This week, adult friendships are back on Jess and Caroline’s minds. They talk through how to schedule a girl's trip, their qualms with hosting, people pleasing breakthroughs, and how they each put on a show in social situations. They get to the bottom of this realization: are you really an introvert—or are you draining your social battery by performing? 
Plus, there’s still plenty of giggling about bell pepper dilemmas, horrific corporate lingo, and a new weekend hack that might change your life. Let’s hang, dawgs. 
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63. Not For People Pleasing + Other Obvious Realizations That Changed Our Lives

Not for Everyone is an existential commentary podcast hosted by one hater (Caroline Winkler) and one lover (Jess DeBakey). We're just two sweet kooks getting carried away being ourselves, waxing poetic on every topic we care too much about. Come for the humor, stay for the honesty. We know we’re not for everyone, but we bet we are for you.
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This week Jess and Caroline sit down to record together live in LA, where they are joined in studio by a very special guest: Alexandra Anele! Alex is a talented makeup artist, content creator, dedicated NFE listener, and Caroline’s first YouTube friend – so it was a delight to have her on to share tips and hot takes on all things beauty and personal style. 
But it’s not all makeup and beauty; the crew also ruminates together on if you can have a career in social media without losing your mind. Naturally. Plus, we’ve got a complaint about packing for trips, a flirty husband whatado, advice on breaking up with your therapist, and what it means to work hard at something and then find out you hate it. Put on your safety goggles and buckle up, because this episode is equal parts science and art, kooks!
For more Alex, check out her amazing makeup tutorials and more on Youtube.
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73. Beauty Hot Takes + Reframing Your Professional Path with YouTuber Alexandra Anele

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone/⁠⁠⁠ to get 10% off your first month.
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Jess and Caroline are back together. <3 They jump right into some hot topics with some hot takes: how tracking your energy can work to your benefit, how our feelings tell the truth no matter the trigger, navigating different communication styles in relationships, and the danger of letting labels take all the responsibility for our actions. 
Plus a couple logistical conversations: which is the correct public bathroom stall to use? And how the F do you network without flirting? Of course, we won’t leave you without a complaint everyone can get behind—get ready for the Printer Episode, bbs. 
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72. Not for Unspoken Expectations + How to Hack Your Mood Swings

In this special edition of Caroline's alleged "solo" episode, she is joined by her boyfriend, Justin. Justin chimes in to share a male perspective on all your questions - including what it’s like to date our resident hater, his perspective on dating apps, when it might make a little sense to “sell out” in your career, and so much more. They also debate various “dating crimes and misdemeanors” and can’t help but end it on…forearm strengthening tips? Don’t miss all the nasty boi phrases Caroline made Justin say in this special edition episode! 
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71. Hater Hour: Interrogating My Boyfriend + Career Fulfillment and Dating Crimes

Sound the alarms: we’ve got a solo ep from Jess this week! She talks all about creative bursts, and how the past two weeks specifically have been glorious for her. But when the burst fades away...Jess reflects on what should happen next. She turns to Instagram DMs to learn how listeners conceptualize the idea of “being a creative” and how that looks in different career paths. 
Later, she goes into some therapeutic practices for understanding yourself and your place in your family. As a child of immigrants, Jess grew up with “survival parenting,” and she tells us a few ways she’s started to untangle herself from parental expectations. Get inspired bbs—whether you need a creative push or some time spent healing that sweet inner child.  
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70. Jess Thots: Defining Creativity + Living Up to Family Expectations

It’s the one we’ve all been waiting for…the milestone of the century…the 69th EPISODE. Join Jess and Caroline (and a special guest??) to talk all your kookiest sex fantasies, including respected older gentlemen, tears as foreplay, marketplace porn, pod sex, and…Catwoman? 
And then one person’s fantasy gets Jess and Caroline in rumination mode: is your sex better if your relationship is better? Plus, they discuss how to work through sex insecurities, asking someone out in real life, and the many dynamics of dating apps. Warning: ghosts may be involved. 
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63. Not For People Pleasing + Other Obvious Realizations That Changed Our Lives

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