It’s the first ever edition of Hot Not Bothered Summer! In this series, Jess and Caroline answer listener’s burning questions about all things dating, and they start out with a bang. They discuss giving men the benefit of the doubt when you’re jaded, how to use dating apps in an intentional way, the best things to ask on a first date, and how to handle a situationship.

Plus, they dive a little deeper into the “hunt” of dating, what emotional baggage is/is not allowed to bring to new relationships, listening vs. talking, and above all, understanding that what you feel is the most important data. Let’s make this a summer of love, babies! Kisses!

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Babies, it’s time to get in touch with your rage. This week, Jess and Caroline talk about feeling rage for yourself and on behalf of others, why we’re actually happier in our 30s, and the freedom you feel when you don’t worry what others think about you.

Then a listener WHATADO leads them to discuss the chasm between friends in different life stages, the pressures of marriage, and how to connect even when your life feels so different from your friend’s. Plus, stay tuned for an R-rated sex hack, thoughts on psychedelic research, and more about the new summer series. Kisses!

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Turn out the lights and get comfy, because today is a total sleepover-vibe episode. Jess and Caroline discuss weird-shaped cookie cutters, baking reality tv, and the satisfaction of untangling a necklace, before diving deeper on their thoughts about Love on the Spectrum.

This conversation leads them to ruminate on how different generations interact with the internet and how seeing ourselves more affects us in good and bad ways. Plus, they discuss some “gross girl books,” the cons of audiobooks, and of course, Beyonce. Nighty night, kooks!

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Good morning, sunshines! This week, Jess and Caroline talk about a new friendship hack: the couple sleepover. They ruminate on casual, frequent hangouts, talk about spontaneous outings, and consider the sunken cost fallacy when it comes to an event not working out the way you envisioned.

Plus, they chat about what they have trouble spending money on, a few things they are really glad they spent money on, and a couple annoying but necessary purchases. Jess updates us on reading books with Ryan, Caroline updates us on her month-long work break, and they end the episode by sharing a few heartfelt listener reviews. N4E kooks are the best kooks.

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Icks. We all have one, we all are one. Jess and Caroline read listener submissions that, quite frankly, are indefensible—but that’s the point. You can’t explain an ick. They talk about anything from men’s gross feet to people drinking full glasses of milk to someone bragging about eating a bunch of exotic fruit. Warning: you will cringe.

A few submissions lend to deeper conversations, like what we talk about and why, texting and communication woes, picky eaters, bad dates, and the weird phenomenon where men just don’t get the same icks women do. Buckle up, babies: you might recognize yourselves in some of these weird behaviors…

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It's a kooky day in the neighborhood as Jess and Caroline bounce through topics from maintaining bangs to hating at a bridal fitting to blush trends and more. But don't let the topic list fool you; they get deep fast as they explore all the ways we tend to get in our own way in life. Why is it so hard to shake outdated, insecure, or self-deprecating versions of ourselves? Why can't we enjoy nice things?!

When it all seems futile and endless, Caroline's dad may just be able to save the day. She shares stories of how he's seen the mind-body connection come to life in his medical practice, and our hosts talk about times they've realized that stress and trauma have taken a physical toll. Finally, it wouldn't be a bippity bop episode if not for a few rejected jokes from Jess's running list. Laugh, okay?!?

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Ever wondered if you’re in the wrong? Jess and Caroline are talking through listener submissions for a new ~segment~ called “Am I the Hater?” to get to the root of each problem. They discuss asking your partner to give you gifts, wishing your friends hadn’t brought their kids to the party, and sharing your birthday with your mother-in-law. 

Plus, they do some rapid-fire takes on a few submissions, like daddy-daughter dates, sidewalk etiquette, talking only about kids, girls-only events, second baby showers, and friends who have annoying friends. Can the phrase “no judgement” ever be fully true? Let’s find out.

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Hello babies! Have you ever flirted to get something you want? Jess starts the episode off talking about her trip to NYC and a flirting method she used to get her boyfriend on the flight back. This leads to a deeper conversation about seeing your partner flirt with someone else, how the cliches of “finding love” might be true, and advice for friends that actually works.

Plus, Jess and Caroline dive into different ideas about rage bait, food content on Instagram, Black Twitter, and what the young kids are up to. How do we deal with the internet as a part of our daily lives? It’s an eternal question, and one J and C are ready to tackle. Also, if you’re tracking how often J has been sick…we don’t want to know the result. Hugs!

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Well, there’s no easy way to say this: the episode just does start out with a lot of bathroom horror stories. But it’s human, babies!! You get it. Jess and Caroline talk about doctor’s office shenanigans, public bathroom woes, ancient Roman ways of using the bathroom, and a few of their own experiences where they didn’t quite make it, if you know what we mean.

But that’s not all! Stick around for some thoughts on keeping up conversation when running into an acquaintance randomly, a sales approach to good conversations, and a tiny barn owl update. Plus, J and C commiserate over bad avocado toast, check out their recent Google search histories, and provide some ideas about the type of energy they bring into their romantic relationships. You’ll like it, we promise.

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