Not Safe For Church

Everybody wants freedom until it costs something.

This week on Not Safe For Church, I sit down with Grand Jeremy for a conversation about confidence, authenticity, purpose, and becoming the person you're meant to be.

We talk about the hidden work behind success, overcoming insecurity, building confidence before validation, staying true to yourself in a world that rewards performance, and learning how to enjoy the process instead of just chasing the outcome.

Because the truth is:

Everybody loves the finished product.

Few people talk about what it takes to become.

If you've ever felt stuck between who you are and who you're becoming, this episode is for you.

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Church hurt is complicated…

Because some people didn’t stop loving God.

They just stopped feeling safe in the spaces that introduced them to Him.

This week, I sat down with my cousin, licensed therapist Lauren Michelle Jackson, for one of the most honest conversations we’ve had on this podcast.

And this isn’t a church bashing episode.

This is a truth-telling episode.

Because if we’re honest…

A lot of people are carrying wounds they got in church while still trying to hold onto their faith.

We talk about the beauty of church…

The community.

The music.

The belonging.

The opportunities.

The things that shaped us.

But we also talk about the burden.

The pressure.

The performance.

The hidden struggles.

The silence.

The split identities.

The burnout.

The shame.

Because two things can be true:

Church can heal people…

And church can hurt people too.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Church hurt vs church trauma

• Why people stay in unhealthy church environments

• Loving God while needing space from church

• The pressure to perform holiness

• Mental health and over-spiritualizing everything

• Ministry burnout and grieving church spaces

• Sexuality, hiding, and split identity

• What happens when people suppress themselves for years

• Rebuilding trust spiritually

• What healthy faith can look like now

We also ask the hard questions:

What happens when honesty gets punished?

What does healing actually look like?

And can you rebuild faith after disappointment?

Because maybe faith was never supposed to require pretending.

Maybe healing starts when the performance ends.

If you’ve ever loved church and been hurt by it…

If you’ve ever left ministry, questioned faith, carried religious shame, or felt caught between God and your experience…

This episode is for you.

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Sometimes the realest conversations don’t come from what we plan to say…

They come from the questions we didn’t see coming.

This week, we switched it up.

No scripts. No safe answers.

Just real questions… from real people… and honest responses.

Because if we’re being honest…

Some of the things we’re all trying to figure out don’t fit into a clean, polished conversation.

This episode starts fun, light, unexpected, a little chaotic.

But don’t get too comfortable…

Because the questions get deeper.

And then a little spicier ONLY ON PATREON!

We’re talking about the tension between who you are in public vs. private,

the things we’re still unlearning,

and the truth about navigating faith, identity, and relationships in real life, not just what sounds good.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The different versions of ourselves we show the world

• The beliefs we had to unlearn

• Knowing when to speak up vs. walk away

• The quiet struggles people don’t see

• Letting go of lies that shaped how we live

• The gap between what we want and what we entertain

• Dating, desire, and being honest about both

• Faith, freedom, and the conversations people avoid

• What it really looks like to be fully yourself, unfiltered

Because sometimes the breakthrough isn’t in the answer…

It’s in finally being honest about the question.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re figuring it out as you go,

holding faith while living real life,

or just tired of pretending you have it all together…

This episode is for you.

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Growth isn’t always about what you start…

Sometimes it’s about what you finally stop repeating.

This week, I’m joined by Lenette for a conversation that gets honest about something a lot of us don’t like to admit…

We don’t just have a love problem, we have a *pattern* problem.

Because if we’re real…

A lot of us have asked for different while still choosing familiar.

This episode isn’t about blaming other people for what didn’t work.

It’s about taking a step back and asking yourself the harder question:

**“What am I still choosing that’s keeping me in the same cycle?”**

We start light with Pass the Plate real, relatable questions that open the door.

But then we go deeper…

Into the patterns we ignore,

the boundaries we avoid,

and the truth about what it actually looks like to choose yourself for real.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Recognizing the patterns you keep repeating

• The difference between hope and ignoring red flags

• What self-love actually looks like in real life, not just online

• The boundaries that change everything

• How to stop overextending yourself for people

• Letting go without needing closure

• Why choosing yourself feels uncomfortable—but necessary

• Becoming the person who no longer accepts less

Because healing isn’t just about awareness…

It’s about making different choices, even when they feel unfamiliar.

If you’ve been feeling stuck in the same cycles, same relationships, same outcomes…

This episode might be the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed.

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Sometimes growth doesn’t look like a dramatic exit.

It looks like a quiet decision to shift.

This week, I’m joined by Nate Johnson for a conversation that feels honest, practical, and necessary because let’s be real… a lot of us know it’s time for change, we don’t know how to do it without messing everything up.

This episode isn’t about quitting your job overnight or making impulsive moves that feel good in the moment.

It’s about learning how to pivot well… with clarity, strategy, and a little bit of grace for yourself.

Because pivoting isn’t failure.

It’s alignment.

In this episode, we talk about:

• How to recognize when you’ve outgrown something

• The difference between discomfort and misalignment

• Why you shouldn’t pivot from emotion but from clarity

• How to make strategic moves without burning bridges

• Letting go of titles and learning who you are without them

• Why you don’t have to destroy your past to step into your future

This conversation is real, grounded, and full of those moments that make you stop and think, “Yeah… I needed that.”

If you’ve been feeling stuck, unsure, or like life is trying to shift you into something new… this episode is for you.

Welcome to Not Safe For Church.

Where you can grow, evolve, and be honest about the process.

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After a year away from the mic… I finally had something real to say.The last time I recorded this podcast was May 2024. I had just lost my grandmother, life was shifting in ways I didn’t fully understand, and if I’m honest, I didn’t want to get on a microphone and pretend to be deep for the sake of content.So I stopped.But over the last year, I’ve been living. Healing. Growing. I turned 30… and I’ve realized a few things about calling, prayer, and learning to be yourself in a world that always has an opinion.

In this episode we talk about:

• Why you can’t change the mind of people committed to misunderstanding you

• Why you don’t have to keep explaining yourself to everyone

• What happens when God answers a prayer that changes your whole life

• Why your gift only works when you actually use it

• Learning to trust who God called you to be before people had opinions.

This conversation is honest, a little funny, a little reflective, and very real.If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, questioned your calling, or been afraid to pray again after a life-changing answer… this episode is for you.

Welcome back to Not Safe For Church.

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In this episode, we dive into the idea of looking back—especially when it feels like we’re turning into a “pillar of salt,” stuck in the past and weighed down by regret. We often get salty and upset about past choices, wondering if life was better back then. But instead of dwelling on what's behind us, let's shift our focus and look forward. We'll talk about how to learn from the past, grow from our experiences, and move toward a more hopeful future. It’s all about embracing the lessons of the past without letting them hold us back.

Host: Re'nold Kent @RenoldKent

In today’s episode, we reflect on the powerful truth that victory is ours when we take a pause and lean into Jesus. Life often feels like a constant battle, but in the moments of chaos, the key to overcoming is finding stillness in His presence. Instead of rushing to solve everything independently, we’re reminded that true strength comes when we trust Him and surrender our worries. By holding our peace and resting in His guidance, we find the courage to face any challenge with faith. In this episode, we explore the importance of taking that quiet moment to breathe, pray, and lean on Jesus for the victory we seek. Peace isn’t passive—it’s a powerful choice that leads us to triumph. Let’s dive into how leaning into Him can transform our struggles into victories.

Host: Re'nold Kent @RenoldKent

In today's episode, we explore the metaphor of how the tables in our lives constantly turn—from the dinner table, to the game table, to the homework table—each representing different stages of our growth and experiences. We also reflect on how, just as the tables shift in our lives, God is always preparing a table for us—one that provides, sustains, and guides us through every season. Tune in to hear how these transitions can lead to spiritual growth and understanding as we trust in God's ongoing preparation for our journey.

Today, let’s talk about being thankful for sight. When I was in the closet, I’d always thank God for my ability to spot men — it helped me keep my business on the low. I’d whisper to my friend Luna, "Thank God for sight!" But have you ever thought about how God sees you? It’s easy to get caught up in our own perceptions, seeing ourselves through a lens of fear or doubt. But God sees us differently — He sees us as worthy, loved, and full of potential. So today, let’s be thankful not just for physical sight, but for the way God sees us. When you look in the mirror, remember: you are beautifully created, deeply loved, and fully seen by God.

Host: Re'nold Kent @RenoldKent