NoTable Talk

In a lot of the things I am hoping for and looking forward to, I have found myself encountering situations that make those things impossible. Those situations then cause me to have feelings of fear, worry, and doubt and in the past I have succumbed to those feeling with the things I feared eventually being my reality. I am learning now to keep my eyes fixed on the goal and have that be an antidote to the contrary feelings I have that are inspired by the contrary situations I face. With this new mindset, I have won so many battles that give me further assurance that I would win the war.

When I was struggling in college in Nigeria, my circle of close friends had very similar struggles educationally. We were also involved in the same distractions and didn't seem to have a clear plan or willingness to change the downward course of our lives for the better. Your company is a key instrument in shaping your perspective. Perspective is a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view

After school tutors (popularly known in Nigeria as "Lesson Teachers") really helped keep me accountable with fulfilling my responsibilities in school. They kept me on my toes and pushed me out of my comfort zone, which helped me maximize my potential and reap the positive benefit of very impressive grades. I use the impact they had on me to highlight some benefits of having an accountability system and how those experiences currently help me identify areas where I may need a system of accountability.

Reminiscing about my college experience in Nigeria reminds me of the amazing parents that I am blessed with. In this episode I express my appreciation to them and other parents who at every turn made a conscious effort to show their children unwavering support, especially when inconvenient.

Story time! In this episode I give some detail to some challenges I have faced academically and the lessons that I took away from them that informed changes that I made moving forward. I hope this encourages you to see that now is the best time to make the adjustments you need to make to recover from you lapses. If you have let things get too far like I did with dire consequences to show for it, be encouraged that there is a course for things to be better and brighter. It may take some more work, patience, and sacrifice, and discomfort, but it'll be worth it and you'll be glad you put in the work.

I have recently been confronted with some of my frailties and inadequacies and it's been a very humbling experience. It all came from a place of humbling myself before God and seeing myself in the place of who I really am...a man...a man that is just being helped by God. We could get so used to seeing the world through our eyes and get carried away with being the first person, and we forget that we are just another person in a vast sea of people. I found that allowing your life be put on display in a safe space helps you see yourself for who you really are and make the required adjustments, especially when it is done with someone who has your best interest at heart and is mindful that they are not above being subject to the same process.

In this episode I kick off banter on my second table and dive into the topic of vulnerability. I could say that breaking my tables has introduced me to a level of vulnerability that I had never otherwise explored and I now more than ever see the need to be vulnerable as human beings. When you are vulnerable, you give permission for self diagnosis towards improvement and it has tremendous effects on how you even relate to the people around you. Well...enjoy!

On this episode , I break the last legs of my first table. I have to say that I have enjoyed this journey of breaking my table. It's given me a lot of room for objective introspection and increasing self awareness. I am looking forward to addressing many more tables!

I get discouraged. I struggle to stay committed to the process. I fall off sometimes. In this episode I continue to break my first table, highlighting mindsets I have imbibed to produce actionable results in staying the course towards my end goal.

This episode is the beginning of an exciting and slightly nerve-wrecking journey as I take on the introspective excessive of breaking my own tables. As I explore this first table, the goal is to not just talk about my business for the sake of it, but to recognize with you or someone you may know.