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Cristina Shy is an activist fighting for the rights of ALL consenting adults to share love, sex, relationship, residence and marriage, regardless of race, religion, sexual orientation, number of participants and whether or not they are related. Cristina’s activism is focused on Genetic Sexual Attraction and consanguinamory, and she joins NOL to explain why it’s important for people to know that not all incestuous relationships are abusive. In fact, many are completely consensual, loving and intensely special, as a result of what she explains further in the episode as the “double love bond”.

This is the first episode of two personal cases of consensual incest. Both episodes will shine the light on the flip side of Dr. Wish’s discussion, which zeroed in on non-consensual incest, specifically early childhood sexual abuse and the long-term effects of this trauma on adults.

Cristina, whose name and voice has been changed to protect her identity, tells her story of meeting her half-brother for the first time when she was 33, how she discovered GSA and was relieved to find that she was not alone, and why she is now one of the leaders of the movement of consanguinamorous people fighting to change the incest laws and gain the right to be in a relationship, have sex with, live with, and marry a relative. She also dispels the “Mutant Baby Myth”.

While she does not claim to be a professional counselor or lawyer, Cristina offers confidential one-on-one assistance to anyone experiencing GSA or consanguinamory who needs support, particularly when it comes to adoptions and reuniting with biological family members, or the legal issues associated with being consensual adults in an incestuous relationship.

To connect with Cristina and her consang-positive community, go to her website www.lilysgardener.com, visit her blog at cristinashy.tumblr.com or email her at [email protected].  You can also join her Kindred Spirits forum ks2016.forumactif.fr

In the next episode as part of this series, you will hear another leader of the consanguinamorous movement, Jane Doe, as she describes her consensual incestuous relationship with her dad as a result of a lack of the Westermarck effect.  She will discuss incestophobia and their community's cry for acceptance, how porn is fetishizing her people and why the fetishists are NOT the same as consanguinamorous couples, and much more.

Dr. LeslieBeth Wish joins NOL to share important information about incest and to provide resources for incest survivors.

Dr. Wish earned her Doctorate in Adult Developmental Psychology from the University of Massachusetts-Amherst. She also earned a masters degree in Clinical Social Work and Management from Bryn Mawr College, and a masters degree in English Literature from Ohio University. Her three-year post-graduate training in Family and Marital Systems is from Georgetown University’s Family Center, under the esteemed Dr. Murray Bowen. She earned her undergraduate degree in both History and English from Carnegie-Mellon University. She lived and studied family and childcare practices in Moscow, Russia, during the Soviet Communist years.

Her work as the Clinical Director of the New England Institute of Family Relations, the first sexual dysfunction clinic in New England, and her research-based book, Incest, Work and Women, earned her national esteem as a pioneer in sexual dysfunction and women's love and career issues.

She is quoted widely in national magazines such as Shape and Self, and websites such as www.bustle.com. She appears regularly on This Week in America and is a feature writer for www.digitalromanceinc.com and www.personalgrowth.com.

Her website www.lovevictory.com has been named as one of the top 101 websites to watch.

We discuss:

1. The prevalence of sexual abuse

2. Why people don’t report it

3. Why parents often stay in denial about it

4. Why sexual abuse in families starts

5. Why sibling sexual play is often discounted

6. What Genetic Sexual Attraction is

7. Signs that a child might be being abused

8. Long-term effects of early abuse that show up in adulthood, e.g. drug or alcohol abuse, self-injury or suicide attempts, gambling, overeating, fear of emotional intimacy, career issues and more

9. When relatives say it’s consensual

10. How Dr. Wish works with her patients to work through the trauma by developing emotional bravery and use their intuition

11. How to work through trauma when you have to see and interact with the person who abused you often, as part of family activities

12. Visit APA.org for a therapist if you are seeking help in your area or contact Dr. Wish via her website www.lovevictory.com.

And last but not least, here are the links for her two books:

Smart Relationships: How Successful Women Can Find True Love

The Love Adventures of Almost Smart Cookie

 

Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting the wrong types of people or just can’t seem to keep the sexual spark alive in your long-term relationship or marriage? Well, maybe the answer is in sexual polarity. When I reached out to David Deida’s office seeking a sexual polarity expert, I was thrilled to hear from Londin Angel Winters and to experience her personal passion for the topic. In this episode, her life partner, Justin Patrick Pierce joins her to share the art and science of attracting the right partner and creating the relationship of your dreams.

Londin and Justin are intimate partners, business partners, and co-teachers of an experience they created, called the Yoga of Intimacy. Each with a professional background in exercise science, and trained in the esoteric art of sexual yoga, Londin & Justin offer a unique perspective that unites the science of the body with the mindfulness of deep, spiritual practice. They facilitate workshops and teach clients from around the world in the art of sacred loving. Their mission is to help each and every person to realize their deepest purpose and claim a life of unbounded love. Workshop dates and information can be found at www.LondinAngelWinters.com. The “flow” of our talk:

1. How Londin and Justin met and why their 14-year age difference means nothing because of the intimacy/yoga sexual practice they have together

2. What polarity is and why it’s so powerful

3. Examples of both feminine and masculine behaviors and how we all carry both energies in us

4. Why “friend zone” happens

5. How to discover your core essence through examination of your purpose and also how you feel about love and connection

6. Londin teaches us the concept of “energetic agility”, or moving back and forth easily between the feminine and masculine and how to “polarize the moment”

7. Simple, quick things you can do to fall into your feminine or masculine energy

8. Justin explains the three stages of masculine sexuality

9. The behavior of a man who is a “flowster”

10. Things a man can do to get his woman out of her masculine and back into her feminine, or to polarize her

11. Why it’s important to use this knowledge in a loving, spiritual way

12. For the ladies - how to attract a man who will truly claim you and inspire his masculinity

13. All about Yoga of Intimacy and what it entails

14. Why it’s scary work and why it’s not for everyone…BUT how awesome it can be when you have the right person to be vulnerable with

15. Upcoming events that Londin and Justin are offering

As always, please visit the www.ladyfoxentertainment.com/resourcespartners page for even more intimacy, love and sexual health products and services just for NOL listeners!

Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting the wrong types of people or just can’t seem to keep the sexual spark alive in your long-term relationship or marriage? Well, maybe the answer is in sexual polarity. When I reached out to David Deida’s office seeking a sexual polarity expert, I was thrilled to hear from Londin Angel Winters and to experience her personal passion for the topic. In this episode, her life partner, Justin Patrick Pierce joins her to share the art and science of attracting the right partner and creating the relationship of your dreams.

Londin and Justin are intimate partners, business partners, and co-teachers of an experience they created, called the Yoga of Intimacy. Each with a professional background in exercise science, and trained in the esoteric art of sexual yoga, Londin & Justin offer a unique perspective that unites the science of the body with the mindfulness of deep, spiritual practice. They facilitate workshops and teach clients from around the world in the art of sacred loving. Their mission is to help each and every person to realize their deepest purpose and claim a life of unbounded love. Workshop dates and information can be found at www.LondinAngelWinters.com. The “flow” of our talk:

1. How Londin and Justin met and why their 14-year age difference means nothing because of the intimacy/yoga sexual practice they have together

2. What polarity is and why it’s so powerful

3. Examples of both feminine and masculine behaviors and how we all carry both energies in us

4. Why “friend zone” happens

5. How to discover your core essence through examination of your purpose and also how you feel about love and connection

6. Londin teaches us the concept of “energetic agility”, or moving back and forth easily between the feminine and masculine and how to “polarize the moment”

7. Simple, quick things you can do to fall into your feminine or masculine energy

8. Justin explains the three stages of masculine sexuality

9. The behavior of a man who is a “flowster”

10. Things a man can do to get his woman out of her masculine and back into her feminine, or to polarize her

11. Why it’s important to use this knowledge in a loving, spiritual way

12. For the ladies - how to attract a man who will truly claim you and inspire his masculinity

13. All about Yoga of Intimacy and what it entails

14. Why it’s scary work and why it’s not for everyone…BUT how awesome it can be when you have the right person to be vulnerable with

15. Upcoming events that Londin and Justin are offering

As always, please visit the www.ladyfoxentertainment.com/resourcespartners page for even more intimacy, love and sexual health products and services just for NOL listeners!

Heather Ann Havenwood joins NOL this week to talk about the misconceptions that guys have about girls, and how they can better choose who to date. Although this one is tailored to the boys, women will definitely benefit by listening as well!

Heather is a serial entrepreneur and is a nationally known dating, seduction and attraction expert.  She's helped thousands of men over the age 35 discover the absolute truth about women, and how to attract the women of their dreams, no matter their age, weight or income.

Heather Ann currently is the Author of…Sexy Boss: How the empowerment of women is changing the Rule Book for sex, money and success and The Game of Dating and How to Play it: A rule book for divorced men stepping back into the game.

Visit her websites at heatherhavenwood.com, datingtriggers.com (warning, Daddys - it’s edgy) or justdateyoungerwomen.com (same)

We discuss:

1. How Heather got into coaching men about their dating lives

2. How to tell the difference between “crazy” women (normal) vs. “psychos” (not)

3. Understanding the power of a woman - she can build you up or tear you down

4. What men should consider in choosing a woman

5. A good set of questions to ask yourself as a “test” (best asked about an ex to get practice) Example: Does she give up her life or maintain her own life while being with you?

6. The best way to break up with someone

7. Our joint opinion on staying connected to an ex on social media

8. Creating good boundaries on whether or not you have an open relationship and what that means

9. Tips on dating post-divorce

In-episode ad mention:

Go to ladyfoxentertainment.com/resourcespartners and check out an advanced testosterone booster supplement I’m peddling on there. It’s in the Health Products & Services We Dig section, and it’s called Spartagen XT, which can also be found at spnol.com

Heather Ann Havenwood joins NOL this week to talk about the misconceptions that guys have about girls, and how they can better choose who to date. Although this one is tailored to the boys, women will definitely benefit by listening as well!

Heather is a serial entrepreneur and is a nationally known dating, seduction and attraction expert.  She's helped thousands of men over the age 35 discover the absolute truth about women, and how to attract the women of their dreams, no matter their age, weight or income.

Heather Ann currently is the Author of…Sexy Boss: How the empowerment of women is changing the Rule Book for sex, money and success and The Game of Dating and How to Play it: A rule book for divorced men stepping back into the game.

Visit her websites at heatherhavenwood.com, datingtriggers.com (warning, Daddys - it’s edgy) or justdateyoungerwomen.com (same)

We discuss:

1. How Heather got into coaching men about their dating lives

2. How to tell the difference between “crazy” women (normal) vs. “psychos” (not)

3. Understanding the power of a woman - she can build you up or tear you down

4. What men should consider in choosing a woman

5. A good set of questions to ask yourself as a “test” (best asked about an ex to get practice) Example: Does she give up her life or maintain her own life while being with you?

6. The best way to break up with someone

7. Our joint opinion on staying connected to an ex on social media

8. Creating good boundaries on whether or not you have an open relationship and what that means

9. Tips on dating post-divorce

In-episode ad mention:

Go to ladyfoxentertainment.com/resourcespartners and check out an advanced testosterone booster supplement I’m peddling on there. It’s in the Health Products & Services We Dig section, and it’s called Spartagen XT, which can also be found at spnol.com

Christine Baumgartner, Dating and Relationship Expert and owner of The Perfect Catch, joins NOL to share tips on how to find a great life partner! She is a delight to listen to, and she’s really passionate about her work. You’ll really hear this come through as she tells her own story of finding love. Christine works with singles who are ready to do the work to stop past patterns and truly transform their love lives! Her clients say that working with Christine helped them attract the committed relationship they were looking for.

Her 8-week “Transform Your Dating Life” system will help you:

1. Clarify what you want and need from a partner so you’ll begin choosing dates you’ll enjoy going out with,

2. Finally feel comfortable and confident in your dating relationships, and

3. Learn what’s been keeping you from attracting the right type of man or woman, so you’ll stop wasting your time going out with the wrong types of people.

NOL listeners are being generously offered a free consult with Christine. Go to www.theperfectcatch.com to contact her there. Be sure to mention that you heard her on NOL!

(Please excuse my constant cackling in this episode.  I was in a particularly chuckle-y mood when we recorded that day and decided not to edit my outbursts.)

As a nod to the Valentine’s Day holiday, we’re going to talk about – you guessed it – relationships. We take a unique approach, however, and we discuss how movies – yes, movies - can actually teach us valuable lessons about love, romance & sex. Whether you are married or single and dating, today our guest will help reveal how to keep the love you have or find the love you want.

Leslie C. Halpern is an award-winning poet, essayist, book reviewer, movie reviewer, and entertainment journalist. She wrote the nonfiction books 200 Love Lessons from the Movies (2016), Passionate About Their Work (2010), Reel Romance: The Lovers’ Guide to the 100 Best Date Movies (2004) and Dreams on Film (2003), plus the “Funny Children’s Poems” book series.

An entertainment journalist since 1984, she worked 13 years as a stringer for The Hollywood Reporter, 5 years as film correspondent for the Orlando Sentinel, and 7 years as indie film columnist for Markee Magazine. More than 4,000 of her articles have appeared in publications including Variety, True Romance, Fitness, Storytelling, Just For Laughs, Bluegrass Unlimited, Salt Lake Tribune, and South Florida Sun-Sentinel. Leslie has won numerous awards for her writing, including two national awards for essays and several international prizes for poetry and has appeared on many radio and television shows, including TV Ontario’s Saturday Night at the Movies, Canada’s longest-running television program. She currently reviews books for several online magazines, and reviews movies for“Seen It, Done It, Reviewed It: The Blog”, which you can find on her website at www.lesliehalpern.com.

What we cover:

1. What inspired Leslie to write the book 200 Love Lessons from the Movies

2. Why most movies have a kernel of truth that we can use for our daily lives

3. Why the book is best for people who are in the mindset/ready to work on their relationships

4. How her personal life played a role in choosing the movies and the lessons in them

5. How the Love Languages are included in the book

6. How the lessons in the book can give you ideas on how to navigate your real-life love life

7. Examples of a few lessons from movies including “Love Actually”, “Up In the Air” and “The Hangover”

8. How the book helps you self-reflect on how you approach your relationships and how to shift that

9. Leslie’s advice for singles on Valentine’s Day

 

Christine Baumgartner, Dating and Relationship Expert and owner of The Perfect Catch, joins NOL to share tips on how to find a great life partner! She is a delight to listen to, and she’s really passionate about her work. You’ll really hear this come through as she tells her own story of finding love. Christine works with singles who are ready to do the work to stop past patterns and truly transform their love lives! Her clients say that working with Christine helped them attract the committed relationship they were looking for.

Her 8-week “Transform Your Dating Life” system will help you:

1. Clarify what you want and need from a partner so you’ll begin choosing dates you’ll enjoy going out with,

2. Finally feel comfortable and confident in your dating relationships, and

3. Learn what’s been keeping you from attracting the right type of man or woman, so you’ll stop wasting your time going out with the wrong types of people.

NOL listeners are being generously offered a free consult with Christine. Go to www.theperfectcatch.com to contact her there. Be sure to mention that you heard her on NOL!

(Please excuse my constant cackling in this episode.  I was in a particularly chuckle-y mood when we recorded that day and decided not to edit my outbursts.)

As a nod to the Valentine’s Day holiday, we’re going to talk about – you guessed it – relationships. We take a unique approach, however, and we discuss how movies – yes, movies - can actually teach us valuable lessons about love, romance & sex. Whether you are married or single and dating, today our guest will help reveal how to keep the love you have or find the love you want.

Leslie C. Halpern is an award-winning poet, essayist, book reviewer, movie reviewer, and entertainment journalist. She wrote the nonfiction books 200 Love Lessons from the Movies (2016), Passionate About Their Work (2010), Reel Romance: The Lovers’ Guide to the 100 Best Date Movies (2004) and Dreams on Film (2003), plus the “Funny Children’s Poems” book series.

An entertainment journalist since 1984, she worked 13 years as a stringer for The Hollywood Reporter, 5 years as film correspondent for the Orlando Sentinel, and 7 years as indie film columnist for Markee Magazine. More than 4,000 of her articles have appeared in publications including Variety, True Romance, Fitness, Storytelling, Just For Laughs, Bluegrass Unlimited, Salt Lake Tribune, and South Florida Sun-Sentinel. Leslie has won numerous awards for her writing, including two national awards for essays and several international prizes for poetry and has appeared on many radio and television shows, including TV Ontario’s Saturday Night at the Movies, Canada’s longest-running television program. She currently reviews books for several online magazines, and reviews movies for“Seen It, Done It, Reviewed It: The Blog”, which you can find on her website at www.lesliehalpern.com.

What we cover:

1. What inspired Leslie to write the book 200 Love Lessons from the Movies

2. Why most movies have a kernel of truth that we can use for our daily lives

3. Why the book is best for people who are in the mindset/ready to work on their relationships

4. How her personal life played a role in choosing the movies and the lessons in them

5. How the Love Languages are included in the book

6. How the lessons in the book can give you ideas on how to navigate your real-life love life

7. Examples of a few lessons from movies including “Love Actually”, “Up In the Air” and “The Hangover”

8. How the book helps you self-reflect on how you approach your relationships and how to shift that

9. Leslie’s advice for singles on Valentine’s Day