, medical frustration, and the challenge of navigating schools and doctors.
In this episode: The conversation highlights how a vagus nerve stimulator helped Mike’s daughter become seizure-free and regain independence.
In this episode: Mike explains why comedy matters to him as a form of therapy, self-expression, and learning through discomfort.
Timestamps
(00:00) Introductions and why Mike’s direct communication style stands out

(01:06) Prison communication, patience, and why being firm but fair works better

(02:04) What prison is really like: boredom, fear, violence, and survival

(03:25) Why Mike entered prison work and how he started collecting stories for a book

(04:31) Prison-to-parole disconnect and why reentry support often fails

(06:23) The first obstacles after release: ID, background checks, and employment

(08:03) Why halfway-house style support could help people transition better

(08:32) Veterans in the system and missed opportunities for targeted support

(09:51) How homelessness, addiction, and environment shape behavior

(10:35) Building trust with parolees and how supervisors and police can destroy it

(11:31) Systemic waste, Skid Row, and why Mike believes many problems are ignored on purpose

(12:43) Mental illness, psych holds, and the lack of long-term treatment

(14:38) Why many people most in need of benefits struggle to access them

(17:53) Law enforcement culture, stigma, and why family members often don’t understand the work

(20:55) Why therapy is often discouraged in law enforcement while drinking is normalized

(24:53) Not talking about the job at home and the strain that creates in marriage

(27:45) Retirement, identity, and why so many officers stay too long

(31:30) Food, stress, and using eating as an emotional outlet

(33:02) Early therapy experiences and why trust matters in treatment

(37:37) Why Mike started comedy and how humor helped him survive

(40:14) Comedy as an ongoing challenge, not a destination

Veterans are being failed by therapy that asks them to explain themselves before they ever feel seen. Dr. Jessica Sellers breaks down why cultural competence, trust, and the first few minutes of a session can determine whether someone stays in care or walks away forever.
Will Fruin and Jessica Sellers get blunt about what actually helps veterans open up, why so many providers miss the mark, and how community mental health can become a real lifeline instead of another dead end. If you work with veterans, love one, or are a veteran yourself, this conversation will change how you think about therapy, crisis support, and healing.
You'll discover why veterans often hold back in session because they do not want to traumatize the therapist, how EMDR and early rapport building create safety, and why “just fix me” is not what many people need when they finally ask for help. Jessica shares how flexible approaches like writing, resourcing, and meeting people where they are can make therapy actually usable.
We also break down the bigger system problem: the gap between VA referrals and community providers, the shocking lack of cultural competence training, and why data alone cannot capture the human story behind suicide risk, stigma, and burnout. The episode also gets into safety planning, 988 calls, firearms, and why crisis response has to be calm, practical, and stigma-free if it is going to work.
Jessica Sellers is a social worker and Army National Guard veteran working on her DSW, with a focus on improving how community care providers interact with veterans. Her perspective is shaped by her own military background, her work with VA referrals, and her hands-on experience helping clients build trust, safety, and connection.
Essential listening if you care about veteran mental health, trauma-informed care, or what real cultural competence looks like in practice.

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