Most founders talk about growth, not intimacy.
But here’s the truth: how you show up in your relationships is how you show up as a leader.
In this episode of Not Another Podcast, Brennan Pothetes sits down with Natassia Miller (sexologist, entrepreneur, and founder of Wanderlust Intimacy) to explore how vulnerability, communication, and connection at home translate into better leadership in business.
They talk about why founders burn out their relationships, how to build emotional intelligence without losing your edge, and why better sex might just make you a better CEO.
It’s provocative, smart, and surprisingly tactical.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro: Jenga, chaos, and why this topic matters
03:00 – Brennan shares how he met his wife (and what it taught him about partnership)
08:00 – How sex and relationships influence entrepreneurship
10:15 – Communication in the bedroom = communication in the boardroom
11:30 – Why founders trade relationships for startups
12:00 – The loneliness crisis after an exit
14:30 – Boundaries, burnout, and emotional health
16:00 – The #1 device ruining your relationship
20:30 – How to ask better questions and keep desire alive
24:00 – Emotional labor and why money doesn’t fix connection
30:00 – The “CEO in the streets, submissive in the sheets” paradox
33:00 – Scheduling sex (and why it works)
36:00 – Turning curiosity into intimacy
40:00 – Somatic exercises to reconnect with your partner
46:00 – Novelty, pickleball, and 36x more sex (really)
50:00 – Why powerful people crave surrender
54:00 – AI girlfriends, ethics, and the connection crisis
58:00 – Vulnerability as a leadership skill
1:03:00 – How male and female founders differ in showing emotion
1:10:00 – Burning down your life to start again
1:17:00 – The “bid for connection” rule every couple should know
1:21:00 – Building an ethical business in the wellness space
1:23:00 – Closing thoughts: founder love, intimacy, and balance
