There's been a lot of talk lately about how unprotected Black women are. Megan Thee Stallion recently penned a piece stating that "Protect Black women" should not be controversial. And it shouldn't. But in this solo episode, I question whether it's realistic to ask Black men to protect us, whether there's enough incentive for them to do so and whether it's time we focus our efforts elsewhere. I may also say the word "egregious" one too many times since I recently binge-watched Girlfriends. 

My best friend of almost 20 years joins me on this episode to talk about putting women back at the center of women friendships. We get vulnerable and discuss our mistakes, our moments of envy and our lives beyond prioritizing partnerships with men. 

Content note: Lots of giggling, some cackling and heavy use of the word "bitch," affectionately, of course.

Quality representation of brown and dark skinned women is not so easy to come by. Jukebox Jones joins on this episode to talk about erasure and the media's concerted effort to make multiracial women representative for all Black women. We discuss how this harms darker skinned Black women and why we're so reluctant to put boundaries around blackness. 

Fact check

On biracial people given more credibility with racial issues: https://psmag.com/social-justice/biracial-people-play-a-uniquely-positive-role-helping-americans-grapple-with-race

It seems like people have something to say about...literally everything Black women do. Standards for us can feel exceptionally high. In this episode licensed therapist Dr. Marcuetta Sims talks about these arbitrary bars we aspire to reach, how 2020 has brought us collective trauma that makes perfectionism worse and how you can remind yourself that you are already enough. 

In this solo episode I talk about how capitalism and patriarchy impact labor expectations, why "gold diggers" don't exist and why men always owe you money. Even though this isn't a tutorial, I also talk about how I ask for money and what we stand to learn from listening to sex workers. 

Fact checks: 

On invisible labor: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/01/190122092857.htm

On household chores: https://www.nsf.gov/discoveries/disc_summ.jsp?cntn_id=111458

Podcaster and expat Lené Green talks about her experiences living in seven countries, the benefits and challenges of being a Black woman expat and how to get started on your own expat journey. 

A conversation between myself and guest Lauren Fannin about how we learned/unlearned to struggle in love, what compromises Black women may have to make to be with Black men and why we still collectively cling to struggle love. 

In this introduction to the podcast I talk about the journey to "Not The Wifey Type" and what you can expect from the show.