Choosing yourself doesn’t make you selfish; it makes you honest.

In this episode, Yaya breaks down one of the most deeply ingrained myths women carry: that prioritizing themselves means neglecting others.

From generational conditioning to the pressure of wearing every role perfectly, this note unpacks why self-love often comes with guilt and why that guilt doesn’t mean you’re wrong.

This episode is for the woman learning how to choose herself without apology.

Inside this episode:

1. Where the “selfish” narrative comes from
2. Why so many women feel guilty for resting or setting boundaries
3. The emotional and mental cost of self-abandonment
4. How self-love protects your energy and nervous system
5. Why choosing yourself actually makes you better for everyone else

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