This episode is a call-in, not a call-out. If you’ve ever over-explained yourself into oblivion, smiled through something that made your stomach turn, or stayed quiet when every part of you wanted to speak up, this note is for you. We’re talking about self-abandonment: what it looks like, why we do it, and what it’s actually costing us.

Through the story of a client named Bianca, a driven, brilliant woman who slowly went quiet in her relationship and her career, Yaya breaks down the sneaky ways we leave ourselves behind when things get uncomfortable. And she gives you the most important reframe of this episode: discomfort is not danger.

Inside this episode:

• Why self-abandonment doesn’t look like weakness,it looks like being a good person

• The Bianca story: how one woman slowly silenced herself in her relationship and at work

• The four ways you’re abandoning yourself right now without realizing it

• Why we do it and why it actually made sense at some point

• The truth about discomfort vs. danger and why your nervous system gets them confused

• What it actually looks like to stay present with yourself when things get hard

• A reflective moment: what is staying silent really costing you?

This episode is one to sit with. Journal after you listen. Ask yourself the hard question Yaya asks at the end and be honest with your answer. Share it with a woman in your life who has been going quiet for too long.

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