This week, writer Emily Gould joins Quinn and Claire to discuss her obsession with Heated Rivalry (it's about hockey, primarily), the aging cliff at 44, ruining everything you used to find fun by professionalizing it, and parenting the kid that's exactly like you.

Also discussed: food parties, advice columns, Julia Roberts, and the Kinsey Scale.

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This week, we have Meghan Keane Graham and Mark Graham on the show to chat about their podcast, Back In My Day, where they watch movies from when they were 12 and force their kids (ages 12 and 9) to discuss them. We discuss: movies that don't hold up, what to do when your kids hate a movie that was very formative for you, when to introduce your kids to John Hughes movies, springing on your kids that they have to do skating lessons (at bedtime, perfect), and how Billy Madison peeing his pants is actually great parenting advice.

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This week we're talking about the delicate art of making everything toxic for your children (Whole Foods? Ruined. Florida? The worst. Every public figure? Probably a Nazi.), how to tell kids bad news on their level ("Grandma is cooked"), and whether you're still a trad wife if you do all the trad wife things but hate it.

Also: the polar vortex, Apollo 13 family rankings, and our ability to be a bummer about anything.

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1. How to tell kids bad news on their level Thread: https://www.threads.com/@dave5150scotsman/post/DT2dxztEQME
2. Millennial Final Destination meme: https://www.instagram.com/p/DSLbXJniezE/
3. Countertop microwave/toaster/air fryer combo: https://www.breville.com/en-us/product/bov900
4. World War II books: Agent Zo by Claire Mulley, Motherland: A Feminist History of Modern Russia by Julia Ioffe, The Fall of Berlin by Antony Beevor, The Splendid and the Vile by Erik Larson, Rick Atkinson's WWII trilogy

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This week it's just Quinn and Claire on the pod, crashing out over academic probation (which is actually kind of a relief?), school surveillance that catches kids Googling inappropriate things (it was obviously just a prank, dad), and the theoretical question: who would you get in a suicide capsule with? Also discussed: cat allergies are real despite what cat people tell you, being in the sandwich generation, and our favorite Spice Girls.

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This week we have fiction writer and mom to one amazing 10-year-old, Joy Netanya Thompson, on the pod to discuss why she chose to stick with having just one kid. Joy gets real about postpartum depression, the decision to stop at one when she never imagined she'd only have one child, and why people need to stop asking invasive questions about family size. Also: January birthdays are hell, boys are eternally and confidently dumb, and why siblings don't guarantee friendship or support

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This week, we have registered dietitian and death doula, Deanna Rondero, on the pod to chat about food insecurity, death cafes, and how grief intersects with everything. Also: losing it over mac and cheese, the new food pyramid nobody asked for, and why there's no perfect way to show up at a funeral (but you should anyway. And bringing a lasagna doesn't hurt either.)

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2. Read about the Division of Responsibility by Ellyn Satter
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4. Learn more about death doulas https://inelda.org/
5. Train to become a death doula https://goingwithgrace.com/
6. Learn about death cafe's at deathcafe.com
7. Clip of Conan O'brien and Will Arnett discussing death and grief https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B5GM10HdXvQ
8. Rick Riordan Imprint books https://rickriordan.com/rick-riordan-presents/
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This week, we have another guest! Dr. Devika Bhushan, a pediatrician, public health leader, former acting Surgeon General in California, and mom, chats with Quinn and Claire about the breastfeeding data nobody tells you about, why sleep protection is literally life-saving for some moms, vaccine hesitancy, raw milk, and all the other health & wellness misinformation swirling around the news cycle.

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This week, we have author and journalist Nefertiti Austin on the show to talk about her new book She's Just Spirited: Parenting a Neurodivergent Child and The Diagnosis that Changes Everything. Nefertiti gets real about raising a daughter with ADHD, why ADHD in girls often gets overlooked, glass children, mean girls in the fourth grade, 4:30 AM Roblox drops, and being the petty parent sometimes.

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This week, Claire and Quinn chat Halloween logistics, the rear-facing car seat as the ultimate deterrent to having another baby, Claire's solo cabin getaway where doing absolutely nothing is worth every penny, and why it's better to just go to bed angry instead of drag out a fight when you're all exhausted.

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This week: We won a podcast award! And now we're immediately spiraling into existential conversations about where we seek approval, why we need it, and how it's completely different (and weirdly the same) for our kids. We're talking about the Eldest Daughter pressure to be in the top 20 in a class of 600, setting "the floor" for your kids' behavior, the implicit contract of putting your art/work/self out there to be judged, and how approval-seeking changes from explicit to implicit.

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