Listen as educational and child psychologist, Dr. Peter D'Lima speaks with William Costello, an evolutionary psychology researcher who has conducted one of the largest studies on young men who identify as incels (involuntary celibates).

Incels perceive themselves as ineffective in sexual and romantic relationships and are known for their online misogynistic behaviour. They are also often treated with contempt in society. 

William presents an alternative view: that this group of young men are disenfranchised, lonely with high levels of poor mental health and a low belief in their ability to be successful in life. 

We consider together the implications for male mental health and well-being more generally, especially in an online world of often negative male role models who have grown in popularity recently. 

We also talk about the Magnificent Boys Project, a programme developed by Not The Easy Way to help teenage boys grapple with issues affecting boys and men today, seek out positive role models, and become a man who contributes positively to society. 


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Speak Space is where we bring two people together who have different views on a sensitive topic. Not to debate. Not to persuade. Instead, we bring them together to listen and understand in good faith. 

Our guests today are Ishaan Shah and Harry Wilkinson. 

Ishaan Shah is an 18-year-old international anti-human trafficking, gender equality and climate action young leader. In 2017, he founded Stolen Dreams, a youth-led organization working with global stakeholders to counter trafficking in persons, especially women and children. He is a National Gender Youth Advocate to UN Women and Youth Focal Point for countering transnational organized crime to the UN Office on Drugs and Crime (UNODC). Since 2016, he has travelled deep into the anti-human trafficking and gender equality movements, learning at speed and recognising intersectionalities. Ishaan is working to drive concrete action by facilitating the meaningful inclusion of youth in decision making spaces from the grassroots to international levels.

Harry Wilkinson began working as a researcher in the House of Lords for Lord Lawson of Blaby, and for the Global Warming Policy Foundation (GWPF) in 2015. Since then he has been made Head of Policy of Net Zero Watch, the GWPF’s campaign arm, and has become a regular guest on GB News and TalkRadio as a spokesperson on climate and energy policy issues. As of February of this year, he has also been working part-time as a Senior Researcher for Craig Mackinlay MP in the House of Commons.

Today's Speak Space involves discussion of the statement below: 

Measures to reduce climate change need to be put in place no matter the cost. 

The principles of our Speak Charter underpin the conversation: https://nottheeasyway.org/Speak%20Charter%20(1).pdf

This is our first Speak Space.

Speak Space is where we bring two people together who have different views on a sensitive topic. Not to debate. Not to persuade. Instead, we bring them together to listen and understand in good faith. 

Our guests today are Dr Patricia Casey and Dr Peter D’Lima. 

Patricia is a consultant psychiatrist and writes a column in the Irish Independent. She is a patron of the Iona Institute, which is a Christian advocacy group that promotes the place of marriage and religion in society and emphasises that marriage should be between a man and a woman. 

Peter is an educational psychologist and co-founder of Not The Easy Way. He has completed his thesis on ways to reduce extremism in society and is interested in how we create unified and tolerant societies. He has co-written an article about the importance of free speech for children’s cognitive, social, and emotional development. Peter is also gay, which is relevant to the statement up for discussion:

Gay couples make just as good parents as straight couples. 

The principles of our Speak Charter underpin the conversation: https://nottheeasyway.org/Speak%20Charter%20(1).pdf

Listen as educational and child psychologists, Dr. Peter D'Lima & Dr. Claire McGuiggan speak to Ed Latimore, former heavy-weight boxer and now self-improvement enthusiast. Ed grew up in difficult circumstances, had low confidence in himself, and had struggles with alcohol and pornography. Now, he is a writer and helps young men around the globe to meet their aspirations. In this episode, we discuss masculinity and how it can be a powerful force that can be wielded in both positive and negative ways. Ed shares with us his views on developing masculinity positively, how masculinity is viewed in society today and whether young men and boys may need additional approaches to supporting their mental health and growth. 

Listen as educational and child psychologists, Dr. Peter D'Lima & Dr. Claire McGuiggan speak to Jay Styczen, host of the Jay Anxious podcast. 

Jay has experienced severe struggles with anxiety for 25 years. He talks openly, honestly, and powerfully about the steps he took to move out of his comfort zone and into the life he always wanted. 

#Psychology #Anxiety #Diet

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Listen as educational and child psychologists, Dr. Peter D'Lima & Dr. Claire McGuiggan speak to clinical psychologist and author of 'The Unbreakable Student', Dr. Nic Hooper about ways to support yourself in facing the inevitable challenges and setbacks of life and how the stories you tell yourself about who you are can limit you or set you free. 

 #Psychology #Challenge #MentalHealth

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Listen as educational and child psychologists, Dr. Peter D'Lima & Dr. Claire McGuiggan speak to political commentator, Calvin Robinson, about freedom of expression and engaging in discussions in which people disagree. #FreeSpeech #CriticalThinking #Debate

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Listen as educational & child psychologists, Dr. Peter D'Lima & Dr. Claire McGuiggan, introduce Not The Easy Way, a project designed to help young people face the challenges of life by speaking up about difficult issues, working out what they value and truly want from life, and by taking positive action to get there. #Speak #Aspire #TakeAction

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