Along with being a deliberate example, parents need to be aware of the values you are modeling.  Today’s episode explores some virtues that seem to be less common in today’s self-centered and fast paced world.  We also discuss how to create moral literacy with stories.

Would you allow a stranger to sit on your teen's bed and talk to them for hours a day? Never. Yet this is what's happening and this is how you can put yourself back in the number one influencer position with your teen, through your deliberate, though not perfect, example.

What if you could read your teen's thoughts about themselves?  Would their story of their worth match yours about them?  Dr. Thayne talks about how the stories we choose to tell ourselves can lead to vastly different outcomes, ranging from destructive to a springboard for success.


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Intro

1:28

Self Esteem Stat

4:58

Student Body President

9:04

Daughter Wants To Drop Out

14:07

App Announcement

15:15

Driving To the Airport

17:11

Closing Self Esteem Talk

20:23

Outro

Dr. Thayne takes this opportunity to share with Casi Fariello of OPLM why he felt it was time to turn his attention to the needs of families after their teen's out-of-home treatment programs.  He shares his journey from an owner and therapist in a wilderness treatment program, to working where the "rubber meets the road" of therapeutic treatment . . . in the home.

"As we get stronger, our family gets stronger."  In today's episode, Dr. Thayne introduces listeners to Casie Fariello, the CEO of "Other Parents Like Me," a virtual membership platform that went live in January of 2022. Casie retired from United Airlines after 26 years in December of 2022 to follow her passion to co-found the program after creating parent support groups at Balance Continuum of Care in Arizona in 2020 and is a Parent Coach and Facilitator for The Partnership to End Addiction.

We discuss the fact that parents all deal with similar issues around good communication, setting boundaries, self-care and self-regulation.  While it’s easy to judge or compare your situation to others, it's imperative to find common ground with others through a journey of curiosity, change and discovery. 

In this episode Dr. Thayne and Roxanne Thayne discuss the latest in the collection of Not by Chance Yearbooks.  The purpose of the book is to share stories, quotes, photographs and writing prompts that encourage readers in intentional family living.  

This issue is focused on the theme of home: coming home, strengthening the home, rebuilding the home, and memories of home.

Listen in as the Thaynes share the narratives they wrote, as well as two others that will give you a peek inside this inspiring and delightful read.

Issue 4 comes out November 15th, 2022 and can be purchased at www.notbychance.com.  Makes a perfect gift for anyone who comes from or has a family!

Today Dr. Thayne discusses the importance of healthy boundaries and how to teach others to respect them in your home and family.  

Using the example of his Olde English Bulldogge puppy (Churchill), he explains how the trainer's consistency and an appropriate level of consequence are key for success in the long run.  Hmmm, sounds an awful lot like what we teach in the Not by Chance book!

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Dr Tim Thayne interviews Dr. Timothy Smith, a psychologist and professor of counseling psychology at Brigham Young University. As social beings, we are wired for connectivity. Dr. Smith and Dr. Thayne discuss research-based solutions for parents to deepen connections and change unhealthy patterns inside the family. Learn universal principles that can help you achieve a balance between connection and leadership with your teen. 

In Psychologist Jordan Peterson's bestselling book, “12 Rules for Life” one rule is, “Don’t bother children when they are skateboarding.” In this episode Dr. Tim Thayne talks about the importance of introducing risk in children's play. There are numerous benefits for children when they aren’t put in bubble wrap, but allowed to grow physically and mentally healthier, more confident and better able to assess risk moving forward. He talks about the adventure playground movement that started in Europe and spread to America.  Surprisingly, these playgrounds weren’t only used more, they also logged less injuries.

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Jordan Peterson - Do Not Bother Skateboarding Children!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lztEnBFN5zU

While it naturally feels good to help someone, it isn’t the most natural thing to remember to serve when we are in the midst of a struggle. So how do we teach our children to be on the lookout for service opportunities? Dr. Thayne shares a story about a mother who felt the thrill of serving a fellow mom in distress. After listening to this woman and then sharing her own experiences, they walked away with lighter hearts and hopeful attitudes. Teach your kids the importance of serving, and when they do it one-on-one, they’ll see the impact and reap the joy for themselves.