Not Saving It For Later - Guiding Women Through Divorce & Beyond

Season 2 Episode 10: The Day I Learned He Was Living A Double Life

What would you do if you discovered the person you loved wasn't who you thought they were?

In this episode, Hannah sits down with bestselling author, speaker, and entrepreneur Ginny Priem to talk about the moment her life changed forever.

After a friend revealed shocking information about the man she was building a life with, Ginny uncovered a web of deception that forced her to confront a painful reality: the relationship she thought she had wasn't real.

What followed was a journey through betrayal, healing, self-discovery, and ultimately learning how to trust herself again.

Together, Hannah and Ginny discuss narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, why strong women end up in unhealthy relationships, and how divorce and heartbreak can become the catalyst for building a life that's more aligned than ever before.

They also dive into Ginny's new book, Unsubscribe, and her framework for letting go of relationships, beliefs, habits, and expectations that no longer serve us.

If you've ever ignored red flags, questioned your intuition, or stayed too long because you were afraid of what would happen next, this episode is for you.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – The day everything changed

02:00 – Meet Ginny Priem

04:00 – Building what looked like the perfect family

07:00 – The friend who exposed the truth

10:00 – Discovering a double life

13:00 – Gaslighting, DARVO, and narcissistic behavior

16:00 – When your body knows before your mind does

18:00 – Why women ignore red flags

21:00 – Growing up around unhealthy relationship patterns

24:00 – How strong women end up in toxic relationships

27:00 – The choice: bitter or better

30:00 – Losing yourself in a relationship

33:00 – Rebuilding self-trust after betrayal

35:00 – How healing changed Ginny's career path

38:00 – Why divorce and heartbreak can become a new beginning

40:00 – The concept behind Unsubscribe

42:00 – The four-step framework: Manage, Swap, Mute, and Block

44:00 – Why women stay too long

46:00 – Protecting your time, energy, and peace

CONNECT WITH HANNAH

⚖️ Hembree Bell Law Firm

Helping women navigate divorce, custody, and life's next chapter.

HembreeBell.com

💛 Join the Free Women's Circle

A supportive community for women rebuilding after divorce and major life transitions.

MyConfidentDivorce.com/Circle

✨ My Confident Divorce

Courses, coaching, and resources to help you move through divorce with clarity and confidence.

MyConfidentDivorce.com

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CONNECT WITH GINNY

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📱 Instagram

@ginnypriem

📖 Books

You're My Favorite: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B09X1TF69T/allbooks?ingress=0&visitId=957c6e63-eec3-4577-857b-4320ec1e3930

Unsubscribe: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B09X1TF69T/allbooks?ingress=0&visitId=957c6e63-eec3-4577-857b-4320ec1e3930

🎙️ Podcast

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unsubscribe-with-ginny-priem/id1642612019

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Season 2 Episode 9: Money & Mindset: Starting Over After Divorce

What if the biggest thing standing between you and financial freedom isn't money at all?

What if it's the story you've been telling yourself about money?

In this conversation, Hannah sits down with entrepreneur, financial planning expert, Strategic Coach mentor, and single mom turned self-made success story, Colleen Bowler.

After navigating a difficult divorce, raising her son on her own, and being handed $50,000 in debt, Colleen rebuilt her life and went on to build one of the top financial planning firms in the country.

Together, Hannah and Colleen explore money, worthiness, agency, scarcity, abundance, and why divorce can become the moment a woman finally takes her financial power back.

If you've ever felt overwhelmed by money, intimidated by financial planning, or worried about whether you'll be okay on your own, this episode is for you.

You are more capable than you think.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Why women need to talk about money
03:00 – Meet Colleen Bowler
06:00 – Colleen’s childhood money story
08:30 – Divorce, debt, and the loss of the dream
11:30 – Becoming a single mom and finding her strength
15:00 – Starting a business during divorce
19:00 – The myth of balance
23:00 – Scarcity, abundance, and inherited money beliefs
27:00 – Why women give away financial power
31:00 – Money, worthiness, and “pick me” energy
35:00 – Getting out of the financial dark
38:00 – What mindset to bring into mediation
42:00 – The first financial step after divorce
45:00 – Agency, habits, and taking ownership
48:00 – Colleen’s message for women in Divorce Land

CONNECT WITH HANNAH

⚖️ Hembree Bell Law Firm
Helping women navigate divorce, custody, and life's next chapter.
HembreeBell.com

💛 Join the Free Women's Circle
A supportive community for women rebuilding after divorce and major life transitions.
MyConfidentDivorce.com/Circle

✨ My Confident Divorce
Courses, coaching, and resources to help you move through divorce with clarity and confidence.
MyConfidentDivorce.com

📱 Connect with Hannah
Instagram & TikTok: @HannahHembreeBell

CONNECT WITH COLLEEN

💰 The Passport Package
PassportPackage.com

📱 LinkedIn
https://www.linkedin.com/in/colleen-bowler-cfp%C2%AE-09576796/

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Season 2 Episode 8: The Dangerous Side of Selflessness

For years, Kimber Hardick did everything she thought she was supposed to do.

She was a wife.
A mother.
A helper.
A caretaker.

The person everyone could count on.

From the outside, her life looked successful.

Inside, she was disappearing.

In this deeply honest conversation, Hannah sits down with author, speaker, and educator Kimber Hardick to talk about the quiet way so many women lose themselves while taking care of everyone else.

After more than 30 years of marriage, Kimber found herself confronting a question she had spent decades avoiding:

Who am I when I'm not taking care of everyone else?

Together, Hannah and Kimber unpack the stories women are taught about self-sacrifice, why so many of us confuse being needed with being valued, and how years of putting ourselves last can leave us feeling invisible in our own lives.

They also explore one of the most powerful concepts Hannah has discussed on the podcast: the difference between feeling your emotions and feeding them.

Because healing doesn't happen by pretending you're fine.

It happens when you stop running from what you're feeling long enough to listen to what it's trying to teach you.

Whether you're navigating divorce, rebuilding after heartbreak, struggling with your identity, or simply wondering where the woman you used to be went, this conversation is an invitation to stop waiting for "later" and start coming home to yourself.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Meet Kimber Hardick

03:45 – How women lose themselves inside marriage and motherhood

08:20 – The belief that good women sacrifice themselves

13:15 – Feeling invisible while appearing successful

18:40 – Empty nesting, identity, and rediscovering yourself

24:10 – The wake-up call that changed everything

29:50 – What our children learn from our relationships

34:30 – Boundaries, people-pleasing, and proving your worth

40:15 – Why women stay longer than they want to

44:40 – Feeling vs. feeding your emotions

49:30 – The emotions wheel and emotional awareness

53:20 – Avoidance, capacity, and learning to sit with discomfort

56:30 – Why joy won't come until all emotions are welcome

59:00 – Kimber's advice for women rebuilding their lives

CONNECT WITH HANNAH

⚖️ Hembree Bell Law Firm

Helping women navigate divorce, custody, and life's next chapter.

HembreeBell.com

💛 Join the Free Women's Circle

A supportive community for women rebuilding after divorce and major life transitions.

MyConfidentDivorce.com/Circle

✨ My Confident Divorce

Courses, coaching, and resources to help you move through divorce with clarity and confidence.

MyConfidentDivorce.com

CONNECT WITH KIMBER HARDICK📱 Instagram@KimberLivingLife

📱 Facebook

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The Emotions Wheel

https://kimberhardick.netlify.app/tools/emotion-wheelThe Workbookhttps://a.co/d/0gy8JkXK📖 BookAn Invitation to ShineIf this episode helped you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who needs to hear it.

Season 2 Episode 7: The Secret To Making A Blended Family Work

Everyone wants the blended family to feel like a family immediately.

But that's not how real life works.

In this deeply personal episode, Hannah sits down with her husband, Drew Bell, to talk honestly about what happened after the engagement, the wedding, and the excitement wore off.

How do you actually blend a family after divorce?

What happens when one partner has children and the other doesn't?

How do you build trust with kids who have already experienced so much change?

And how do you create a family without forcing it?

Together, Hannah and Drew share the lessons they learned while building a family of seven, including what worked, what didn't, and why patience may be the most underrated parenting tool in a blended family.

If you're dating after divorce, remarried, engaged, or trying to navigate life in a blended family, this episode will remind you that healthy families aren't built overnight.

They are built one relationship at a time.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Why blended families take time

02:20 – How Hannah and Drew's story began

06:00 – Moving in together and blending five lives

11:00 – Why easing into a blended family helped

15:00 – When a house starts feeling like a family

20:00 – The role of a stepparent in a child's life

25:00 – Why Hannah never expected instant parenthood

34:00 – Letting relationships develop naturally

41:00 – Building trust with children after divorce

49:00 – The challenge of being a stepparent

57:00 – Why patience matters more than control

01:05:00 – Creating traditions as a family

01:12:00 – Family dinners, gratitude, and connection

01:18:00 – Navigating custody and transitions

01:25:00 – Advice for dating and remarriage after divorce

01:34:00 – What they would do differently

01:45:00 – Stepparents, boundaries, and humility

02:00:00 – Final lessons on building a healthy blended family

CONNECT WITH HANNAH

⚖️ Hembree Bell Law Firm
Helping women navigate divorce, custody, and life's next chapter.
HembreeBell.com

💛 Join the Free Women's Circle
A supportive community for women rebuilding after divorce and major life transitions.
MyConfidentDivorce.com/Circle

✨ My Confident Divorce
Courses, coaching, and resources to help you move through divorce with clarity and confidence.
MyConfidentDivorce.com

📱 Connect with Hannah
Instagram & TikTok: @HannahHembreeBell

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Season 2 Episode 6 : How to Spot a Narcissist

What if the problem wasn’t that you were too sensitive…

…but that you were being taught to doubt your own reality?

In this episode of Not Saving It For Later, Hannah sits down with retired clinical psychologist Dr. Kerry McAvoy to unpack one of the most misunderstood and overused words in modern relationships: narcissist.

Because not every difficult partner is a narcissist.

And not every narcissist looks the way you think.

This conversation moves beyond social media buzzwords and into the real psychology behind narcissistic behavior, manipulation, power, and emotional control.

Dr. Kerry brings both clinical expertise and personal experience to this conversation, helping listeners understand not only what narcissism is — but why smart, capable, loving women so often find themselves trapped inside these relationships.

If you have ever felt confused… blamed… emotionally exhausted… or like you were slowly disappearing inside your relationship… this conversation may help you make sense of what you’ve been living.

This Conversation Covers:

• What narcissism actually means according to the DSM

• Why narcissism is often confused with selfishness or being a jerk

• The core traits narcissists share

• Manipulation, entitlement, and lack of empathy

• Why narcissists often see relationships as competition and control

• How love bombing and “compliance testing” work

• Why smart women still fall into these dynamics

• The role of self-betrayal and emotional conditioning

• Why narcissists struggle to change

• What emotional detachment can look like inside marriage

• How manipulation escalates when you begin pulling your power back

• Why staying “for the kids” may not protect them the way you hope

• Practical ways to begin recognizing patterns and protecting yourself

One truth from this episode that hit hard:

"The people who benefited from you giving away your power will freak out when you call it back."

If this conversation feels painfully familiar, please hear this:

You are not crazy.

You are not weak.

And you are not doomed to stay stuck in dynamics that require you to abandon yourself to survive.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 – Introduction + Meet Dr. Kerry McAvoy

02:15 – What Narcissism Actually Means

06:30 – Narcissist vs. “Just an Asshole”

11:40 – DSM Criteria + Core Traits Explained

18:15 – Jealousy, Entitlement & Lack of Empathy

24:20 – Are Narcissists Born or Made?

31:10 – Family Patterns + Genetic Components

38:00 – Why Narcissists Feel Superior Yet Empty

45:15 – Power, Control & Competition in Relationships

52:30 – Why Women End Up With Narcissists

58:10 – Love Bombing + The Mask They Wear

1:04:20 – How Compliance Testing Works

1:12:00 – Self-Betrayal, Attachment & People Pleasing

1:19:45 – Pulling Your Power Back

1:27:30 – Why Leaving Is So Hard

1:35:10 – Staying for the Kids + The Cost of Survival Mode

1:43:40 – Emotional Healing + Building Back Better

1:51:15 – Divorce, Labels & Why Caution Matters

1:59:20 – Not Saving It For Later

CONNECT WITH DR. KERRY MCAVOY:

Website: https://www.kerrymcavoyphd.com/

Instagram: @kerrymcavoyphd

Facebook: Dr. Kerry McAvoy

CONNECT WITH HANNAH + HEMBREE BELL:

Website: www.hembreebell.com

Website: HannahHembreebell.com

Instagram: @hannahhembreebell

Instagram: @hembreebelllaw

Facebook: Hannah Hembree Bell

TikTok: @hannahhembreebell

Season 2 Episode 5: Are Your Kids Being Used as Weapons in Your Divorce? High Conflict Divorce Explained

What happens when divorce stops being about resolution… and starts becoming about control?

In this  episode of Not Saving It For Later, Hannah sits down with psychologist Dr. Mary Alvarez to unpack the painful reality of high conflict divorce and custody cases — and the devastating impact conflict can have on children.

If communication feels impossible… if you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells… if co-parenting feels more like surviving than parenting… this conversation is for you.

Dr. Alvarez brings decades of experience working inside high conflict family systems and explains what many parents quietly live through but struggle to put words around.

This conversation covers:

• What actually qualifies as high conflict divorce

• Why conflict is often about power and control—not parenting

• Co-parenting vs. parallel parenting

• How children become emotional weapons in custody battles

• Why tight custody orders matter

• How toxic conflict impacts children’s brains and development

• The emotional toll on the healthier parent

• Self-care, regulation, and surviving without losing yourself

• Whether children eventually “figure it out”

One truth from this episode that hit hard:

"It’s not the divorce that harms children. It’s the ongoing conflict."

If you are navigating divorce or custody conflict, we hope this conversation helps you feel less alone — and more equipped.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 – Introduction + Why This Conversation Matters

02:15 – Meet Dr. Mary Alvarez + Understanding Her Role

07:40 – What High Conflict Divorce Actually Means

14:10 – Why Progress Can Feel Unsafe During Litigation

20:05 – Co-Parenting vs Parallel Parenting

27:35 – Why Tight Custody Orders Matter

34:50 – How High Conflict Personalities Operate

41:15 – When Children Become Weapons

48:20 – Why Moms Often Feel Pressure to Be “Perfect”

54:10 – Trauma, Emotional Regulation & Self-Care

1:01:30 – Mental Health, Therapy & Divorce Stigma

1:08:45 – Learning Emotional Skills During Divorce

1:14:20 – Choosing Which Hills to Die On

1:20:10 – Do Kids Eventually Figure It Out?

1:27:15 – Healing, Hope & Leaving the Door Open

CONNECT WITH DR. MARY ALVAREZ:

Website: https://drmaryalvarez.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-alvarez-ph-d-4028836b/

CONNECT WITH HANNAH + HEMBREE BELL:

Website: www.hembreebell.com

Website: HannahHembreebell.com

Instagram: @hannahhembreebell

Instagram: @hembreebelllaw

Facebook: Hannah Hembree Bell

TikTok: @hannahhembreebell

Season 2 Episode 4: What If the Good Stuff Scares You Too?You expected divorce to feel hard. What you didn't expect is that the good stuff on the other side might feel scarier.Tah Whitty is back for season two — nurse, healer, men's work guide, and one of Hannah's most trusted people. In their first season conversation he pulled a thread that wouldn't let her go: the part of her, and most women coming through divorce, that learned to keep the bad stuff out by also keeping the good stuff out. The same armor that protected you in the worst of it can quietly block the joy, the new love, the easier flow you've been working so hard to receive.This conversation is about full spectrum humanity — feeling all of it on purpose. They get into why "good" and "bad" are the wrong words, the five-step framework Tah teaches his clients, and why letting it just be is a level up from letting it be good.Tender, layered, and full of permission. Save this one for the days when you can't tell if you're protecting yourself or hiding from your life.Timestamps:- 01:35 — Welcome back, Tah- 03:20 — The thread from season one Hannah couldn't drop- 04:30 — Hannah's mean inner critic and the half-step removed life- 08:00 — Armor that keeps the bad out also keeps the good out- 09:30 — Logan's question: what do you do when you finally get what you wanted- 10:47 — Familiarity is what we protect, even when it hurts- 13:05 — The warrior still standing at the gate after the war is over- 16:12 — Tah's five steps: awareness, intention, strategy, action, accountability- 18:00 — Why "good" and "bad" are the wrong words. Try "different."- 22:25 — The doomsday scenario coming online- 22:44 — Tonga, humpback whales, and getting out of narrative- 23:44 — The four questions that craft your intention- 24:57 — Strategy, action, and the accountability piece people skip- 33:00 — Joy as the mother of all emotions. Capacity built both ways.- 34:30 — Full spectrum humanity, defined- 38:00 — Why women stay for years while every signal is on fire- 41:30 — Find your people: the boutique pack that can hold your honesty- 47:00 — Be messy. The right people love you in your mess.- 53:00 — It's all good. There is no opposite.- 56:00 — Stretching the rubber band: tiny doses of staying in the feeling- 58:50 — Don't rob your future self of the good by avoiding the hard- 59:00 — Trauma responses and why good things trigger the guardian- 1:02:00 — The color question on Tah's intake form- 1:03:25 — Hannah's new mantra: instead of let it be good, just let it be- 1:05:00 — Tah on Not Saving It For Later: save the doomsday scenario for later, not the joy- 1:07:40 — What's been shaking Tah lately- 1:09:30 — The empathetic witness: trauma in the absence of one- 1:11:30 — People throw rocks at things that shine- 1:13:00 — Tah's one piece of advice: 100 trillion cells, 4,000 ancestors, the magic in the mirrorMentioned in this episode:- Kimber Hardick's new book on joy- "Be Your Future Self Now" — Benjamin Hardy- Napoleon Hill — "The Six Ghosts of Fear"Connect With Tah:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tahfree/?hl=en

The YOUniverse is where Tah supports people in building emotional fluency and the capacity to navigate what they’re feeling, especially in moments of major life transition like divorce. Click here to join - https://CallTah.com/YOUniverse.

Thinking about divorce in Texas? You don't have to figure it out alone.Hembree Bell Law is a Texas family-law-only firm built for high-functioning women who want to end their marriage well — with clarity, integrity, and a real plan for what comes next. Schedule a confidential consultation at (http://HembreeBell.com)Considering divorce but not in Texas or not ready to file? Start here.My Confident Divorce is Hannah's free community for women considering divorce. Access free coaching, private groups, preparation documents and so much more! Head over to (http://MyConfidentDivorce.com)

Season 2 Episode 3: The Invisible Prison Most Married Women Don't See.If you've ever felt vaguely exhausted in your marriage but couldn't quite name why — walking on eggshells, repeating the same arguments, somehow still the one carrying it all — this conversation is going to put words on it.Abby Eckel is one of Hannah's favorite follows online. She talks about domestic labor, the mental load, and the quiet inequities baked into most marriages — and she does it without sugar-coating any of it. She and Hannah dig into why "just leave" is some of the worst advice women get, what it actually looks like to center yourself in small daily ways, and why so many smart, capable women stay in the invisible prison even when the key is in their own pocket.Honest, funny, and full of permission slips. If you needed someone to tell you it's okay to make a dinner you like, take the bath during the football game, and stop being the family cruise ship director — start here.Timestamps:- 01:17 — Meet Abby Eckel: domestic labor and the invisible load- 03:27 — Why Fair Play is a band-aid, not the answer- 04:20 — The root problem: nobody thinks women's labor is valuable- 05:22 — The invisible timeline drilled into girls from birth- 07:18 — Church-boy "submissive" theology and the women it breaks- 10:56 — The invisible prison (and the key in your pocket)- 11:24 — The shift that changes everything: believing you deserve more- 14:03 — You are worthy because you exist. Full stop.- 15:21 — First-generation freedom: credit cards, bank accounts, ancestral trauma- 16:44 — Centering yourself doesn't mean a hobby and a babysitter- 19:01 — Thermostats, default settings, and how men center themselves automatically- 21:40 — Hannah's mantra: that is not my preference- 26:43 — The hot bath during the football game- 27:58 — I am not a cruise ship director- 31:47 — Hold the line. Men respect a boundary.- 34:10 — Permission to take up space and find fulfillment outside the kids- 36:46 — Why "just leave" is unkind, unhelpful, and ignores the system- 39:30 — The recon mission: talking to a divorce lawyer is fact-finding, not the point of no return- 43:21 — A decision has been made: deciding before you act- 49:39 — Surviving the marriage vs. healing from it- 50:21 — Markers that the episode is talking to YOU- 52:23 — Time, place, and manner restrictions on talking to your spouse- 53:16 — Beige malaise: when there's nothing to look forward to anymore- 54:04 — What's been shaking Abby lately- 56:57 — Hannah on 2026: joy, not on layaway- 58:10 — Abby's one piece of advice: think and act like your husbandMentioned in this episode:- "Fair Play" — Eve Rodsky- "Wild Geese" — Mary Oliver- "Be Your Future Self Now" — Benjamin Hardy- Simon Sinek (find your why)Connect With Abby:Instagram: @AbbyEckelFacebook: @TheAbbyEckelWebsite: AbbyEckel.comThinking about divorce in Texas? You don't have to figure it out alone.Hembree Bell Law is a Texas family-law-only firm built for high-functioning women who want to end their marriage well — with clarity, integrity, and a real plan for what comes next. Schedule a confidential consultation at (http://HembreeBell.com)Considering divorce but not in Texas or not ready to file? Start here.My Confident Divorce is Hannah's free community for women considering divorce. Access free coaching, private groups, preparation documents and so much more! Head over to (http://MyConfidentDivorce.com)

Season 2 Episode 2: People Pleasing Is the Highest Form of Lying.If "I'll just do it" is your default — at home, with the kids, at work, in your marriage — this is the conversation that's going to wreck you in the best way.Marla Mattenson is Hannah's longtime coach, friend, and one of the most quietly brilliant people she's ever worked with. Former math teacher, doula, body worker, executive coach, and a meditator with 23 years and 23 ten-day silent retreats under her belt. In this episode, Hannah brings you the Marla Greatest Hits — the small, simple shifts that quietly rewire how you communicate, how you set boundaries, and how you stop bleeding yourself dry trying to keep everyone else comfortable.We get into consent in everyday relationships, the difference between a clean yes and a "mushy yes," why people pleasing is technically lying, and the nervous system regulation tools (red, yellow, green) you can actually use the next time you feel agitated, stuck, or about to snap.This one is layered, tender, and weirdly practical. Stay till the end — Marla's takeaway is the line you're going to want on your fridge.Timestamps:- 01:22 — Meet Marla Mattenson: coach, math teacher, doula, body worker- 04:34 — The gift of consent: stop vomiting your truth on people- 05:41 — Clean yes vs. mushy yes (and why we don't proceed through mushy)- 07:05 — Considering the landing: how is what I'm about to say going to land- 10:24 — Where your consent is being trampled and you didn't know it- 12:01 — Lack of consent is the beginning of resentment building- 12:50 — How to practice consent with your kids (and your teen step-kid)- 14:41 — Consent as a micro tool that softens the whole road ahead- 21:22 — Asking is now a good time at work, on calls, with your husband- 22:30 — Suppressed words show up in your jaw, neck, and headaches- 23:00 — The audio note hack: get it out, send it later, build intimacy anyway- 24:24 — How consent eliminates people pleasing- 25:51 — Marla's most famous line: people pleasing is the highest form of lying- 29:20 — Lying as a spectrum: white lies all the way to malicious deception- 30:32 — Nobody wants to think of themselves as a liar — but here's how to catch yourself- 37:20 — Suppressed yeses become rage: how marriages rupture from the inside- 39:30 — Why divorce can look like a personality break (it's not — it's the volcano)- 42:14 — Nervous system 101: red, yellow, green and fight, flight, freeze, fawn- 45:04 — Feeling safe in red is intimacy. Feeling unsafe in red is collapse.- 52:58 — Marla on Vipashana: 23 years, 23 silent retreats, observing without reacting- 54:59 — Owning your sensations, thoughts, emotions, and behaviors as yours- 1:00:00 — Marla's free nervous system training (linked below)- 1:05:05 — Get into nature, feet in the dirt, cold water on the back of the neck- 1:07:15 — Marla's one thing for the women of divorce land: you're doing it perfectly- 1:09:50 — Even your messy choices and mistakes are working for goodMentioned in this episode:- "Vipashana" silent meditation tradition- The Gottmans (relationship research)Connect With Marla:Free training: ethicalsalesinstitute.com Follow her on Instagram and LinkedInhttps://www.instagram.com/marla.mattenson/linkedin.com/in/marla-mattenson-08613195Thinking about divorce in Texas? You don't have to figure it out alone.Hembree Bell Law is a Texas family-law-only firm built for high-functioning women who want to end their marriage well — with clarity, integrity, and a real plan for what comes next. Schedule a confidential consultation at (http://HembreeBell.com)Considering divorce but not in Texas or not ready to file? Start here.My Confident Divorce is Hannah's free community for women considering divorce. Access free coaching, private groups, preparation documents and so much more! Head over to (http://MyConfidentDivorce.com)

Season 2 Episode 1: I Had to Lose Two Marriages To Learn How To Love Myself

If you've ever walked out of one relationship straight into the next and wondered why it started to feel familiar — this conversation is for you.

Amy Edwards is the host of "Anything But Mid" and "The Amy Edwards Show", an author, and a musician who looks nothing like the version of "in her 50s" most of us were sold. She's also been divorced twice. In this episode, she's open about all of it — including the parts most women won't say out loud — and we get into pick-me energy, why cheating is rarely about the other person, the mirror practice that changed everything, and how worthiness, respect, and self-trust actually get built.

This one is raw, funny, and full of the kind of honesty that makes you sit up a little straighter. If you're somewhere in the middle of a divorce — or somewhere in the middle of trying to figure out who you are again — start here.

Timestamps:

00:58 — Meet Amy Edwards: podcaster, author, musician

03:20 — Two divorces, three marriages, and "anything but mid" 04:30 — Why we repeat the same patterns in the next relationship

06:40 — "I'm the common denominator"

08:30 — The dark hole: hope, depression, and getting through it day by day

10:00 — Where was I giving away my power?- 12:30 — Why cheating wasn't about the husbands — it was about validation- 13:15 — *Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It* (Kamal Ravikant) and the mirror practice

15:40 — Pick-me energy: how women get conditioned into it- 16:20 — The self-love test: can you sit alone in the quiet?

18:00— Do your preferences matter? Centering yourself in your own life.

19:40 — Self-love → self-worth → self-respect → self-trust

21:15 — "You are worthy because you exist. Full stop."- 22:00 — Worthy of joy, peace, a calm home, and the life you actually want

23:50 — The four-layer stack: love, worth, respect, trust

25:00 — Building self-trust through small promises kept

28:00 — Untangling it all: the core is self-love

30:30 — How women get kept obedient — and what changes when you stop

31:15 — Learning to date again: "It's not that there are no good men out there"

34:30 — Speaking your truth in new relationships

40:30 — The real mirror work: can you laugh with yourself like a best friend?

48:55 — Amy's #1 piece of advice for women in divorce land- 51:00 — Take yourself on dates. Treat yourself like the love of your life.

54:30 — What "Not Saving It For Later" means to Amy

56:30 — Teaser: the dating episode coming next

Mentioned in this episode:

"Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It" — Kamal Ravikant

- "Anything But Mid" podcast — Amy Edwards

- "The Amy Edwards Show" — Amy Edwards

Connect With Amy: Podcast:

https://open.spotify.com/show/5SdojmuUpXfksyQD8gbXJm?si=9e3d4fcb157d447e&nd=1&dlsi=f008243d30034a4f

Instagram: @RealAnyEdwards

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